Stop feeling sorry for yourself!

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    Jun 05, 2011 8:23 PM GMT
    Lately it feels like a lot of guys are being down on themselves for not having a boyfriend. Stop being downers and make the most of your life. Join a sports team, join a book club or volunteer at a shelter. Just go out and make friends. You never know where things can end up. You have something to offer and someone out there would be lucky to have you. Just go out and live life. Use your single time as a self discovery period and learn about yourself. You'll probably discover new things about yourself that you would have never imagined.

    I wish you guys all the best! icon_biggrin.gif <3
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    Jun 05, 2011 8:26 PM GMT

    I think I just learned how to slash my wrists and type at the same time...icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Jun 05, 2011 8:27 PM GMT

    TrevorMark...are you following me??? icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Jun 05, 2011 8:28 PM GMT
    TrevorMark said


    PREACH IT!
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    Jun 05, 2011 8:28 PM GMT
    EasyEight said
    TrevorMark...are you following me??? icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

    Nope! But you could TOTALLY see it that way and I wouldn't mind. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 05, 2011 9:13 PM GMT
    I wonder who this thread was for icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 05, 2011 9:17 PM GMT
    RBaker2689 said Join gay sports team, icon_biggrin.gif <3


    Better yet: just join ANY sports team. Not everything and every word in the dictionary has to have "gay" in front of it.
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    Jun 05, 2011 9:22 PM GMT
    FearTheFall saidI wonder who this thread was for icon_rolleyes.gif


    Honestly, no one in particular.

    rnycBetter yet: just join ANY sports team. Not everything and every word in the dictionary has to have "gay" in front of it.


    I agree with you on that.
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    Jun 05, 2011 9:40 PM GMT
    RBaker2689 said
    TrevorMark said[You don't need a boyfriend to feel good]

    PREACH IT!

    +1
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    Jun 05, 2011 10:05 PM GMT
    Studinprogress said
    RBaker2689 said
    TrevorMark said[You don't need a boyfriend to feel good]

    PREACH IT!

    +1


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    Jun 05, 2011 10:23 PM GMT
    rnyc said
    RBaker2689 said Join gay sports team, icon_biggrin.gif <3


    Better yet: just join ANY sports team. Not everything and every word in the dictionary has to have "gay" in front of it.

    Totally agree, but that must be shocking news for many.
  • Webster666

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    Jun 05, 2011 10:43 PM GMT
    Some guys are lazy.
    Some guys have mental or emotional or physical problems that wear them down.
    Some guys are not driven or ambitious.
    Some guys are not outgoing.
    Some guys don't know where to turn for help.
    Some guys ask for help but they don't get it.
    Some guys have been beaten down by life and they've stopped getting up.


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    Jun 06, 2011 1:28 AM GMT
    I understand what you are saying. Back then, I used to be down about not having a boyfriend but I realized that I shouldn't be. So I just picked myself up and did things I enjoyed which was art and music. I love to draw and play guitar and well, whenever I do feel down about being single, I just bust out a pencil and draw or play my acoustic guitar, then I feel a lot better because I have something to do that makes me happy. icon_smile.gif

    So yeah, totally agree with where you are coming from.
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    Jun 06, 2011 2:01 AM GMT
    rnyc said
    RBaker2689 said Join gay sports team, icon_biggrin.gif <3


    Better yet: just join ANY sports team. Not everything and every word in the dictionary has to have "gay" in front of it.


    I think he was referring to being able to find a bf without stopping life. Though possible the chances of finding a gay guy on the one sports team you just happen to join is minimal. Most would just have to settle for staring at str8 guys, dream of conversion, and personal absorption of the "straight acting standard". Not the healthiest of road maps either. Find the happy medium boyos
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    Jun 06, 2011 2:07 AM GMT
    Thank you for starting this thread, RBaker2689. You are giving us plenty of food for thought.

    For those that are down in the dumps for various reasons, it is really tough to turn the lights out on the pity party. I'm guilty of things like that in my past.
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    Jun 06, 2011 2:12 AM GMT
    My suggestion is think of all the things you miss out on when u don't have a bf... Pleasant in laws, fun family events times two, conforming to another persons schedule, possibly sharing space, blowing money, doing things u hate for someone else and a huge surge followed by a steady decrescendo of sexual activity with no other options. Being single isn't a death sentence. Getting married and having kids is. Patience is a virtue. Have fun while you can. I know I am! Especially with summer just starting (for some), there is plenty for you to explore and enjoy! Take advantage!
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    Jun 06, 2011 2:17 AM GMT
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    Jun 06, 2011 2:25 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    turtleneckjock saidThank you for starting this thread, RBaker2689. You are giving us plenty of food for thought.

    For those that are down in the dumps for various reasons, it is really tough to turn the lights out on the pity party.
    I'm guilty of things like that in my past.

    Yes you are.. but with a little help from your friends.. you can turn that all around.
    One of the hardest things I see people getting past is their childhood traumas, so often it carries over into their adulthood and emotionally they stay that little child and suffer from Angry Child Syndrome when things don't go their way..


    My long lost brother is following me...and is correct. Sometimes childhood traumas visit during certain times of the year. It's hard to bury things like that for good, because it is a consistant reminder, however......When it comes to the big picture, things aren't so bad. It is a good feeling to have friends who do care and correct one's mindset.
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    Jun 06, 2011 2:29 AM GMT
    Thanks for the pep talk. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 06, 2011 2:31 AM GMT
    NOBODY LOVES ME. I'LL NEVER FIND A MAN. I'M UGLY AND STUPID AND FAT.


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    Jun 06, 2011 2:51 AM GMT
    When my eleven year relationship ended, I had to grieve it out. The greatest thing to help me move past it was re-entering college.

    But I have to agree with what Webster666 said:
    Some guys are lazy.
    Some guys have mental or emotional or physical problems that wear them down.
    Some guys are not driven or ambitious.
    Some guys are not outgoing.
    Some guys don't know where to turn for help.
    Some guys ask for help but they don't get it.
    Some guys have been beaten down by life and they've stopped getting up.

    I appreciate RBaker2689's sentiment, but some things have to be processed and they take their own time.
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    Jun 06, 2011 2:55 AM GMT
    n8698u said

    I appreciate RBaker2689's sentiment, but some things have to be processed and they take their own time.


    I agree with you that after a long term relationship ends, that people do need to grieve and just feel what they feel. The topic of this thread is more along the lines of a guy who has been single for a long period of time and he is being too hard on himself.
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    Jun 06, 2011 2:56 AM GMT
    dekiruman saidNOBODY LOVES ME. I'LL NEVER FIND A MAN. I'M UGLY AND STUPID AND FAT.


    You're not fat. icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 06, 2011 2:58 AM GMT
    Webster666 saidSome guys are lazy.
    Some guys have mental or emotional or physical problems that wear them down.
    Some guys are not driven or ambitious.
    Some guys are not outgoing.
    Some guys don't know where to turn for help.
    Some guys ask for help but they don't get it.
    Some guys have been beaten down by life and they've stopped getting up.





    your post gave me the chills, probably because some of those statements strike very close to home.