"I Go With The Flow" That Leads Nowhere?

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    May 30, 2011 5:32 AM GMT
    So.... If there's anything I can't stand when dating, it's the response to the question "What are you looking for? What do you want to do?"

    It usually goes something like this: "Oh, I just go with the flow. If it happens it happens, you know? I've got no expectations."

    Bull.

    Shittles.

    What is so arresting about taking responsibility for your actions, being clear about your intentions, owning your desires, and being courageous enough to share them with someone?

    Answers like "I go with the flow" leave things at a stand still. What is a flow? How does a flow move... if everything is just left up to chance. What happens next? What do you want to do? Two guys are just gonna magically appear at Starbucks for coffee one afternoon, or just happen to trip into a bed and have night long sex, because the flow led them in that direction?

    In my experience: Few people make the first move. Many people want to be hit on. Often, people are afraid of appearing "slutty". Thus, if they "go with the flow" that absolves them and places the responsibility on me. Sex, Dates, whatever, it's the same story. Some people Iexpect me to make the first move, and then think I'm uninterested when I don't. I'm interested, I'm just over that back and forth game.

    If I pass the ball to you, take the ball and make a play, or get off the court and let someone who wants to play join me.
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    May 30, 2011 6:10 AM GMT
    SineOfChange said"What are you looking for?
    Sex.

    SineOfChange saidWhat do you want to do?"
    You.
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    May 30, 2011 6:11 AM GMT
    Is that better? icon_biggrin.gif