Help! Need advice on relationship issue

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    Jun 04, 2011 2:03 PM GMT
    Hi everyone, I'm currently in love with my straight friend who is my best friend. We always go out together few times a week for dinner or lunch. He doesn't know that I'm in love with him, so he treats me just like a normal best friend. However, I want more and more from him. I realize that it is impossible for him to love me back because he is truly straight. It drives me crazy and for some reasons, my life is all going wrong. I want to get rid of love toward him so I can continue my life normal again but I could not. Every time I meet him every week, I feel painful cos I cannot pour my affection toward him. But if I don't meet him, I miss him so much. And the worst is I don't want my other friends to join us for dinner or lunch cos I just want to have time together with him only. So I normally made lots of excuses for them not to join together which I feel bad.

    Is there a way where I can still meet him as best friend but without any love feeling? I definitely cannot confess my love to him cos I'm pretty sure he will break our friendship as I do not want that to happen.

    Your advices are much appreciated.

    Thanks.
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    Jun 04, 2011 4:10 PM GMT
    You need to be rational; if it hurts to meet him; don't meet him. If things were better when your friends were allowed, bring them back. You are killing yourself. I've been there. It either ends with accepting what you have with this person, or it ends in slowly breaking apart what you have over what you don't because he wants to be your friend, but as these dates get more frequent and the tension gets thicker, he'll feel it and it will drive him away. Most important, you feel it now and also have a limit.

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    Jun 04, 2011 4:30 PM GMT
    Does your friend know you are gay?

    I would say cut down on getting together with him so often (maybe just a couple of times a month) and look upon your friendship as a great understanding between a gay guy and a straight guy. I have had quite a few straight guys as friends in the past and it worked out pretty well.
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    Jun 04, 2011 4:34 PM GMT
    You aren't in love with him.
    You are infatuated with him and especially with the idea of forbidden fruit.