Any advice or even strategy to keep from having anonymous sex?

  • ChicagoCarl

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    May 28, 2011 1:14 PM GMT
    I know the underlying reasons of why it occurs (for me at least), such as needing validation because I am not feeling good about myself, alcohol, or even just super horny.

    I am realizing in recent years through bettering my mind, self, and body and that I am worth more (and worthy of a healthy relationship), but the monkey on my back appears every now and then.

    I want to know if anyone has any tricks or strategies to keep from relapsing when I get "in the mood?"
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    May 29, 2011 12:34 AM GMT
    You know...it's not all about worth though. I mean we're all worth more than a quick fling but thing is at that moment in time you want to do something with someone.

    Now, I don't know what the definition of anonymous sex you're talking about...but I at least prefer to know the basics about a person before jumping into with them.

    If you are having a hard time with it, stop going online to gay oriented websites. Don't go to gay bars or clubs and just stick with neutral things. If you want to go a less drastic route and still mingle, jerk off before you go online or go out. That's what my X used to do and we went 4 months before having sex LOL

    I personally don't see anything much wrong with an occasionally hookup as long as no one is leading anyone on to make them think it's going to be more than what it is. Problem is, that doesn't usually happen.
  • irishcream

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    Jun 05, 2011 8:05 AM GMT
    mastubation may be the only sane option for some

    but the real thing aint no subsitute for the real thing unless you managed to get the Tenga sex toys to help you out

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    Jun 05, 2011 11:20 AM GMT
    ChicagoCarl saidI know the underlying reasons of why it occurs (for me at least), such as needing validation because I am not feeling good about myself, alcohol, or even just super horny.

    I am realizing in recent years through bettering my mind, self, and body and that I am worth more (and worthy of a healthy relationship), but the monkey on my back appears every now and then.

    I want to know if anyone has any tricks or strategies to keep from relapsing when I get "in the mood?"


    Well do you find that even now after all your self-image adjustments that you still want to do it when you are not feeling good about yourself?

    External validation isn't always bad. It keeps a lot of us in-check but your solution would be finding something to internally validate yourself as a good person without needing to have sex.

    Practically speaking, the next time it happens just distract yourself with something not involving anonymous sex icon_razz.gif (Call a friend, go out to eat, go to a movie etc.,)