When you hotlist someone, their chance of saying thank you

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    May 31, 2011 9:48 PM GMT
    So I did a rather interesting experiment. I hot listed 40 guys in a row in matter of two days, and so far the reply that I got back was 5 and it's been about two days already. That's really low reply rate. So obviously it is a common practice that RJers don't say thank you after you hotlist them. So next time don't get all butthurt if you don't get a thank you message. Most people don't say thank you. Just go "meh" and move on.
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    May 31, 2011 9:55 PM GMT

    Something tells me most RJers would go "meh" if their arm fell off, so don't you get all butt hurt because people are spreppers. You found FIVE decent guys, FIVE, that number is huge and I think, fantastic. If I can get five, I feel lucky I didn't less, haha. icon_surprised.gif

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    May 31, 2011 11:41 PM GMT
    or they register and don't check RJ again icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 01, 2011 12:27 AM GMT
    @Adam: That might be the case

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    Jun 01, 2011 12:39 AM GMT
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    Jun 01, 2011 12:40 AM GMT
    I get plenty of thankyous, not much chat after that. icon_cry.gif
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    Jun 01, 2011 12:45 AM GMT
    MikeInSLC saidI get plenty of thankyous, not much chat after that. icon_cry.gif


    I agree that having a picture helps, especially a cute one.
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    Jun 01, 2011 12:46 AM GMT
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    No no your signature bear. I love it. It's the cutest bear.
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    Jun 01, 2011 1:14 AM GMT

    You mean little bear? osito-sonriente.gif
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    Jun 01, 2011 1:18 AM GMT
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    My favorite bears use only Tor. icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 01, 2011 1:20 AM GMT
    Last guy i hotlisted didnt say thank you, so im gonna un-hotlist his ass.
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    Jun 01, 2011 1:24 AM GMT
    waimea saidSo I did a rather interesting experiment. I hot listed 40 guys in a row in matter of two days, and so far the reply that I got back was 5 and it's been about two days already. That's really low reply rate. So obviously it is a common practice that RJers don't say thank you after you hotlist them. So next time don't get all butthurt if you don't get a thank you message. Most people don't say thank you. Just go "meh" and move on.


    To be honest, I don't really expect anyone to say anything about being hotlisted. I don't even expect them to say anything to compliments made about their photos. HOWEVER when they don't even open the automatic message, the comment doesn't get posted (or so I understand)...so that's a little bit discouraging.

    Ultimately, it doesn't matter: in the greater scheme of things, while it's always a little nice to have the interaction, at the end of the day you can't put conditions on courtesy...and even if you could, would you really want to?
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    Jun 01, 2011 1:35 AM GMT
    No, a lot people don't give a thank you when they get hot listed. Five out of 40 seems kind of low though, but I imagine that has something to do with you having no picture and no information filled out on your profile.
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    Jun 01, 2011 2:36 AM GMT
    GuiltyGear said
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    YES! IT'S THE CUTEST BEAR! I LOVE IT.
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    Jun 01, 2011 2:37 AM GMT
    waimea said
    MikeInSLC saidI get plenty of thankyous, not much chat after that. icon_cry.gif


    I agree that having a picture helps, especially a cute one.


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    Jun 01, 2011 2:45 AM GMT
    ^^ I think he was trying to say that you're cute....??
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    Jun 01, 2011 3:01 AM GMT
    Yeah, I don't usually expect guys to respond to a hot list message. Although recently (~1 month ago) I started saying thank-you to all the guys who hot list me. Just seems to be the polite thing to do.
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    Jun 01, 2011 4:11 AM GMT
    I don't thank people...I didn't think that was rude, but perhaps it is. I'll note that for the future.
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    Jun 01, 2011 4:18 AM GMT
    Someone made a good point when he said that you're not sending the person you hotlist a message, RJ is sending him a message alerting him to the fact that you've hotlisted him. Upon reading this, I've decided that a "thank you" isn't necessary, nor is it rude not to send one. If you want a "thank you", send your own compliment!
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    Jun 01, 2011 4:25 AM GMT
    unfounded7 saidSomeone made a good point when he said that you're not sending the person you hotlist a message, RJ is sending him a message alerting him to the fact that you've hotlisted him. Upon reading this, I've decided that a "thank you" isn't necessary, nor is it rude not to send one. If you want a "thank you", send your own compliment!


    Yeah. That was my reasoning, but also, it's like...if someone's hot listing you and not saying anything, they probably think you're just hot and nothing more. That's nothing worth thanking anyone for, as it's not something you can really help.

    However, a personalized message is nice and for the most part, very flattering. I'll usually always respond to those, if I get them (rare)
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    Jun 01, 2011 4:30 AM GMT
    unfounded7 saidSomeone made a good point when he said that you're not sending the person you hotlist a message, RJ is sending him a message alerting him to the fact that you've hotlisted him. Upon reading this, I've decided that a "thank you" isn't necessary, nor is it rude not to send one. If you want a "thank you", send your own compliment!


    This is true. Because the automated message that the person being hotlisted is very impersonal. It's nothing like, "Hi you have a really nice body. What's your workout routine like. What are your secrets of getting ripped" and so. If he doesn't respond to that kind of message. THEN YOU CAN UN-HOTLIST HIM.
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    Jun 01, 2011 4:31 AM GMT
    MikeInSLC said
    waimea said
    MikeInSLC saidI get plenty of thankyous, not much chat after that. icon_cry.gif


    I agree that having a picture helps, especially a cute one.


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    Jun 01, 2011 4:45 AM GMT
    If they don't have a picture, what criteria are used to determine their hotness?
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    Jun 01, 2011 4:47 AM GMT
    I never hotlist anyone, and when guys hotlist me, I always reply saying thank you unless it's one of those guys who hotlists everyone and has hotlisted like 5000 guys, I wanna be special dammit!!! icon_cool.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 01, 2011 5:43 AM GMT
    Does it really matter? If you want to talk to them why not send em' a message.