Finally starting to go on dates...gotta learn to shake the nerves though. Advice please!

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    May 31, 2011 3:31 PM GMT
    Happy Tuesday! I'm so pumped to finally start being asked out on a few dates. My comfort level is definitely doing better, but still gotta learn to shake the nerves a bit and just be myself. Any advice?? I'm all ears!

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  • Webster666

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    May 31, 2011 6:31 PM GMT
    Don't have any expectations.
    Pretend that you're just meeting up with a friend.
    And, the more you do it, the easier it will get.
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    May 31, 2011 7:06 PM GMT
    What Webster said!

    Just go out and enjoy!! If one date leads to more! Then wooo!!
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    May 31, 2011 7:11 PM GMT
    i have the same thing. people aren't as concerned as you think they are. just worry about yourself and your date. i was so damn nervous being out with a guy i could tell i was making him nervous too. everything was good though.
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    May 31, 2011 7:55 PM GMT
    To extol the wisdom propounded in the film the 40 Year Old Virgin: slay some hoodrats first. You are going to be so nervous and fail pretty badly you want to get the training wheels off around hoodrats rather than the classy, elegant gays who might break a monocle.

    The first few are the most fun since you get to learn some new things about yourself you never knew before. Also: don't drink too much before, during, or after the date. You want to avoid, respectively, looking like a lush; making bad decisions with an uggo that has beer goggled you; or drunk texting away your potential with someone you would see again.

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    May 31, 2011 8:01 PM GMT
    Good idea not to drink very much on the dates. Dating is a wonderful adventure, you meet a lot of nice guys, a few duds, and maybe something lifelong will develop. I did it for years before I met my partner. Wash benind your ears, clean your nails, and have something to eat or drink in your fridgeicon_cool.gif
  • M4tt

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    May 31, 2011 10:45 PM GMT
    While I don't have as much experience as some of the other guys here as I've only dated two men here's my experience. I'm about to go on my third date with this guy I met through okcupid. My first date with the first guy was destined for failure. I put to much pressure on the date forcing conversation and having unreasonably high expectations. I'll echo the other guys here and say go with the idea your meeting a potential friend not going on a date. My first and second date with the second guy was so casual it felt like we were continuing an ongoing dialogue. We see each other once a week right now because of his work schedule but I'm always looking forward to seeing him. Our last date was us taking care of his errands and shopping for the day and enjoying each others company.
  • ChicoUrbano

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    May 31, 2011 11:56 PM GMT
    Just enjoy the time icon_wink.gif
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    May 31, 2011 11:59 PM GMT
    They are probably just as nervous as you are.
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    Jun 01, 2011 12:02 AM GMT
    Lick the side of his face when you first meet him. I've been told that's how gay's like to introduce themselves to others ,or you can just do it the old fashion way and sniff his ass... icon_biggrin.gif