How can i become a better 'Bottom'

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    Apr 11, 2008 4:34 AM GMT
    as the title says 'how can i become a better bottom'
    I am usually the top but i really want to get more into the bottom role. I know lotsa guys that love it so any advice on how i can be more relaxed taking a dick and also how can i be a great reciever. Any advice on any tricks i can perfect with my butt to really please the top guy.
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    Apr 11, 2008 3:12 PM GMT
    Well, the thing you should mostly care about is how to make YOURSELF feel better. Things should go very slowly in the beginning, cause you might hurt yourself or if he is too rapid he could cause a vacuum reaction and things might get ugly :p
    For your first time, choose a partner with a not so big dick... and don't expect miracles from your first time icon_smile.gif
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    Apr 11, 2008 4:43 PM GMT
    You may want to use a dildo first to practice relaxation techniques. Start with a smaller dildo then work your way up. Also fingers (with the nails cut!) can be a good practice. Use lots of lube though.
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    Apr 11, 2008 5:29 PM GMT
    Toys are a fun and no stress way to start off. A good one to start off with is this one. You don't have to get the pink one by the way.

    It isn't too wide or long. It is made out of silicone so the material is very pliable (less likely hurt than rubber). And the curve of it will smack right into your prostate, which is where the fun happens.

    Oh, and get yourself some good lube. Oil is fine if you are just using it yourself. Condom friendly H2O if with a friend. But no silicone base, as it will ruin the toy.

    Have fun and be sure to report back with pictures.
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    Apr 12, 2008 3:58 AM GMT
    MunchingZombie said
    Have fun and be sure to report back with pictures.

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    Apr 12, 2008 7:28 AM GMT
    Remember to push back.
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    Apr 13, 2008 7:46 AM GMT
    Don't be a better bottom, be a POWER BOTTOM! Work that booty! Practice kegels so you can milk it while you work it. Swing those hips and leave em breathless.
  • GQjock

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    Apr 13, 2008 11:56 AM GMT
    Pick a better top icon_wink.gif
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    Apr 14, 2008 5:24 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]MunchingZombie said[/cite]Toys are a fun and no stress way to start off. A good one to start off with is this one. You don't have to get the pink one by the way.

    It isn't too wide or long. It is made out of silicone so the material is very pliable (less likely hurt than rubber). And the curve of it will smack right into your prostate, which is where the fun happens.

    Oh, and get yourself some good lube. Oil is fine if you are just using it yourself. Condom friendly H2O if with a friend. But no silicone base, as it will ruin the toy.

    Have fun and be sure to report back with pictures.[/quot
    ok will do mate
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    Apr 14, 2008 5:27 AM GMT
    This is a perfect question - I'm sure lots of us are interested in the responses.

    I thought it is good to clench the butt and try to hold him in, and swing a little against him.. is that a good thing to do?
  • Hagan_F

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    Apr 15, 2008 2:24 AM GMT
    PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE!! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 17, 2008 1:00 AM GMT
    The big thing is to R E L A X! A topman friend of mine tells me that alot of the dudes he meets want it really bad but they can't let themselves go or give up control enough to really enjoy being fucked. A lot of uptight bottoms out there he says. Of course, if you saw the size of this dude's cock you'd know why they're so uptight, he's like OMGAWWWD huge. L O L :>)
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    Apr 20, 2008 12:59 AM GMT
    this subject is of interest to me....my boyfriend likes to be the bottom when we are together, but also likes to top me sometimes. mostly a top, i would like to learn more about how to pleasure my man, and find deeper pleasure for myself, as well. Already tight, I have been clenching and releasing my anal muscles, in hope of 'toning and conditioning' back there. I have no problem with relaxation, and he is very slow and patient upon entering. Guess it will just take more practice, practice, practice, as mentioned earlier...and i certainly have NO problem with THAT!

    But as the original post....would appreciate any and all suggestions to make bottoming as sensual and rewarding as humanly possible for both of us....
  • vindog

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    Apr 20, 2008 1:46 AM GMT
    ICANTAKEIT saidThe big thing is to R E L A X! A topman friend of mine tells me that alot of the dudes he meets want it really bad but they can't let themselves go or give up control enough to really enjoy being fucked. A lot of uptight bottoms out there he says. Of course, if you saw the size of this dude's cock you'd know why they're so uptight, he's like OMGAWWWD huge. L O L :>)


    I don't mind giving up control, but need a guy at least as masculine as me to take it.

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    Apr 21, 2008 9:46 AM GMT
    after i started using toys a friend gave me it got a lot easier. worked up to bigger n thicker n got to the point that taking big dicks was easy n fun. u can et ur ass to the point where it'll open right up n take any dick u want.
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    Apr 21, 2008 1:04 PM GMT
    You'll be a great bottom because you have experience as a top.

    Foreplay is the key to a great fuck. So don't let the top do all the work.

    Guys here have already given some great advice. Just make it safe, hot and fuckin fun.
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    Apr 21, 2008 1:46 PM GMT
    Nice topic. I like both top and bottom roles, so some advice is appreciated
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    Apr 21, 2008 6:32 PM GMT
    I have posted on a similar thread to this several months ago. So, I went back and copied some of what I put on that thread that I thought applicable to this one. Here it is:

    I want the bottom to enjoy it and if he is it makes me even harder. I also like the bottom to be an active partner. It is a turn-off to have a guy just lie there like a dead piece of meat especially if we are doing it doggie style, therefore, I can’t see his eyes. By active I mean for the bottom to do part of the fucking. The best fuck I have ever had was from a guy who moved his hips in such a way that he was fucking my dick with his ass.

    If you like really big guys then by all means use your toys to adjust yourself but realize that if you go one night with a guy who is less than a foot you might be a loose fuck and that can be a turn-off for the top. There are not that many things in sex that are a bigger disappointment than a sloppy fuck. Also, if your going to use toys, than be sure to keep them clean so you don’t inject yourself with a bacteria that is unfriendly towards your normal flora. Speaking of being clean it is always better for me if I don’t get poop in my pupes. My husband almost always uses a douche when he thinks I am going to be interested. However, forget it if it messes with the spontaneity.
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    Apr 21, 2008 6:42 PM GMT
    You might want to experiment with positions on your own with toys to see what works best for you (for example, "doggy style" is the deepest penetration and can hurt the most while on the side, one of the more relaxed ones). Also give your ass lots for foreplay before putting anything substantial in there.

    In theory, anybody can be a good bottom if they're with a good top, and vice versa.
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    Jul 15, 2008 5:37 PM GMT
    The best tops usually have been the best bottoms at some point. I won't claim to be either, but certainly enjoy both.

    I think the key to enjoying being on the bottom is to surrender control and let him be in charge. My partner is smaller (in body size), and while he usually prefers being on the bottom, he gets off on controlling a muscle guy.

    I find equal pleasure in fucking and or being fucked.

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    Jul 16, 2008 3:21 AM GMT
    yogihound saidas the title says 'how can i become a better bottom'
    I am usually the top but i really want to get more into the bottom role. I know lotsa guys that love it so any advice on how i can be more relaxed taking a dick and also how can i be a great reciever. Any advice on any tricks i can perfect with my butt to really please the top guy.


    Well it I debated putting this out there for a while..

    I'm putting my hand up if you are ever in sydney I'd be happy to help!!! icon_eek.gif

    K, that was completely tacky of me!
    I'm gonna go shower and try and make my self clean again!
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    Jul 23, 2008 7:05 PM GMT
    Patience and understanding go along way with a top. After all they have to get it up and keep it up. My current BF has a high stress job, when we're together, sometimes some aspect of his job creeps into his mind and that big hard monster of his gets soft and falls out. Then he's even more stressed because he wants to please me and that just makes it even worse for him.
    So we just lay together and talk and cuddle and kiss and eventually, he works it out and gets hard again and we get back to it, and it's divine. So cut your top some slack.

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    Mar 26, 2010 3:18 AM GMT
    Prior to my ex I had always been a top, only slightly curious about being a bottom. I started off with a dildo that my ex got me. It took a couple of times to get fully relaxed, I used lots of lube and after a while needed something else! After I got used to taking his dick, I would let him control me and do what he wanted.
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    Jun 11, 2010 5:51 PM GMT
    Pracitce does make perfect. Don't be discouraged if you can't take it the first time. It took me about 5 times to be completely relaxed and before I got the nerves to have a real cock inside me. But it was well worth it ... icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 20, 2012 2:19 AM GMT
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    Zombie thread!