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    May 30, 2011 7:31 PM GMT
    Hey Guys, I already have an RJ account but I don't want to disclose who I am cause I'm a bit embarassed to cause I usually don't ask these questions.

    I'm dating this guy now. We've been talking and eating out at places for 3 weeks now. We get along well. He's sweet and nice and funny. I like him too. I actually don't have a hard time liking anybody. My Chemistry mixes with practically everyone but now I'm having red flags go up.

    We've gotten really, or I've gotten really sweet on him now. I'm the kind of person who enjoys going out to theme parks, or recreational activities and do things outdoors. He on the other hand likes to stay in and watch movies or if he goes out, likes to go to movie theaters. I have no problem with that. But whenever I've suggested we go out to something like a park or aquarium or similiar things other than a movie, he's sorta made no effort and slept in. He would apologize and say he wants a rematch but I feel like I'm making more of an effort at this relationship than he is. Or maybe I'm not cause I still have my RJ open and using it. I'm very committed and am a monogamous type guy so is he. If anything, I'm pretty sure I'm more sexually experienced than he is. I mean, I should probably tell him or talk to him about not making an effort when I went out of my way to by tickets to a park and now because he supposedly was working on a production set from 8:00 am and had to sleep in the vans overnight... now I'm guessing I bought the tickets for nothing. He didn't text me sorry I"m still working, I had to text him to get out that information. He didn't tell me when his call out time was to get off work. Red Flags are going up. I haven't discussed that with him. But, if he didn't want to go or didnt' want to come over and spend the night so I can drive us together, he could have just said I don't want to, I"m tired after work or sorry work made us stay late (If he was really at work). And I could have understand. But, maybe he doesn't have it in him to tell me he really didn't want to spend time today. I don't need much but he hasn't told me otherwise that he isn't interested or I don't think he's leading me on. Is he? I want to start dating for reals. And I haven' t had a boyfriend yet. I'm very very very tolerant, (My friend says I'm way to tolerant) and don't look at these things as bad things, but maybe this guy is really not as interested in me as I am in him. I'm willing to do what he wants, but when I want to do something, we're late or he sleeps in. (He likes to sleep). Some feedback would be welcome. This is stuff for me. I should probably ask him about it. I want to be an open book and he seems to tell me what he's doing when he does text.

    But a production set over 24 hours and sleeping over? That is like technically illegal and I haven't worked in production for a while but I'm pretty sure they can't do that can they? Unless they are paying him to guard equipment afterwards but over Memorial Day Weekend?

    Am I getting suspicious over nothing? Did I become to clingy to fast?
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    May 30, 2011 7:53 PM GMT
    He could possibly just want time to himself, and there's nothing wrong with that. It's pretty unhealthy if you're spending every second you're not busy with someone else.

    It's also only been three weeks; I'd lighten up a little. 49 weeks from now, then I suppose you could be a little suspicious about his activities/work/etc...
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    May 30, 2011 8:03 PM GMT
    You're right. He's a real sweet heart. I guess I'm worrying over nothing. And he probably wants to take things slower than I do. But emotionally, I'm still in enfatuation mode happy to finally date a guy that I like. I should slow it down a bit and not get ahead of myself. icon_smile.gif

    I guess I expect him to be as open as I am with him. Which is prolly selfish of me right now.