Am I missing something in Boston?

  • Teqkilla42

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    Jun 04, 2011 12:13 PM GMT
    The gay community seems to be, in a word, awful. Either that or I just can't find it. Is there any aspect of the gay community that's 18+ that isn't fucking Machine? I suppose I just expected a lot more out college students of diverse types since this is such a college city, or at least resources for college students, but I'm really finding nothing. Just a lot of people way too into drama and starving themselves.

    P.S. Don't know how this ended up in All Things Gay rather than Travel, sorry y'all.
  • JMex3

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    Jun 04, 2011 1:58 PM GMT
    I lived in Boston for 4 years in college and I wasn't out but I definitely saw a lot of gays walking around, but only the really flamboyant ones. I'm sure there's a gay scene in the bean though.
  • ohioguy12

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    Jun 04, 2011 2:00 PM GMT
    I'm moving to Boston in 2 months or so, and you have me worried.
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    Jun 04, 2011 2:04 PM GMT
    You're definitely missing out. It's incredible. There's tons of people in Boston, the vast majority are very liberal and friendly, and nobody really cares what you do and who you do! It's a great city to be young and single in! I'm moving back in a couple of months and can't WAIT!

    Or try hitting up Provincetown on Cape Cod in the summer. You'll be sure to find some fun there!
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    Jun 04, 2011 2:12 PM GMT
    from someone who just graduated from NEU, i'd sugest looking to NuPride. I went to a few meetings my freshman year as a way to meet other gays on campus.

    if you are looking to go out you could always go down to providence since they have a lot more 18+ things than Boston.

    there is also the FLAG FLAG football team which is a great way to meet guys in the city. you just need to get out there and break into the scene. boston guys are a little "clicky" but you need to put yourself out there.
  • Teqkilla42

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    Jun 04, 2011 2:25 PM GMT
    bostonrower88 saidfrom someone who just graduated from NEU, i'd sugest looking to NuPride. I went to a few meetings my freshman year as a way to meet other gays on campus.

    if you are looking to go out you could always go down to providence since they have a lot more 18+ things than Boston.

    there is also the FLAG FLAG football team which is a great way to meet guys in the city. you just need to get out there and break into the scene. boston guys are a little "clicky" but you need to put yourself out there.


    Thanks for the advice. I found the Beantown Softball League but the majority of their social events in Boston seem to be 18+. I'm in contact with them though, so I may join that or FLAG FLAG in the fall.

    I'll give NU Pride another shot, but they seemed to be like 95% lesbian the few meetings I attended! XD

    And hopefully it'll all get easier/better once I'm 21.
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    Jun 04, 2011 2:33 PM GMT
    yeah boston is more of a bar city and most events tend to be 21+.

    I wasnt a big club guy, but Providence has a lot more gay clubs that are 18+ so a lot of young boston gays will head down that way.

    NuPride was classed NUBILAGA when I was there and it did have more lezi's than anything, but I went to a few parties they hosted and I met a ton of guys from Harvard, BU, and NEU, so it may be worth it to give them another chance.

    my BF is on the board for FLAG FLAG and its a really great organization. you will meet a ton of nice guys. think they had a scrimmage this morning.
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    Jun 04, 2011 11:09 PM GMT
    Boston is really all about the groups, not the dance clubs. I hardly go to clubs. I've got plenty of gay friends, but it's all about interest groups. Lots of sports teams, etc.
  • Teqkilla42

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    Jun 05, 2011 2:33 PM GMT
    matt45710 saidBoston is really all about the groups, not the dance clubs. I hardly go to clubs. I've got plenty of gay friends, but it's all about interest groups. Lots of sports teams, etc.


    Thanks. Definitely doing FLAG Flag Football in the fall I've decided, so I'm excited for that. icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 07, 2011 4:55 AM GMT
    That's good, 'cause Boston is unofficially known as the "Attitude Capitol of the World" - like that's a good thing. icon_rolleyes.gif
    I had an e-pal who went to UMass-Boston and was in the Gay fraternity - not a contradiction in terms, it's out there for real. Delta Lambda Phi has a local "colony," in other words you can join no matter which college you attend. They work hard to not be stereotypical, for instance they have an anti-hookup rule so nobody can assume guys pledge just to get other members into bed. And you can't call their theme parties stereotypical since every frat under the sun has those - except the themes are probably different now and then. icon_wink.gif
    Sometimes there's nothing like knowing other Gay/bi/curious guys only as friends, and this seems to be a pretty good way.
    The scene HAS changed a lot since craigslist and all the other "usual" social/personals Websites have caught on. But that's only in terms of finding hookups and maybe serious dates. There are definitely lots and lots of organizations in town, but the down side is that you'll be relentlessly and not always subtly hit on if you take part. Accept the age-based flattery for what it is, and enjoy the ability to be choosy. Campus-based gay groups have become a lot less relevant as social outlets, but even in the best of times the membership did lean a lot towards the "activist" and "club kid" types.
    Boston - and the surrounding cities - are way ahead of a lot of the country in terms of accepting "people like us" without major problems. It's not like a loud convo will suddenly turn dead silent when you out yourself; more likely, the response will be, "Yeah, and...?" But homophobia's far from dead here all the same. So take reasonable precautions, like when you walk in a weight room and find half the football team there.
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    Jun 07, 2011 5:14 AM GMT
    my man, if you are spending all your time trying to figure out the gay scene then you are missing out on the greatest city in the world. this is my home, my heart - where i lay my head, where ill one day die. ive been all over the world and nowhere has a hold on me like Boston. if you are looking for some brotherhood or acceptance or love or whatever you should probably stop looking so hard and just enjoy yourself.
    ive lived here for the majority of my life and the last thing id ever describe the people of Boston as are 'way too into drama and starving themselves' so you must be doin something wrong!
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    Jun 07, 2011 5:18 AM GMT
    Shawnathan saidI opened this thinking it was about hockey icon_sad.gif


    not a good night for canada, eh?
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    Jun 07, 2011 5:58 AM GMT
    yeah, i'm on suicide watch tonight.
  • calibro

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    Jun 07, 2011 6:17 AM GMT
    like most communities, being under 21 will keep you from most things.