I would love to say and think that real jock is going to deliver me to some amazing guy...

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    May 29, 2011 2:00 PM GMT
    but the difference is it will just be in the form of a chat and not the real thing. icon_sad.gif
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    May 29, 2011 2:11 PM GMT
    Keep believing, it could happen.
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    May 29, 2011 2:15 PM GMT
    ive come to such realizations as well
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    May 29, 2011 2:19 PM GMT
    GVJoe90 saidbut the difference is it will just be in the form of a chat and not the real thing. icon_sad.gif

    I find online chat is a great way to really know what's going on inside a guy's head, more than I might learn from a casual meeting somewhere, or through a bar pick-up. It takes time, of course, but over a few months of regular online exchanges a guy's real self will come out, at least to me. I felt confident enough to initially approach my late and current partners that way, and I wasn't proven wrong with them.

    In fact, I find it preferable, since my first impressions of him are therefore intellectual, rather than physical. And in my case, it's personality, compatibility & intellect that attracts me and will keep us together, not physical attraction alone.

    But that kind of online selection skill is almost an art form, and can be tricky, especially at first. And I wouldn't put all my eggs in the RJ basket, either, much as I like this site. RJ isn't really for dating and meeting guys, though it can certainly work that way in some cases. You might look into other gay online social sites, as well, increase your odds, being aware, however, that places like manhunt are more about hook-ups & quick scores and not about lasting relationships.

    And honestly, being partnered I no longer keep current with those things. Back in the day, AOL's gay chat rooms weren't bad, but I wouldn't recommend them today. Perhaps others here know some quality social sites to recommend. But do stay with RJ, a great site in its own right.