Help! Please! I need some advice!

  • sexyjam

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    May 31, 2011 10:03 PM GMT
    I am a 43 year old attractive down to earth Jamaican male. I have a great job and a great family. I own 2 properties in Las vegas and am in great health (Very grateful) I have only one problem. I cannot find anyone to date in Las Vegas! Everyone seems to live here for a few months, then leave. Should I consider moving to a more gay friendly city where I think I would have more options? Im really torn about this
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    Jun 01, 2011 1:13 AM GMT
    In vegas? im surprised, especially looking at you!
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    Jun 01, 2011 1:21 AM GMT
    Moving seems a little drastic to me. It's hard to give advice when I don't know exactly what you're looking for in a relationship. There must be some people in the area that are long established. What makes them different than the you've dated that moved away?
  • sexyjam

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    Jun 01, 2011 2:00 AM GMT
    Vegas is a very transient town. People move here for alittle bit then leave. Its a very very hard place to make friends because everyone has their guard up
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 01, 2011 2:04 AM GMT
    Perhaps the best thing to do is meet some relationship minded gentleman who lives in an adjacent state that might be open minded about moving there.
    I'd not consider moving elsewhere, I think you can work it other ways.
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    Jun 01, 2011 2:05 AM GMT
    Are there any gay organizations you can join or sports clubs? Thats a great way to meet folks.

  • sexyjam

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    Jun 01, 2011 2:08 AM GMT
    I am considering moving to Calif. (Los Angeles o San Diego) but so expensive to live. Ive tried everything. Ive looked at sports organizations, hiking clubs and I even tried a support group. All of these have failed because the sports groups have broken up and the support group most of the men talk about their alcoholism and drug addiction.
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    Jun 01, 2011 2:10 AM GMT
    What do you do for a living? Remember unemployment in LA is 12% and finding a job in SD is really hard. But you will most certainly meet people here the way you look!
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    Jun 01, 2011 2:40 AM GMT
    Taking it from someone who used to live in Miami I know cities like that can be very transient.

    ...But, I found it easier to meet people there than I do in Denver icon_neutral.gif It took me about 8 months to find a real friend in Miami and then about a year to have a boyfriend...but at the same time I was meeting people the day I got there and there was always new people visiting constantly so if I ever wanted to meet with someone that was never an issue. I met guys from all over the world consistently. When I was really putting myself out there to meet people, it was very possible to have a date ANY night of the week. But it never lasted.

    So, I say you may have better luck if you move out of Vegas...but at the same time a lot of these cities aren't any different. Denver isn't considered transient but it's still hard to meet real people out here.

    But for a city like Vegas and others the thrive on tourism, they don't really make great recipes for relationship material.

    ...And think beyond the region. Just because a state or city is close and convenient doesn't mean it's going to be your match. Despite the new boy syndrome I'm having...I am happy that I came this far from Florida

    sexyjam saidShould I consider moving to a more gay friendly city where I think I would have more options? Im really torn about this


    That can be a double edged sword. When you have more options, 50 million other people have 50 million other options. So it can take even longer. Less popular towns with medium sized gay populations are better off for finding relationship material IMO.
  • sexyjam

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    Jun 01, 2011 2:48 AM GMT
    I am a Casino Executive on the LV strip but I also have 2 degrees (one in Business Management and the other in Personnel) so I wouldnt mind working in a different field. The thing I love about San Diego too is that its laid back and the people seemed very friendly. I would imagine it would be easier to make friends there than here. I had alos considered the Miami/Ft Laud area but event hogh its beautiful, most of the people there werent very friendly and it was very transient as well. Sorta reminded me of vegas a little bit. I dont know what to do lol
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    Jun 01, 2011 3:28 AM GMT
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  • Jun 01, 2011 5:18 AM GMT
    Friend of mine just moved to Vegas from San Diego. He likes Vegas better.he too is looking for friends.... And uses Craigslist a lot.
  • sexyjam

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    Jun 01, 2011 5:44 AM GMT
    Really weekend warrior? He likes vegas better than San Diego? wow