INAPPROPRIATE & UNWANTED ATTENTION: Situations that you received "inappropriate" attention from another guy

  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 06, 2011 2:12 AM GMT
    So most of us have been hit on by guys we'd rather not, but here I'm really asking you to discuss a situation or those experiences (plural) in which you received attention from some guy that was absolutely inappropriate...

    I have 2... My married piano teacher who I had when I was in 3rd grade (8 years old!) saw me online and has hit on me. He still tries to be friendly to me on Facebook and unfortunately saw me and my partner in the mall last weekend. I'm about ready to tell him to f** off....... if he doesn't quit the cute commentary...

    Second, a neighbor several years ago hit on me.... the father of a girl I was in high school with (in the same class!) I knew them when I was 9 years old! He was married for years and his wife finally died of cancer in 2001.
    He admitted online that he used to drive up the road just to see if I was mowing the lawn. Kind of made me sick... but I always thought his son (who was 2 years younger than me) was really cute... and I told him that.
    "Hey I think your son is hot".... LOL (the son is married and straight).

    You guys?
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    Jun 06, 2011 2:19 AM GMT
    when i was 18 i admitted i was gay on myspace, i guess being one of the few gay people in the area i got some attention because sometime after that i sort of got stalked by this guy whom i've still never met. eventually i ran into him at the supermarket and he got behind my in line and lightly slid his hand down the back of my jacket in the creepiest way possible of course. he seems to have laid off though since then. he used to stare so bad it scared me.

    countless nasty requests on hook up sites, sometimes the same person will send me about 5 per an account on different sites, i guess everyone gets those though. idk why i even have an account for those sites. just keeping my options open to meet someone i guess.
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    Jun 06, 2011 3:15 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    HndsmKansan said

    My married piano teacher who I had when I was in 3rd grade (8 years old!) saw me online and has hit on me.

    Second I knew them when I was 9 years old!
    He admitted online that he used to drive up the road just to see if I was mowing the lawn. Kind of made me sick... but I always thought his son (who was 2 years younger than me) was really cute... and I told him that.
    "Hey I think your son is hot".... LOL (the son is married and straight).

    You guys?


    Sounds like you are a pedophiliac magnet. icon_wink.gif


    Adrien, I pointed out I knew both men as a child, they weren't attracted to me until I was an "out" gay man.... geez...

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  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 06, 2011 3:16 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidMe?

    I don't get stalked for very long.


    I'm too good with one of these to have someone bother me for extended periods of time:

    gun1.jpg





    Um, what happened to the neighbor who bothered you so much???

    LOL
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    Jun 06, 2011 4:46 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    HndsmKansan said
    Adrien, I pointed out I knew both men as a child, they weren't attracted to me until I was an "out" gay man.... geez...

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    Sawry....I was confused. icon_cry.gif


    Muchmorethanmuscle, I'm gonna say this on this thread due to the title.

    Really nice new pic. If I fly out to Chicago can I please eat sushi off of you? I swear I'll be a good boy!

    If you want the gun out too I'm into kinky shit like that too icon_smile.gif
  • wild_sky360

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    Jun 06, 2011 7:41 AM GMT
    Chainers said
    <.

    Really nice new pic. If I fly out to Chicago can I please eat sushi off of you? I swear I'll be a good boy!

    If you want the gun out too I'm into kinky shit like that too icon_smile.gif


    Can I come too?
    You guys are both smokin
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    Jun 06, 2011 8:26 AM GMT
    wild_sky360 said
    Can I come too?
    You guys are both smokin


    Ladies(?) and gentlemen, Exhibit D!
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    Jun 06, 2011 4:52 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidDid not think my new pic would be so well received. In fact, I took that pic after being awake for two days.

    But sure, sushi works. I am a sushi fan myself as well. icon_wink.gif


    Deal, Im gonna eat the power of love roll off of ya, because your all heart big guy :-).
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    Jun 06, 2011 5:01 PM GMT
    FearTheFall said
    wild_sky360 said
    Can I come too?
    You guys are both smokin


    Ladies(?) and gentlemen, Exhibit D!


    Dude! That was so mean and only somewhat true.
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    Jun 06, 2011 5:02 PM GMT
    waimea said
    FearTheFall said
    wild_sky360 said
    Can I come too?
    You guys are both smokin


    Ladies(?) and gentlemen, Exhibit D!


    Dude! That was so mean and only somewhat true.


    Waimea, I see you have yet to meet FeartheFall.

    He is our resident king troll.

    FeartheFall meet Waimea, the only faceless man I would ever talk to, lol.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 06, 2011 5:05 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    HndsmKansan said

    Um, what happened to the neighbor who bothered you so much???

    LOL


    Let's just say....


    She's not longer .. a problem.. icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif


    (gulp)....!

    LOL
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    Jun 06, 2011 5:18 PM GMT
    waimea said
    FearTheFall said
    wild_sky360 said
    Can I come too?
    You guys are both smokin


    Ladies(?) and gentlemen, Exhibit D!


    Dude! That was so mean and only somewhat true.


    That replaces his "You cruise you lose" "trademark"...LOL.
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    Jun 06, 2011 7:52 PM GMT
    At the gym, I was waiting for an elderly, caucasian gentleman to finish up with a machine. When he finished, I noticed he was handicapped... his entire left side was very weak.

    He tried to wipe the machine down, but had difficulty handling the spray bottle and wipe cloth at the same time. He dropped the spray bottle.

    I stepped in front of him and said, "I got it" since I was going to use the machine anyway. He let me wipe the machine down, but stayed behind me. As I was about to settle into the machine, he leaned over from behind and said, "You could come home with me". I kinda looked over my shoulder and shot him a you're-not-serious-look, but I was pretty much speechless. He continued and said, "Yes, that would be fun". I said "No thanks", ***with a freaking polite smile on my face*** and settled into the machine. He shuffled off.

    I hadn't realized how pissed I was, cuz when I happened to look over to the guy beside me while I was doing a set, the dude quickly looked away like a frightened turtle. I think I was slamming the machine pretty hard hahaha.

    I swore to myself that if that "gentleman" tried that again, I'd cripple his other half.
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    Jun 06, 2011 8:07 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    waimea said
    FearTheFuckup said
    wild_sky360 said
    Can I come too?
    You guys are both smokin


    Ladies(?) and gentlemen, Exhibit D!



    I don't know who FearTheFuckUp thinks he is. But I enjoy wild_sky's contributions to the thread. And I am not referring to his comment here. He is knowledgeable about supplementation and provides a lot of people here with valuable information and is friendly. What does FearTheFuckUp provide us with other than his inflammatory banter at other people's expense.

    Aside from being an asshole he has no place making inferences about other people's physical appearances. He should look in the mirror

    You are exhibit "L" FTF. For LOSER.

    I blocked his ass a long time ago.


    Leave FeartheFall alone, cant you see the man has mental issues?

    We should outreach to him, not cast him down.
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    Jun 06, 2011 8:08 PM GMT
    nerdjock76 saidAt the gym, I was waiting for an elderly, caucasian gentleman to finish up with a machine. When he finished, I noticed he was handicapped... his entire left side was very weak.

    He tried to wipe the machine down, but had difficulty handling the spray bottle and wipe cloth at the same time. He dropped the spray bottle.

    I stepped in front of him and said, "I got it" since I was going to use the machine anyway. He let me wipe the machine down, but stayed behind me. As I was about to settle into the machine, he leaned over from behind and said, "You could come home with me". I kinda looked over my shoulder and shot him a you're-not-serious-look, but I was pretty much speechless. He continued and said, "Yes, that would be fun". I said "No thanks", ***with a freaking polite smile on my face*** and settled into the machine. He shuffled off.

    I hadn't realized how pissed I was, cuz when I happened to look over to the guy beside me while I was doing a set, the dude quickly looked away like a frightened turtle. I think I was slamming the machine pretty hard hahaha.

    I swore to myself that if that "gentleman" tried that again, I'd cripple his other half.


    Ive had this happen before. It kind of pisses me off, that people will assume being nice=fuck the shit out of me, it makes me want to be a bad person to people im not attracted to.
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    Jun 06, 2011 8:09 PM GMT
    i went to a club(gay)

    and they wouldn't let me out of the bathroom i was so scared the guy was bigger i'm so small so i screamed until someone heard me

    from their on i took boxing classes
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    Jun 06, 2011 8:13 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    nerdjock76 said

    I hadn't realized how pissed I was, cuz when I happened to look over to the guy beside me while I was doing a set, the dude quickly looked away like a frightened turtle. I think I was slamming the machine pretty hard hahaha.

    I swore to myself that if that "gentleman" tried that again, I'd cripple his other half.


    Ive had this happen before. It kind of pisses me off, that people will assume being nice=fuck the shit out of me, it makes me want to be a bad person to people im not attracted to.



    Here I was thinking how nice it was that Nerdjock took the time to help the elderly guy. I would have reacted the same.

    Sometimes those who sense that another person is being "nice" will take that as "weakness", meaning that their "niceness" precludes them from becoming an SOB with someone who deserves a tongue lashing.
    I too would have helped the elderly man... and would have done precisely the same thing had the man made the same comment to me... (not sure about crippling the other side, but he would have thought twice before making such a comment.)
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    Jun 06, 2011 8:14 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan said
    Chainers said
    nerdjock76 said

    I hadn't realized how pissed I was, cuz when I happened to look over to the guy beside me while I was doing a set, the dude quickly looked away like a frightened turtle. I think I was slamming the machine pretty hard hahaha.

    I swore to myself that if that "gentleman" tried that again, I'd cripple his other half.


    Ive had this happen before. It kind of pisses me off, that people will assume being nice=fuck the shit out of me, it makes me want to be a bad person to people im not attracted to.



    Here I was thinking how nice it was that Nerdjock took the time to help the elderly guy. I would have reacted the same.

    Sometimes those who sense that another person is being "nice" will take that as "weakness", meaning that their "niceness" precludes them from becoming an SOB with someone who deserves a tongue lashing.
    I too would have helped the elderly man... and would have done precisely the same thing had the man made the same comment to me... (not sure about crippling the other side, but he would have thought twice before making such a comment.)


    I wouldnt say that they see being nice as a weakness, but too many people take being nice as a way of saying "hey Im being nice because I want you to fuck the shit out of me" as opposed to it being "Hey, Im being nice because I noticed you needed some help and Im a nice guy."

    Its a shame gay men, a shame!
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    Jun 06, 2011 8:20 PM GMT
    Aww.... you guys are the best! Thanks for the sympathy :-D.

    I was completely all right about it after smashing the machine (poor machine) and chowing down on my post-workout sandwich (poor sandwich). I'd seen the fellow a few times after that, but only in passing. I made sure to avoid his ass... I'd hate to have to cripple him again. I've switched gyms as well, and I haven't had any repeats since then. Just one bad apple.
  • tgrissom0312

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    Jun 06, 2011 8:25 PM GMT
    I had just finished a long workout and headed my way down to the showers.

    The showers have walls but no curtains. There are 8 'stalls' 4 on each side. Well, I'm getting my soap on and keeping my face towards the shower head and really wasn't paying attention to if anyone else was coming in or out.

    I shut off the water and start drying off...still facing the shower head...when this voice directly behind me starts asking me if I had a good workout.

    First, if no one else is in the shower area, why get the one straight across from me. (just a preference on my part, i guess) and second, don't start up a conversation with me while i'm drying off. lol

    He starts talking about how he's going home to get a massage from his girlfriend and asks if I like massages. I ignored his question and just replied with 'sounds like you've got a great girlfriend.' His only reply was 'well, you don't have to live with her.' After that I just walked off.

    I'm all about someone striking up a conversation in the locker room, just wait until I'm not bending over to dry my legs! lol
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    Jun 06, 2011 8:56 PM GMT
    FearTheFall said
    wild_sky360 said
    Can I come too?
    You guys are both smokin


    Ladies(?) and gentlemen, Exhibit D!



    wild_sky360, don't you know that you and I have both reached an age that it is inappropriate to make comments on the attractiveness of others? It makes some people too uncomfortable. Stick with activities approved for our age, like watching Judge Judy or filling your weekly pill organizer.
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    Jun 06, 2011 8:59 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    HndsmKansan said
    Chainers said
    nerdjock76 said

    I hadn't realized how pissed I was, cuz when I happened to look over to the guy beside me while I was doing a set, the dude quickly looked away like a frightened turtle. I think I was slamming the machine pretty hard hahaha.

    I swore to myself that if that "gentleman" tried that again, I'd cripple his other half.


    Ive had this happen before. It kind of pisses me off, that people will assume being nice=fuck the shit out of me, it makes me want to be a bad person to people im not attracted to.



    Here I was thinking how nice it was that Nerdjock took the time to help the elderly guy. I would have reacted the same.

    Sometimes those who sense that another person is being "nice" will take that as "weakness", meaning that their "niceness" precludes them from becoming an SOB with someone who deserves a tongue lashing.
    I too would have helped the elderly man... and would have done precisely the same thing had the man made the same comment to me... (not sure about crippling the other side, but he would have thought twice before making such a comment.)


    I wouldnt say that they see being nice as a weakness, but too many people take being nice as a way of saying "hey Im being nice because I want you to fuck the shit out of me" as opposed to it being "Hey, Im being nice because I noticed you needed some help and Im a nice guy."

    Its a shame gay men, a shame!


    This.

    Is probably why I do not go out of my way to help strangers very often.
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    Jun 06, 2011 10:20 PM GMT
    I wasn't gonna comment but I saw who the OP is, and since he's one of the guys that I really respect and has been nice to me I will contribute my story. Hope you guys don't mind reading.

    This actually is still kinda happening right now. There is this guy at my gym, and on Mondays, like clockwork, would just keep showing up at the same time that I do, and seem to be following my routine. My gym is split into two main areas, connected by a large hall. Whenever I am at side A, he would be at side A too, and whenever I am at side B, he would there too. It's like he was following me. And he would always stay in the field of my view. I thought i might be must imagining things until two Mondays ago. I was doing kettle bell swings, besides another guy who is a trainer (who, btw is smoking hot and cute at the same time). My "routine stalker" asked me, with a sly look on this face, if I noticed my butt getting tighter with that kind of workout. And while I was thinking that it was a really inappropriate thing to ask a total stranger, I just pointed to the trainer and said, "oh you should ask him for fitness tips, he's the trainer.". Phew, good safety net there!

    I hope I don't see him again later tonight. It disrupts my workout and I can't concentrate. icon_sad.gif
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    Jun 06, 2011 10:21 PM GMT
    cityaznguy saidI wasn't gonna comment but I saw who the OP is, and since he's one of the guys that I really respect and has been nice to me I will contribute my story. Hope you guys don't mind reading.

    This actually is still kinda happening right now. There is this guy at my gym, and on Mondays, like clockwork, would just keep showing up at the same time that I do, and seem to be following my routine. My gym is split into two main areas, connected by a large hall. Whenever I am at side A, he would be at side A too, and whenever I am at side B, he would there too. It's like he was following me. And he would always stay in the field of my view. I thought i might be must imagining things until two Mondays ago. I was doing kettle bell swings, besides another guy who is a trainer (who, btw is smoking hot and cute at the same time). My "routine stalker" asked me, with a sly look on this face, if I noticed my butt getting tighter with that kind of workout. And while I was thinking that it was a really inappropriate thing to ask a total stranger, I just pointed to the trainer and said, "oh you should ask him for fitness tips, he's the trainer.". Phew, good safety net there!

    I hope I don't see him again later tonight. It disrupts my workout and I can't concentrate. icon_sad.gif


    Good story E, but Im confused. Im not the OP...
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    Jun 06, 2011 10:25 PM GMT
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    cityaznguy saidI wasn't gonna comment but I saw who the OP is, and since he's one of the guys that I really respect and has been nice to me I will contribute my story. Hope you guys don't mind reading.

    This actually is still kinda happening right now. There is this guy at my gym, and on Mondays, like clockwork, would just keep showing up at the same time that I do, and seem to be following my routine. My gym is split into two main areas, connected by a large hall. Whenever I am at side A, he would be at side A too, and whenever I am at side B, he would there too. It's like he was following me. And he would always stay in the field of my view. I thought i might be must imagining things until two Mondays ago. I was doing kettle bell swings, besides another guy who is a trainer (who, btw is smoking hot and cute at the same time). My "routine stalker" asked me, with a sly look on this face, if I noticed my butt getting tighter with that kind of workout. And while I was thinking that it was a really inappropriate thing to ask a total stranger, I just pointed to the trainer and said, "oh you should ask him for fitness tips, he's the trainer.". Phew, good safety net there!

    I hope I don't see him again later tonight. It disrupts my workout and I can't concentrate. icon_sad.gif


    Good story E, but Im confused. Im not the OP...


    LMAO! Aww you'll always be my top 5. icon_biggrin.gif