Taking a hint?

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    May 31, 2011 2:02 AM GMT
    So... let me preface this post with saying I'm tired, worked out super hard today on top of being tired, and am feeling a little under the weather so I'm assuming that's some of the reason I'm feeling sorry for myself... but, I AM sitting here throwing myself a pity party about some stuff that I've been bouncing back and forth in my head today- basically I'm feeling sorry for myself about not having a steady man around. EDIT: That's not to say I wanted a relationship with this person- just in general I am pouting because I have no man haha

    If you constantly talk to someone via e-mail and then exchange phone numbers and haven't heard from them since... should I just take this as a hint as their not interested?

    I'm usually the king of knowing when people aren't interested but I just don't know in this situation... thanks guys. be nice please icon_smile.gif
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    May 31, 2011 2:10 AM GMT
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    first of all, (hug)

    ...what happened?

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    May 31, 2011 2:19 AM GMT
    cityaznguy saidicon_sad.gificon_sad.gif

    first of all, (hug)

    ...what happened?



    This isn't who you think it is lol. icon_smile.gif So don't worry. I'll message you E.
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    May 31, 2011 2:27 AM GMT
    running11 saidSo... let me preface this post with saying I'm tired, worked out super hard today on top of being tired, and am feeling a little under the weather so I'm assuming that's some of the reason I'm feeling sorry for myself... but, I AM sitting here throwing myself a pity party about some stuff that I've been bouncing back and forth in my head today- basically I'm feeling sorry for myself about not having a steady man around.

    If you constantly talk to someone via e-mail and then exchange phone numbers and haven't heard from them since... should I just take this as a hint as their not interested?

    I'm usually the king of knowing when people aren't interested but I just don't know in this situation... thanks guys. be nice please icon_smile.gif


    A lot of people flake online. It sucks, get over it and deal with it though. I know thats not what you want to hear, but at the end of the day it says more about them than it does about you.

    Simply put, who knows what is going on here.

    here is a story of a guy I went on a date with, and take for it what you will. We meet on Grindr, first to hook up (he hit me up, his profile explicitly says no hookups, but he asked anyways) last second, he tells me he doesnt want to hook up and wants to hang out instead. So we do. At the end of the day, we kiss, I txt him saying I had a good time, he texts back saying he wants to date seriously, I say sure.

    We text back and forth I ask him out, no response. He texts me the next day saying he is horny (weird I know), then he texts me again the day after to talk. I ask him out again, no response. In short, the man is crazy.

    Remember your a catch and there are a lot of fish that do you the favor of jumping back in the pond.

    Running, move to SF, ill take care of ya.
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    May 31, 2011 2:28 AM GMT
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    running11 saidSo... let me preface this post with saying I'm tired, worked out super hard today on top of being tired, and am feeling a little under the weather so I'm assuming that's some of the reason I'm feeling sorry for myself... but, I AM sitting here throwing myself a pity party about some stuff that I've been bouncing back and forth in my head today- basically I'm feeling sorry for myself about not having a steady man around.

    If you constantly talk to someone via e-mail and then exchange phone numbers and haven't heard from them since... should I just take this as a hint as their not interested?

    I'm usually the king of knowing when people aren't interested but I just don't know in this situation... thanks guys. be nice please icon_smile.gif


    A lot of people flake online. It sucks, get over it and deal with it though. I know thats not what you want to hear, but at the end of the day it says more about them than it does about you.



    I respect and appreciate brutal honesty over sugarcoating so thank you. That was definitely something I needed to hear icon_smile.gif
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    May 31, 2011 2:30 AM GMT
    running11 said
    Chainers said
    running11 saidSo... let me preface this post with saying I'm tired, worked out super hard today on top of being tired, and am feeling a little under the weather so I'm assuming that's some of the reason I'm feeling sorry for myself... but, I AM sitting here throwing myself a pity party about some stuff that I've been bouncing back and forth in my head today- basically I'm feeling sorry for myself about not having a steady man around.

    If you constantly talk to someone via e-mail and then exchange phone numbers and haven't heard from them since... should I just take this as a hint as their not interested?

    I'm usually the king of knowing when people aren't interested but I just don't know in this situation... thanks guys. be nice please icon_smile.gif


    A lot of people flake online. It sucks, get over it and deal with it though. I know thats not what you want to hear, but at the end of the day it says more about them than it does about you.



    I respect and appreciate brutal honesty over sugarcoating so thank you. That was definitely something I needed to hear icon_smile.gif


    Sometimes we need it. I added a story from my personal experience for ya if it makes it feel better.

    Didnt mean to make it sound so harsh (reading through the second time lol).
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    May 31, 2011 2:31 AM GMT
    Yep, sounds like a flake. You should assume 90% of men are going to flake. The rest is gravy =D
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    May 31, 2011 2:32 AM GMT
    If it really gets you down, then do what I do. Take a break from men all together for a month, you will be surprised how much you learn to love yourself lol.
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    May 31, 2011 2:33 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidYep, sounds like a flake. You should assume 90% of men are going to flake. The rest is gravy =D


    Good to know icon_smile.gif I always can learn a lot from these forums
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    May 31, 2011 2:33 AM GMT
    Chainers saidIf it really gets you down, then do what I do. Take a break from men all together for a month, you will be surprised how much you learn to love yourself lol.


    I've taken a break from men since November lol. I'm on top of that lol
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    May 31, 2011 2:35 AM GMT
    running11 saidSo... let me preface this post with saying I'm tired, worked out super hard today on top of being tired, and am feeling a little under the weather so I'm assuming that's some of the reason I'm feeling sorry for myself... but, I AM sitting here throwing myself a pity party about some stuff that I've been bouncing back and forth in my head today- basically I'm feeling sorry for myself about not having a steady man around.

    If you constantly talk to someone via e-mail and then exchange phone numbers and haven't heard from them since... should I just take this as a hint as their not interested?
    No. You should take it as a hint that you "may have" fucked up and talked about the relationship thing too soon, when all they wanted was a hookup or friend with benefits.

    I'm glad I don't have a cockblocker steady man around. icon_razz.gif

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    May 31, 2011 2:37 AM GMT
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    running11 saidSo... let me preface this post with saying I'm tired, worked out super hard today on top of being tired, and am feeling a little under the weather so I'm assuming that's some of the reason I'm feeling sorry for myself... but, I AM sitting here throwing myself a pity party about some stuff that I've been bouncing back and forth in my head today- basically I'm feeling sorry for myself about not having a steady man around.

    If you constantly talk to someone via e-mail and then exchange phone numbers and haven't heard from them since... should I just take this as a hint as their not interested?
    No. You should take it as a hint that you "may have" fucked up and talked about the relationship thing too soon, when all they wanted was a hookup or friend with benefits.

    I'm glad I don't have a cockblocker steady man around. icon_razz.gif



    I dont think this is necessarily it. Sometimes rejection gets us down, it happens. Chin up, get back out there, and realize that running11 is fucking hot. Everything else will fall into place.
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    May 31, 2011 2:37 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    running11 saidSo... let me preface this post with saying I'm tired, worked out super hard today on top of being tired, and am feeling a little under the weather so I'm assuming that's some of the reason I'm feeling sorry for myself... but, I AM sitting here throwing myself a pity party about some stuff that I've been bouncing back and forth in my head today- basically I'm feeling sorry for myself about not having a steady man around.

    If you constantly talk to someone via e-mail and then exchange phone numbers and haven't heard from them since... should I just take this as a hint as their not interested?
    No. You should take it as a hint that you "may have" fucked up and talked about the relationship thing too soon, when all they wanted was a hookup or friend with benefits.

    I'm glad I don't have a cockblocker steady man around. icon_razz.gif



    No no no- I NEVER talked about a relationship. Not AT ALL with this person. This is just someone who I've enjoyed getting to know them, and I had planned on meeting them when I started traveling this summer. I should go back and edit that so people know that.
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    May 31, 2011 2:44 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    Ariodante saidYep, sounds like a flake. You should assume 90% of men are going to flake. The rest is gravy =D

    I have to agree that the net is full of flakes when it comes to getting a guy to commit or follow through. There are the goods one though,, and he's right.. no more than 10%. They just happen to show up!


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    May 31, 2011 2:48 AM GMT
    What's his address? I can be a very aggressive person and have tons of frequent flier miles. icon_biggrin.gif
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    May 31, 2011 2:49 AM GMT
    Oh dekiruman! *bats eyes
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    May 31, 2011 2:50 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidYep, sounds like a flake. You should assume 90% of men are going to flake. The rest is gravy =D


    It'd be better if they are meatloaf too...these are lean. I have a great recipe btw if you guys are interested let me know! icon_biggrin.gif

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    Chainers said

    running11 is fucking hot.


    ^ THIS.
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    May 31, 2011 2:51 AM GMT
    Hugs to you, pal and I know exactly what you mean.....

    I sometimes go months and years without going out with a guy or have someone actually interested in me. Once in a while someone shows a little interest and a few e-mails go back and forth....then it fizzles out.

    Just keep moving forward and take care of yourself first. If you think you don't have a man in your life, don't sweat it. You have you and that is the most important thing.

    Your time will come. Just like mine (hopefully).
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    May 31, 2011 2:58 AM GMT
    you're only 22! guys who are in their 20's geneerally want everything and nothing at the same time! It akes no sense to anyone else, but im sure it does to you at te time!
    no only that, but I think many of us take things to heart and makethem more than what they actually are..
    in this case, I agree with the guys aboe me when they say hes just a flake...
    so drop hi and move on.
    BOLD TEXT GOES HERENEVER BE THE BACK-UP PLAN!!!!!!!
    If he doesn't pick you first then dont be around for him torealize what he missed out on!

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    May 31, 2011 2:58 AM GMT
    dekiruman saidWhat's his address? I can be a very aggressive person and have tons of frequent flier miles. icon_biggrin.gif


    I definitely need an aggressive man in my life icon_twisted.gif
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    May 31, 2011 2:59 AM GMT
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    Chainers said

    running11 is fucking hot.


    ^ THIS.[/quote]

    You guys really are too nice lol icon_redface.gif
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    May 31, 2011 3:03 AM GMT
    cityaznguy said
    Ariodante saidYep, sounds like a flake. You should assume 90% of men are going to flake. The rest is gravy =D


    It'd be better if they are meatloaf too...these are lean. I have a great recipe btw if you guys are interested let me know! icon_biggrin.gif

    MEATLOAF.jpg


    Chainers said

    running11 is fucking hot.


    ^ THIS.



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    May 31, 2011 3:05 AM GMT
    cityaznguy said
    Ariodante saidYep, sounds like a flake. You should assume 90% of men are going to flake. The rest is gravy =D


    It'd be better if they are meatloaf too...these are lean. I have a great recipe btw if you guys are interested let me know!


    I just wanna wrestle in the gravy.
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    May 31, 2011 3:11 AM GMT
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    cityaznguy said
    Ariodante saidYep, sounds like a flake. You should assume 90% of men are going to flake. The rest is gravy =D


    It'd be better if they are meatloaf too...these are lean. I have a great recipe btw if you guys are interested let me know!


    I just wanna wrestle in the gravy.


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    May 31, 2011 3:16 AM GMT
    Ding ding ding ding ding! Yes dude, take it as a clue that they're not interested. I am the king of being rejected. I showed some flake my face pics and he never replied to my message again... (message, not messages because I have way too much pride to go chasing someone who just wants to waste my time). Some people are just shallow. Man up, move on.

    P.S. You got that sexy new hair cut that has been driving people crazy around here ;)