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    Jun 04, 2011 12:23 AM GMT
    so, i've been absent because ive been going through a lot. but i was just seeing if people would be up for chatting or something.

    first i am always willing to talk to people on here because its good to connect and see where things go...

    second, i have considered telling my parents, and i just wanted to see what experiences people have had with that if they have came out to their parents. the friends that matter already know.

    third. it was HOT as HELL in raleigh lol
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    Jun 04, 2011 1:16 AM GMT
    The worst that can happen is they kill you.
    The best that can happen is they don't give a fuck, and consider it a non-issue.
    Chances are, the reaction will be somewhere in between the two extremes.
    Good luck! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 04, 2011 1:42 AM GMT

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    Jun 04, 2011 4:01 PM GMT
    thank you icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 06, 2011 2:45 AM GMT
    For the coming out question you had, the way I came out was not the way I wanted it to be like... lol

    It happened when I was 16 and my dad got remarried with my step mom and she had him, me, and my brother move to Nevada (we're originally from California). And at my new school, since I was not "normal" from what I heard from other kids (the way I dressed and how I wasn't very talkative), people started making all sorts of rumors about me. And since my step mom worked at a well known recreational center, some of the kids who went to my school worked for her and they told her the rumors. One day when I came home from school (it was a Friday too lol), she confronted me with my dad and told asked me "Are you gay?!". Knowing that there was no way to get around it, I admitted it but she didn't take it well (she's a big Christian) and, it just turned into a big mess. Luckily, my dad wasn't as harsh as she was about. But later along the road due to other problems (Me and my step mom didn't get along together for lots of reasons), she kicked me and my bro out of the house but our dad took care of us until she finally let us move back in after 5 months.

    So yeah, I guess it depends on how your parents are with the whole subject matter. Like now, my dad is still doesn't accept that me and my bro are gay (he came out before I did) but he's learned to deal with it. We have a "don't tell" type thing going on.

    If you feel it's time to come out, then by all means do it but only if you feel you are ready.
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    Jun 06, 2011 3:24 AM GMT
    oh wow dude im sorry that happened to you. but thank you for telling me that. i definitely appreciate you having the courage to tell me
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    Jun 06, 2011 3:41 AM GMT
    my family cried, cause i live with 2 sisters and my mother and they're all very emotional. my younger sister said nothing, my older sister said i was just lonely and needed a g/f. My mother said "I know." right after I said I was gay, which I think is hilarious but she said it while crying. She told me she was more worried with what I'd be faced with for being myself. She's pretty christian though so that's not entirely true, she's clearly said things hoping i'll change or that it's just a phase.

    My dad is another story. He's drunk and delusional, has horrible things to say. I wasn't really concerned with his reaction. If I didn't have my mother I'd probably be homeless. He never really said anything at all, except maybe last year he made a condescending remark "no, opposites attract, you're confused, you don't even know what you like" He was talking about a car or something...

    It's hard to predict, just find a good time to talk about it, if you're worried about being kicked out have a back up plan or wait until you're working full time. You know your parents better than I do though.
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    Jun 06, 2011 8:51 PM GMT
    lol i feel like my mom would do the "i know" thing. i think she's catching on...