Are you pro or anti PDA?

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    May 28, 2011 1:30 PM GMT
    hey guys! Happy memorial day weekend! What are your thoughts on PDA (public displays of affection)? Are you a fan or not a fan? I personally would rather do everything in private, but that's just me.

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    May 28, 2011 1:34 PM GMT
    I'm all for it.
    Don't forget, many cultures hug and kiss just the same as American's shake hands.
    I believe you're confusing PDA with sexual touching, which yes, I do prefer to do privately.
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    May 28, 2011 8:22 PM GMT
    not in love with PDA although i can be coerced
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    May 28, 2011 8:26 PM GMT
    Holding hands....ok
    Simple Kiss....ok
    Totally making out....not even ok w straight ppl doing that.
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    May 31, 2011 1:22 AM GMT
    It makes me uncomfortable because I'm a bit insecure about being a faggot, but I don't see an issue when others do it.
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    May 31, 2011 3:18 PM GMT
    I don't mind the PDA thing at all... I do it within reason, when it feels right I'll do it. I'll do it just enough and unsuspectingly to not gross people out icon_smile.gif
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    May 31, 2011 3:42 PM GMT
    Simon78928 saidHolding hands....ok
    Simple Kiss....ok
    Totally making out....not even ok w straight ppl doing that.

    That's my own standard, as well. Gay & straight should be the same regarding PDAs, and in US culture you can show a limited amount of public affection, but not unbridled passion.

    Of course in the more uptight, homophobic parts of the US even holding hands between gay men will get you in trouble. Fortunately I live where that's not the case, and mostly travel to places that aren't a problem for gays, either.

    I remember in 1997 I went with a guy to the gay section of nude Haulover Beach, north of Miami Beach. We were lying naked, side-by-side on the beach blanket on our stomachs, when a fully-clothed spanish-speaking family came and sat right next to us in the sand. A father, mother, and 3 school-age children, which made me wonder why, since there's a non-clothing optional section at Haulover, too.

    This guy and I held hands, and started to kiss a little, just little pecks, nothing really passionate. One of the kids noticed, and started yelling "¡Mire! ¡Mire!" (Look! Look!). The parents then started cursing us out.

    But this guy I was dating could speak Spanish, and understood the insults they were hurling at us (disgusting, perverted, etc). He replied back to them in Spanish that if they didn't like us doing something perfectly legal then they should move to another part of the beach, since we were here first. And they did! Though why they found the sight of little kisses worse for their kids than our bare butts, or the dicks & balls flopping at the nearby volleyball game, is beyond me.
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    May 31, 2011 3:55 PM GMT
    Simon78928 saidHolding hands....ok
    Simple Kiss....ok
    Totally making out....not even ok w straight ppl doing that.


    +1
  • Spiritreaver

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    May 31, 2011 3:57 PM GMT
    Like others have said, I'm fine with anything but making out. I am way over the whole "careful" thing. It kind of amuses me whenever I'm seeing a guy and we get intimate in public, and he literally jumps at the sight of any other person. I'm just over it, if someone has a problem they can deal with it (or me).
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    May 31, 2011 4:18 PM GMT
    It kind of depends on the situation and the setting, and that applies to both gay and heterosexual. Two people heavily making out in public is kind of just tacky. It also sort of has to do with the location you're in. For instance, 2 gay guys walking down the street in West Hollywood or NYC holding hands isn't probably going to even get noticed. Two gay guys walking down Main Street in say Mobile, Alabama might not be met with the same reaction.
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    May 31, 2011 4:34 PM GMT
    Something always bugs me about PDA, gay or straight. You know you're in public, thus you know you're being watched. Your display isn't for your BFF, it's for the audience. Akin to pissing on a hydrant; "This is my bitch...y'all can suck it while I show y'all how much I just fucking LOOOOOOVE her."
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    May 31, 2011 6:07 PM GMT
    Simon78928 saidHolding hands....ok
    Simple Kiss....ok
    Totally making out....not even ok w straight ppl doing that.


    Perfect answer.
  • HndsmKansan

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    May 31, 2011 6:09 PM GMT
    I kind of agree with the above. Simple expressions are great, major makeout is a little much (same with a straight couple)
  • eddieross69

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    May 31, 2011 6:13 PM GMT
    Got no problem with PDAs of affection (a hug, a kiss, holding hands, arm around each other), just not major snogging sessions.

    My date and I kissed and hugged several times throughout our date yesterday. Didn't think twice about it.
  • Poolboy44

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    May 31, 2011 6:23 PM GMT
    I'm fairly sure my view has been shifted due to the effect of repeated extreme exposure...

    I've been in Spain for the past 5 months and they have no problem with PDA here. They'll get it on on a bench, on the grass in the park, in a restaurant, right next to you when they walk up to the edge of the sidewalk waiting for the light to change and being so close you feel like you're part of it. Although, strangely enough, if you go to a club people actually dance and if anyone grinds or makes out or gets too close, everyone gets all weird about it.

    I had my spanish teacher say that she thought the grinding in clubs was worse than people's making out and dry humping everyone in public. Just go to show you how much of a culture shock can happen.

    One time I was walking down the street to a bar to meets some friends and a couple 2 blocks up stopped, turned kissed, started making out... by the time I walked by them he was lifting the skirt up a little... I mean I'm fine with the kissing now, and the making out in public doesn't phase me unless it's on top of me; but, seriously? No sex in public please. Keep that in the bedroom... or the couch... kitchen table if you're feeling frisky but I don't want to see that. Haha.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    May 31, 2011 6:27 PM GMT
    I don't mind holding hands and hugging or quick kisses but anything more than that. Please get a room.
  • Kinneticbrian

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    May 31, 2011 6:37 PM GMT
    I'm very comfortable with PDA and in fact, won't date someone that will not at least hold hands in public. I'm not judging those who won't; rather I am saying that I am not ashamed of being gay and not going to let narrow minded bigotry drive my behavior. Too many people have sacrificed too much to allow that.

    That being said I will also kiss a boyfriend in public but I am not going to stand there and make out with him. It comes down to common sense and being respectful of others in that case.

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    May 31, 2011 7:09 PM GMT
    LakeviewBrian saidI'm very comfortable with PDA and in fact, won't date someone that will not at least hold hands in public. I'm not judging those who won't; rather I am saying that I am not ashamed of being gay and not going to let narrow minded bigotry drive my behavior. Too many people have sacrificed too much to allow that.

    That being said I will also kiss a boyfriend in public but I am not going to stand there and make out with him. It comes down to common sense and being respectful of others in that case.



    I agree completely. Timely subject too, since it was just last month that two men were ejected from a (straight) pub in (mostly gay) Soho, London for kissing each other goodbye.

    John Snow Shuts Again As Gay Kiss Storm Lingers On


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    May 31, 2011 7:15 PM GMT
    Are we talking, in the Jefferson Memorial or just anywhere?
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    May 31, 2011 7:50 PM GMT
    All depends where we are. We are very comfortable with PDAs, but know where and when it works. For sure out with friends at straight or gay bars, while playing beach volleyball is cool after an amazing point! Hesitant in certain foreign countries we've been too and at events where it would seem disrespectful for anyone to display them.

    Depends on how far these PDAs are going too. Holding hands, hugs, simply kisses for sure. Full on make-out sessions with moderate foreplay... only when we need to make people feel uncomfortable icon_twisted.gif And Bjs in public... well only once and that's a totally different story and we had to beat the competition!
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    May 31, 2011 7:57 PM GMT
    as long as there's no dry humping, i'm all for it. when there's alcohol involved, all rules are broken. balls out. icon_cool.gif
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    May 31, 2011 8:04 PM GMT
    Pro PDA. It's a great way to expose people to homosexuality without them thinking you're a stereotype. In other words, if I hug or kiss or hold hands with a guy I don't have to be feminine about it. This way people can say "oh shit those two gays are butcher than me!" Other than that I love PDA because I like showing off whom I'm with! When I met a hot guy in Tel Aviv we just made out in line at the airport for like 10 minutes while everyone walked by.
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    May 31, 2011 8:06 PM GMT
    Simon78928 saidHolding hands....ok
    Simple Kiss....ok
    Totally making out....not even ok w straight ppl doing that.


    this ^
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    May 31, 2011 9:12 PM GMT
    JB82 saidPro PDA. It's a great way to expose people to homosexuality without them thinking you're a stereotype. In other words, if I hug or kiss or hold hands with a guy I don't have to be feminine about it. This way people can say "oh shit those two gays are butcher than me!" Other than that I love PDA because I like showing off whom I'm with! When I met a hot guy in Tel Aviv we just made out in line at the airport for like 10 minutes while everyone walked by.


    When homophobes see two gay guys kiss, they're not going stop and say, "Now why don't you look at that! two masculine Gays kissing". I honestly don't know what makes you think they are.They could careless if your masculine or feminine. You're still a Fag to them.

    Anyways. I'm Okay with Hugging,holding hands and such. But playing tongue hockey in front of people is just trashy and classless,Straight or Gay.
  • calibro

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    May 31, 2011 9:14 PM GMT
    hmm.... i haven't been to portland in a while so can't say... but anti-hipster for shizzy