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    Jun 04, 2011 12:03 AM GMT
    So i meet this guy online about a month ago. He hit me up and seemed okay so we started Im'ing. He had me open a yahoo account to chat back and forth and this seemed reasonable. Now first off he is supposedly from US but working in another country and returning back to take a job in my area. Due to the time difference I was walking up every morning at 430a to continue our conversations. He actually seemed pretty cool and I enjoyed talking with him but something just didnt seem right. A couple days after we started talking he took down his pictures and when I asked why he stated he wanted to see where this was going(us). So I left it at that...a little odd but understandable. Then I was really having a hard time getting up at 430 to chat especially after a 12 hr day at work and suggested email/text or sms. He never did. Even though the early mornings killed me I did look forward to them and was starting to appreciate him. Then I asked if he was sure he didnt have any skeletons in his closet as he seemed a little to good. He got defensive stated he had nothing to hide and ask him anything as he was an open book. Shortly after that he had to get off line as his boss had called. We continue to chat daily and he is calling me "babe", cant wait to meet, asks if I will pick him up from Airport, etc.... So I agree to pick him up make plans for day and hire a sitter for my kids. In meantime he is going to send flight info to my email and is having issue with overseas bank. Never once asked me for money not that I would be willing anyways. so day before we are chatting and he tells me had to cancel flight still working on bank issue. It is going to be rescheduled for next week. So of course I am an asshat as I have already hired a sitter and made plans and he is just telling me the day before he is due to arrive.
    So I am talking about this with my friends at work and they think it sounds strange and know I am a sucker for sob story and tend to trust too easily. They think either a) he is married.b) he is in relationship and checking options.c) a con artist/impostor. So after convincing me it was odd I send the guy a IM asking who his employer was, when did he graduate again and what was the name of the University? Low and behold contact has ceased!!

    Sad thing is I really was starting to like the guy figured worst case we could have become great friends...I just can not figure it out?
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    Jun 04, 2011 2:01 PM GMT
    It seems a bit too odd mate, I'd take most peoples' word on the internet with a grain of salt. The picture thing is bizarre to me because there's no reason to take them down unless he has something to hide.
    The fact that he isn't willing to adjust his time to talk with you makes me think that he wants things his way or he has a small window of opportunity to talk to you and that could be for a number of reasons.

    Flight issues can happen and even the first time you want to meet so it could be legitimate but if he doesn't apologize on his own accord and more than enough, I wouldn't think that he's serious. Do you guys chat in other ways than email/messenger?
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    Jun 04, 2011 8:20 PM GMT
    No we only emailed/IM...I did give him my cell number several times and explained the early morning was killing me but he didnt elaborate on his circumstances. He may very well have good reasoning behind it but I honestly cant fathom what it might be. Thats one of my hang ups like to figure people out and this guy I just cant...and the fact like I said even with evefything else we clicked and I was starting to like him. Thats not how I usually am..takes me awhile to let people in. Thanks for your thoughts...appreciated
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    Jun 04, 2011 8:56 PM GMT
    HI NH
    The same thing happened to me. This guy was in a foreign country, Nigeria, but was allegedly working as a mechanical engineer and said he was moving back to my town soon for a new job. His pics are no longer in his profile on RJ so I blocked him. I had to open a Yahoo Messenger account so that I could met his time requirements to get up at 5:00 AM my time just to chat with him. We only chatted once. Sounds familiar. If you will send me an RJ mail message we can compare notes on this. Sounds like one of those Nigerian scams we've been hearing about.
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    Jun 04, 2011 9:03 PM GMT
    Sounds like a fraud to me. Can't imagine what type of "bank issues" anyone legitimate would have, for any reason. Well, except if you're being investigated by the government. It definitely sounds like he was just waiting for you to tell him you'd pay for his ticket, then he would take the flight, and you'd never see or hear from him again.
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    Jun 04, 2011 9:09 PM GMT
    Scam Alert!!!!!

    The ask for money was coming. You were his 4:30 appt. I wonder who was scheduled for 5:30, 6:30, 7:30.......
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    Jun 04, 2011 9:24 PM GMT
    It's a scam, taking pics down would deffo be the first warning sign..
    failure to communicate after being asked for more details is the second.
    I'd be very suspicious of someone talking about 'bank issues' to someone they hadn't known very long online as well, especially when tied to the other signs.
    Surely *most* normal people would have friends or family around them to assist with sorting out a bank issue.
    Also if he's been overseas for work wouldnt his job pay the airfares?
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    Jun 04, 2011 9:38 PM GMT
    Thanks for the replies I kind of thought it seemed a little strange...appreciate info and heads up
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    Jun 04, 2011 10:08 PM GMT
    just confirmed with another poster same guy...so if you are talking with someone from WI whom is working overseas and will be moving shortly to your area and with us his prof. Was an engineer...block his ass and report