Simon78928 saidHolding hands....ok
Totally making out....not even ok w straight ppl doing that.
That's my own standard, as well. Gay & straight should be the same regarding PDAs, and in US culture you can show a limited amount of public affection, but not unbridled passion.
Of course in the more uptight, homophobic parts of the US even holding hands between gay men will get you in trouble. Fortunately I live where that's not the case, and mostly travel to places that aren't a problem for gays, either.
I remember in 1997 I went with a guy to the gay section of nude Haulover Beach, north of Miami Beach. We were lying naked, side-by-side on the beach blanket on our stomachs, when a fully-clothed spanish-speaking family came and sat right next to us in the sand. A father, mother, and 3 school-age children, which made me wonder why, since there's a non-clothing optional section at Haulover, too.
This guy and I held hands, and started to kiss a little, just little pecks, nothing really passionate. One of the kids noticed, and started yelling "¡Mire! ¡Mire!" (Look! Look!). The parents then started cursing us out.
But this guy I was dating could speak Spanish, and understood the insults they were hurling at us (disgusting, perverted, etc). He replied back to them in Spanish that if they didn't like us doing something perfectly legal then they should move to another part of the beach, since we were here first. And they did! Though why they found the sight of little kisses worse for their kids than our bare butts, or the dicks & balls flopping at the nearby volleyball game, is beyond me.