Very Hard to Find (Part 2)

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    Jun 05, 2011 10:25 PM GMT
    As mentioned before what I am looking for is very hard to find. From part 1, my good friend's BF is a personal trainer and have been helpin me a little bit, but its hard for me to get to his gym because of the distance I have to travel. Anyway, is still hard to find a great guy that's my type. Not into skinny or overweight, it's a set and permanent preference. Besides that, heading into a gym seeing all the buff guys, I attend to get a little scared but I truck on. My EX was a muscleguy and its very hard to find another like him. I am trying to put on some weight, not only for looks, for self-confidence. I do sing so at my one friend's 21st bday party, me & her sang in front of a crowded bar. That was a huge boost in confindence in me and we still do it each chance we get. I was chubby in high school and lost it all due to the work I do and stopped eating junkfood and drinking pop. I don't how the heck I went from 170lbs to 130lbs in 1 year. I maintain my 130lbs as of right now at the age of 24yo. Its not healthy. I feel like a weakling. With that being said, I do get picked on ALOT because of my "woman weight" and its becoming annoying. Back to the main topic, I still haven't find the buff guy of my dreams yet, and still looking. Internet is ZERO help Hahaha. Still attracting the skinny & overweight guys that I am NOT attracted too. Just need a some more advice from you guys.
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    Jun 06, 2011 1:15 AM GMT
    This thread is all over the place, so I'm a little lost. I think I got the gist of it though and it seems you need to lower your standards.

    It's okay to be attracted to muscular guys, but to limit yourself to just muscular ones seems a bit ridiculous. I use to be the same until I realized that there are plenty of sexy guys our there that aren't in perfect shape. Maybe try limiting your men to just BEING in shape rather than being the cream of the crop?

    You'll likely never find the man of your dreams. I don't believe in that. However, you will probably find a man that you love and that loves you back, imperfections and all.
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    Jun 06, 2011 1:50 AM GMT
    Gaydar saidThis thread is all over the place, so I'm a little lost. I think I got the gist of it though and it seems you need to lower your standards.

    It's okay to be attracted to muscular guys, but to limit yourself to just muscular ones seems a bit ridiculous. I use to be the same until I realized that there are plenty of sexy guys our there that aren't in perfect shape. Maybe try limiting your men to just BEING in shape rather than being the cream of the crop?

    You'll likely never find the man of your dreams. I don't believe in that. However, you will probably find a man that you love and that loves you back, imperfections and all.


    My bad, randomly thinking, but you are right. I need to stop focusing on one thing 'cuz it'lll never happen. And EVERYTHING comes with a sacrifice.
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    Jun 06, 2011 2:15 AM GMT
    Trust me, you'll be much happier!
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    Jun 06, 2011 2:26 AM GMT
    Gaydar saidTrust me, you'll be much happier!


    Ditto! Don't get tunnel vision when it comes to finding guys... and it might even help to not even focus on getting in a relationship. Focus on yourself because it seems that will make you happy... work out, gain weight, hang out with new/old friends, enjoy what you do when you do it. And if a guy happens to pick you up, then that's a bonus! You can say "Yay" or "Nay" depending on if you like him or not.
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    Jun 06, 2011 9:44 PM GMT
    Like what Gaydar said,

    Maybe you should try lowering your standards. I was like you as well only I'm slim (but exercising in hopes of getting a little bigger) and I was completely into Muscular guys and not so much other slim or overweight guys. But I learned that I shouldn't limit myself to just muscular guys. Don't get me wrong, muscular guys still turn me on till this day but I learned that "hotness" or "sexyness" can come from any body type. Like now, I accept to be attracted to slim toned guys (as long as they aren't like dead skinny) and slightly bigger guys (as long as they aren't obese or morbidly obese).

    I still think you are entitled to do what you like. I just provide a different perspective so that maybe you'd have some luck. At the end of the day, you like what you like but try to broaden yourself a little more. I wish you the best in finding your guy, I'm sure he's out there somewhere. Just keep looking icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 10, 2011 1:43 AM GMT
    Thanks. I really appreciate it a whole lot. icon_smile.gif