Not here for dating...

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    Jun 05, 2011 5:55 PM GMT
    Ive seen this many a times while browsing (stalking) hot members of Realjock, and I must question this.

    Im not here for dating as well, but If I were talking to someone close by and we hit it off, I wouldnt rule it out. It seems like there are few havens for gay men where being fit, not doing drugs, and being healthy (and single for a lot) are the norm, would you guys really rule eachother out because you met on RealJock?

    IF anything, this seems like THE site to date other people on.
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    Jun 05, 2011 6:00 PM GMT
    Not necessarily. I don't have a "dating/relationship" setup because I like to get to know someone at a friendship level first then whatever happens next happens. For me it has to be that order., Online chat> friendship> dating then if we click, relationship.
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    Jun 05, 2011 6:07 PM GMT
    I'm not here specifically for a date either, maybe a bit of comradeship but I wouldn't rule someone out especially if we shared romantic feelings.
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    Jun 05, 2011 6:18 PM GMT
    I don't rule out where I find the diamond. If its a friend, fine -- if it's an internet buddy, fine, or just a forum to vent, fine. At my stage of life, friends are better than hookups. I like most of your posts.
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    Jun 05, 2011 8:38 PM GMT
    You never know where or how you're going to meet someone. I've had friends now in long-term relationships who met on a hook-up site (8 years); at a bar (14 years); in high school (22 years); at the Barney's sale (4 years); in the BA lounge when their flight was delayed (3 years).

    Just be open to possibilities life may present you with. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 05, 2011 10:56 PM GMT
    NYBeef saidYou never know where or how you're going to meet someone. I've had friends now in long-term relationships who met on a hook-up site (8 years); at a bar (14 years); in high school (22 years); at the Barney's sale (4 years); in the BA lounge when their flight was delayed (3 years).

    Just be open to possibilities life may present you with. icon_biggrin.gif


    What a great comment, that has sure been my experience too.
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    Jun 05, 2011 11:03 PM GMT
    well you just have to stay opened to the possibility...but i think most people on here are openly gay and what not so they don't have a problem with separating online chats and forum posts with real life gay bars and all that...especially when they're hot cuz u know just about everyone hits on them... guys or girls...meh just my 2 cents...
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    Jun 05, 2011 11:10 PM GMT
    I'm not here for dating either...just the hookups with hotties. icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 05, 2011 11:14 PM GMT
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    Jun 05, 2011 11:18 PM GMT
    FUCK THAT SHIT. I'M HERE TO FIND MY BOYFRIEND! icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 05, 2011 11:19 PM GMT
    Not here for it neither
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    Jun 05, 2011 11:19 PM GMT
    swimbikerun said


    lmfao I'm dead
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    Jun 05, 2011 11:27 PM GMT
    dekiruman saidFUCK THAT SHIT. I'M HERE TO FIND MY BOYFRIEND! icon_lol.gif


    I love this response icon_smile.gif +1
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    Jun 05, 2011 11:47 PM GMT
    Lol I'm simply commenting about the fact that realjock is full of attractive fit intelligent single gay men who bitch about not being able to find intelligent attractive fit gay men. Seems like the rational thing to do is for is to keep each other open as an option other than closing those doors. Just food for thought.
  • marslee

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    Jun 06, 2011 12:04 AM GMT
    well,me too
    I`m here to make friend
    someone that I can talk to
    my parents don`t know,and lots my friend that around me also don`t know that I like guys.
    so that makes my life really hard,I have to keep the secret all the time.
    now my mom talk to me every week"go find a girlfriend" I don`t know how to answear that,I don`t want make her upset.

    feel free talk to me
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    Jun 06, 2011 12:09 AM GMT
    Wait, I'm confused.

    Are you talking about meeting people via the internet initially and then meeting them in person for actual real life dating....or "dating" people online only, wherein the only interaction is digital video/audio and not actual, tactile and olfactory?
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    Jun 06, 2011 12:19 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidYou just had to make a sentence and word it in a way to use the term olfactory, didn't you? icon_smile.gif


    Well...smell is important. Good ones and bad ones.
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    Jun 06, 2011 12:20 AM GMT
    Not here for hookups or dates. I'm not ruling anything out, but these just aren't my primary reason for being here.
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    Jun 06, 2011 12:31 AM GMT
    dekiruman saidFUCK THAT SHIT. I'M HERE TO FIND MY BOYFRIEND! icon_lol.gif



    lol good luck
  • calibro

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    Jun 06, 2011 12:38 AM GMT
    monogamy is for lesbians
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    Jun 06, 2011 1:09 AM GMT
    i'm open to the opportunity. i don't believe in spitting in the universe's face. it throws me a bone, better believe i'm grabbing it.
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    Jun 06, 2011 1:10 AM GMT
    I just approach it with no expectations and it turns out okay haha.


    I think the best way to meet someone is to stay open to possibilities. The more you set parameters, the smaller your filter gets and the greater your chance of being alone.

    Yeah, the description you get of the person to some degree is their ability to sell themselves to others. It's a skill and some just don't have it. It doesn't mean they are bad people or bad matches, it just means you need to talk to them before you judge them by their profile, which is probably filled with incoherent nonsense anyway (*confirms by looking at his own*)
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 06, 2011 1:12 AM GMT
    Certainly some great friendships, but I already have someone I'm "dating" and have for 12 years...LOL
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    Jun 06, 2011 1:14 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidBeing thrown a bone....!


    Hymph!

    That sounds so tawdrily sexual!


    And.....!



    That....!


    excites me!!!!!!!!!!!


    LOLicon_lol.gif
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    Jun 06, 2011 2:07 AM GMT
    I wasn't here for dating, especially since I'm pretty new to having feelings for guys and stuff, but things just happen.

    There are tons of smart and great guys on this place; you'd be crazy to not give them a shot. However, I will say that I don't think I'd actively seek to date anyone...but if it happens, it happens.