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    Jun 03, 2011 4:02 PM GMT
    I want to find a travel buddy (or a group of friends) that:
    (a) has enough money to afford a vacation, (b) has an interest in minimizing some expenses where possible like rooming together, (c) has similar interests like visiting a museum or two, not just pounding shots of absinthe in a seedy hostel lobby, (d) has at least a B.A./B.S., (e) can keep things as just friends without making awkward unwanted sexual advances, (f) is around my age, so we can actually have conversations about stuff, and (g) does not have a serious drug problem or other serious red-flag in their personal life that you should disclose to someone you are traveling with in a foreign country.

    My own personal offline world has not supplied any suitable candidates for the position - the straighties refuse to room together and the gays do not have enough income to travel.

    My question, a two-parter: [a] where do you meet people that fit into the niche of what I want to find? Facebook/Skype/e-mail is perfectly fine to use to get to know someone in my opinion so distance is not an issue for me and [b] is there anyone on RJ in the same situation?

    I really have no desire to travel alone or to be a sugar daddy and pay someone else's way just so I don't feel alone.
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    Jun 03, 2011 4:24 PM GMT
    spaghettimonster saidI want to find a travel buddy (or a group of friends) that:
    (a) has enough money to afford a vacation, (b) has an interest in minimizing some expenses where possible like rooming together, (c) has similar interests like visiting a museum or two, not just pounding shots of absinthe in a seedy hostel lobby, (d) has at least a B.A./B.S., (e) can keep things as just friends without making awkward unwanted sexual advances, (f) is around my age, so we can actually have conversations about stuff, and (g) does not have a serious drug problem or other serious red-flag in their personal life that you should disclose to someone you are traveling with in a foreign country.

    My own personal offline world has not supplied any suitable candidates for the position - the straighties refuse to room together and the gays do not have enough income to travel.

    My question, a two-parter: [a] where do you meet people that fit into the niche of what I want to find? Facebook/Skype/e-mail is perfectly fine to use to get to know someone in my opinion so distance is not an issue for me and [b] is there anyone on RJ in the same situation?

    I really have no desire to travel alone or to be a sugar daddy and pay someone else's way just so I don't feel alone.


    First part is offensive 2 da gays. Second part...I thought gays are usually overachievers like you?
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    Jun 03, 2011 4:24 PM GMT
    I traveled on my own for 10months, although I don't completely consider it being alone since I kept meeting new people, hanging out with them for a bit then moving on. You tend to meet people on the way and join up if your plans mesh.

    Even for short, 2-week sort of trips, people in hostels are typically looking for friends so it's easy to meet a new crowd.
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    Jun 03, 2011 6:48 PM GMT
    Bale02 saidI traveled on my own for 10months, although I don't completely consider it being alone since I kept meeting new people, hanging out with them for a bit then moving on. You tend to meet people on the way and join up if your plans mesh.

    Even for short, 2-week sort of trips, people in hostels are typically looking for friends so it's easy to meet a new crowd.


    While that does sound fun (and that is how I did the Netherlands when I was a lot younger and less uptight) I am more of a planner and booker in advance that would have reservations and an itinerary to follow. In my ideal situation we would have plans but could always deviate or add people to the group as appropriate. I just think it is too much money to go solo, drop into a hostel, hope I can force myself into a group, and that everything would work out well. Especially for what I had pictured like ten days or so in Italy and/or France or Greece and/or Turkey that is highly structured and booked for "nice accomodations" with chocolates on the pillow.
  • alphatop

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    Jun 04, 2011 12:22 PM GMT
    spaghettimonster said
    Bale02 saidI traveled on my own for 10months, although I don't completely consider it being alone since I kept meeting new people, hanging out with them for a bit then moving on. You tend to meet people on the way and join up if your plans mesh.

    Even for short, 2-week sort of trips, people in hostels are typically looking for friends so it's easy to meet a new crowd.


    While that does sound fun (and that is how I did the Netherlands when I was a lot younger and less uptight) I am more of a planner and booker in advance that would have reservations and an itinerary to follow. In my ideal situation we would have plans but could always deviate or add people to the group as appropriate. I just think it is too much money to go solo, drop into a hostel, hope I can force myself into a group, and that everything would work out well. Especially for what I had pictured like ten days or so in Italy and/or France or Greece and/or Turkey that is highly structured and booked for "nice accomodations" with chocolates on the pillow.


    You are still uptight. Very, I might add. It's not about the destination, it's about the travel.
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    Jun 05, 2011 12:31 AM GMT
    waimea said
    spaghettimonster saidI want to find a travel buddy (or a group of friends) that:
    (a) has enough money to afford a vacation, (b) has an interest in minimizing some expenses where possible like rooming together, (c) has similar interests like visiting a museum or two, not just pounding shots of absinthe in a seedy hostel lobby, (d) has at least a B.A./B.S., (e) can keep things as just friends without making awkward unwanted sexual advances, (f) is around my age, so we can actually have conversations about stuff, and (g) does not have a serious drug problem or other serious red-flag in their personal life that you should disclose to someone you are traveling with in a foreign country.

    My own personal offline world has not supplied any suitable candidates for the position - the straighties refuse to room together and the gays do not have enough income to travel.

    My question, a two-parter: [a] where do you meet people that fit into the niche of what I want to find? Facebook/Skype/e-mail is perfectly fine to use to get to know someone in my opinion so distance is not an issue for me and [b] is there anyone on RJ in the same situation?

    I really have no desire to travel alone or to be a sugar daddy and pay someone else's way just so I don't feel alone.


    First part is offensive 2 da gays. Second part...I thought gays are usually overachievers like you?


    How is it patently offensive to the entire homosexual community at large to say that ALL of MY gay friends (after privately consulting with them and anonymously reporting the results in a concise way) do not generate enough disposable income to be able to afford the kind of trip I want and I can afford? I fail to see how that is any more offensive than to say ALL of MY straight friends had the same reaction to rooming together, with the implied subtext they thought I was going to be looking at them in that way.

    And I fail to see how I am an overachiever. I have a bunch of pieces of paper on the wall in my office, meanwhile the gays working retail that never even started college can barely afford rent yet they have tons of options for a date on a Saturday night. Meanwhile I am responding to this post in my underpants while I cook mac and cheese in my microwave and create a new match.com profile with my Saturday night. Overachiever carries some inherent overtones of being well rounded - but I am not.
  • mizu5

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    Jun 05, 2011 12:34 AM GMT
    I suggest holding interviews, ask for everyone CVs and 3 people you can call to check on their background. Maybe also consider weeding out those who didn't go to ivy league schools.


    ahah I'm kidding.

    But I do understand your pain to an extent. It would be nice to have friend who have money, but tuscany and chocoltes on your pillow and museums? why not jsut join a group. they have TONNNS of those thigns for people 20-40 and they take you around on airconditioned busses and you room with people and whatnot.
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    Jun 05, 2011 12:58 AM GMT
    mizu5 saidI suggest holding interviews, ask for everyone CVs and 3 people you can call to check on their background. Maybe also consider weeding out those who didn't go to ivy league schools.


    ahah I'm kidding.

    But I do understand your pain to an extent. It would be nice to have friend who have money, but tuscany and chocoltes on your pillow and museums? why not jsut join a group. they have TONNNS of those thigns for people 20-40 and they take you around on airconditioned busses and you room with people and whatnot.


    I am also going to need their blood type, the names of all of their primary school teachers, and their favorite candy bar icon_biggrin.gif

    I was referred to the ConTiki tours for 20-40 year olds but I would feel really awkward just showing up to a tour and not knowing anyone, since I have been led to believe it is mostly big groups of churches or sororities or cults that schedule their young people for tours with high hopes someone ends up pregnant and married out of the exotic vacation.

    Even in the Netherlands I had a safety net of a school chum and when we needed to, we were fine parting ways for the afternoon or for longer. I need that kind of safety net even if it is someone I met off the internet, as long as they had some interest in maintaining some sort of solidarity to at least do a lunch or a museum together.
  • sportsjockla

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    Jun 05, 2011 1:03 AM GMT
    The problem is finding someone that you are compatible traveling with. I travel a lot with work and I'm fortunate enough that my boss allows me to bring someone along. I have friends I don't mind spending an evening with, but forget spending a week or two with!
  • mizu5

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    Jun 05, 2011 5:50 PM GMT
    ontiki is a bus full of durnks. all they do is party. I made that mistake ahaha
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    Jun 05, 2011 5:55 PM GMT
    I just need to get the fuck away real bad... Cancun is my next travel spot. Sitting by the beach all day, taking in the sun, having alcoholic drinks at 10am and watching the hotties walk by, fuck yeah!
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    Jun 05, 2011 5:58 PM GMT
    CHIdude saidI just need to get the fuck away real bad... Cancun is my next travel spot. Sitting by the beach all day, taking in the sun, having alcoholic drinks at 10am and watching the hotties walk by, fuck yeah!


    I just got back from Atlantis Cancun a month ago.

    I always travel alone. No one I know can ever go anywhere. I got sick of waiting so now I just go and try to force myself to come out of my shell. I dont think I do a good job of it though. I did an atlantis cruise last October. I was a boat with 3,000 gay men the most anyone said to me was "are you in line for the bar?"

    lol
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    Jun 05, 2011 6:07 PM GMT
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    CHIdude saidI just need to get the fuck away real bad... Cancun is my next travel spot. Sitting by the beach all day, taking in the sun, having alcoholic drinks at 10am and watching the hotties walk by, fuck yeah!


    I just got back from Atlantis Cancun a month ago.

    I always travel alone. No one I know can ever go anywhere. I got sick of waiting so now I just go and try to force myself to come out of my shell. I dont think I do a good job of it though. I did an atlantis cruise last October. I was a boat with 3,000 gay men the most anyone said to me was "are you in line for the bar?"

    lol


    Maybe you and I need to get our asses to Cancun ;) Don't feel bad dude, I'm so fucking shy that I never interact with peope anywhere unless they talk to me first. Plus, you probably weren't there for hook-ups, and neither am I, as horny as I may be! Damn Im horny!
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    Jun 05, 2011 6:08 PM GMT
    If you only flew domestic in the U.S id be your travel buddy.
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    Jun 05, 2011 6:08 PM GMT
    I just found myself in the same situation now. Thought of going to Mexico alone but what if i get bored by myself in the beach? Plus its always cooler when you have someone to share experiences with... still not sure what to do. Hang around my regions beaches?...
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    Jun 05, 2011 6:13 PM GMT
    Seriously? So many cute single gay dudes on here wanting to go on vacation and we're all so far from each other? WTF!
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    Jun 05, 2011 6:15 PM GMT
    CHIdude saidSeriously? So many cute single gay dudes on here wanting to go on vacation and we're all so far from each other? WTF!



    That could be a good business haha. Match guys vacations with people that live there so the vacation is cheaper and you get to make new friends. There is the risks of crazies though.
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    Jun 05, 2011 6:22 PM GMT
    I wanna join the travel buddy group, lets go!

    hit me up

    I'm in Texas but if were travel buddies im sure it doesnt matter what are u live in
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    Jun 05, 2011 6:45 PM GMT
    I'm up for a travel party! I teach throughout the year, but I have a lot of free time over the next couple of months!

    Just let me know when and where!
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    Jun 05, 2011 6:47 PM GMT
    You have 18 more letters in the alphabet. Are you sure you don't want to throw in a few more qualifiers? icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 05, 2011 7:27 PM GMT
    Travel buddies can be tricky - I have some "real life" friends that I love to death, but I'll never vacation with them again.

    Make sure your travel buddy and you are on the same page with regard to what you are both looking for out of the vacation. For me - I like to know when I'm coming and going, where I'm staying but beyond that I don't really need everything laid out hour by hour or day by day. I don't want a rigid schedule of meals, tours, excursions, etc.. Don't get me wrong, I like and will do the cultural stuff, but I also just want to relax poolside, beachside, mountainside, wherever with a drink and try to forget how few days are left on my holiday until I'm back in the office.

    Writing this makes me realize how much I need to get away but looks like I'll only be heading back to the UK for my cousin's wedding this summer. Ah well...
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    Jun 06, 2011 4:20 AM GMT
    I'd like to join if ever there's one. I'd prefer if it's within the continental US but outside of Texas.
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    Jun 06, 2011 4:57 AM GMT
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    CHIdude saidSeriously? So many cute single gay dudes on here wanting to go on vacation and we're all so far from each other? WTF!



    That could be a good business haha. Match guys vacations with people that live there so the vacation is cheaper and you get to make new friends. There is the risks of crazies though.


    Well as long as the crazies are not too crazy ;)
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    Jun 06, 2011 4:59 AM GMT
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    Dallasfan824 said
    CHIdude saidI just need to get the fuck away real bad... Cancun is my next travel spot. Sitting by the beach all day, taking in the sun, having alcoholic drinks at 10am and watching the hotties walk by, fuck yeah!


    I just got back from Atlantis Cancun a month ago.

    I always travel alone. No one I know can ever go anywhere. I got sick of waiting so now I just go and try to force myself to come out of my shell. I dont think I do a good job of it though. I did an atlantis cruise last October. I was a boat with 3,000 gay men the most anyone said to me was "are you in line for the bar?"

    lol


    Maybe you and I need to get our asses to Cancun ;) Don't feel bad dude, I'm so fucking shy that I never interact with peope anywhere unless they talk to me first. Plus, you probably weren't there for hook-ups, and neither am I, as horny as I may be! Damn Im horny!


    I have a hold on Puerta Villarta in November.
  • MarvelClimber

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    Jun 06, 2011 5:16 AM GMT
    It sounds like you're really looking for a different kind of friend. Most of the things in your list are qualifiers I'd have for anyone that I'd maintain a friendship with. Some of my friends I would not want to take long trips with, but that's more of a slight preference than a dealbreaker. Anyone I do not want to travel with is simply not what I call a friend.

    There are many travel sites aimed at getting travelers with similar travel styles together. If you don't have any luck there, why not look for LGBT groups local to the area you're visiting? It's a bit more adventurous, but it's not like you have anything to lose, since you're not squabbling over logistics.