Delayed Texting

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    Jun 06, 2011 6:45 AM GMT
    There are a couple people who I text who don't respond quickly to me. If I ask questions sometimes they don't respond at all with no explanation. I have to send another text reiterating what the hell I just said just to get a response.

    But these people expect prompt responses from me and answers to their questions. I feel like they are not legitimately busy thought I can't be sure of that. I typically respond quickly and answer all their questions but I feel like I should just start ignoring people just because it really getting on my nerves.

    Has anyone experienced this. Am I overreacting, is it normal and I need to get over it or should I just stop texting them? Any advice.
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    Jun 06, 2011 7:07 AM GMT
    This mindset is why people get killed texting and driving.
    I seldom respond right away unless it's convenient.
    I often wait (driving, working, busy, low battery, etc) and forget about it till later or even the next day.
    And "textersations" are one of my pet peeves.
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    Jun 06, 2011 7:11 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidThis mindset is why people get killed texting and driving.
    I seldom respond right away unless it's convenient.
    I often wait (driving, working, busy, low battery, etc) and forget about it till later or even the next day.
    And "textersations" are one of my pet peeves.


    Well, I know they are not driving, they don't have cars and we are students so they are sitting in their dorms on their asses just like most of us.
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    Jun 06, 2011 7:17 AM GMT
    omg i hate that shit

    i ask someone a question and they answer it the next day wtf fuck u bitch y u dont answer back to busy sucking cock bitch wtf bitch get a room and so easy texting dumb lazy bitch
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    Jun 06, 2011 7:19 AM GMT
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    Jun 06, 2011 9:11 AM GMT
    Some people aren't glued to their phone. I often don't hear it beep when I get a text, so messages may not get a reply till much later.
    I've also had messages take about 6 hours to arrive after sending when I was abroad (sender in the same country).
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    Jun 06, 2011 9:15 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    And "textersations" are one of my pet peeves.


    If someone's doing that I'm thinking someone else is in the picture.



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    Jun 06, 2011 12:27 PM GMT
    kew1 saidSome people aren't glued to their phone. I often don't hear it beep when I get a text, so messages may not get a reply till much later.


    ^ This.
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    Jun 06, 2011 12:36 PM GMT
    Here's my take on texting. Texting is some something that is quick and doesn't require a whole lot of conversation that can be done within a few phrases. I usually respond immediately, or as soon as I can (I don't drive and text).

    If something is so important, I call directly instead of texting. If they are really busy, I leave a voice mail, and maybe follow up with a text. About 95% of the time I have a favorable response by calling directly when it's important.

    It's just me, but I usually don't like to have a full fledge conversation through a text session. 1. It's inconvenient, and 2. Do really sound that bad?
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    Jun 06, 2011 1:20 PM GMT
    SoloXCRacer saidHere's my take on texting. Texting is some something that is quick and doesn't require a whole lot of conversation that can be done within a few phrases. I usually respond immediately, or as soon as I can (I don't drive and text).

    If something is so important, I call directly instead of texting. If they are really busy, I leave a voice mail, and maybe follow up with a text. About 95% of the time I have a favorable response by calling directly when it's important.

    It's just me, but I usually don't like to have a full fledge conversation through a text session. 1. It's inconvenient, and 2. Do really sound that bad?


    You advice is great. The only thing is that most of my generation are texters and unfortunately entire convos will be had through text even arguments because no one wants to say anything face to face. I will often get told things that I wouldn't other wise be told. So I kinda have to go with the text flow. It's like this young generation is terrified of dealing with the tough conversations that need to be had. And these are tomorrow's businessmen and diplomats, etc. Who's going to run things? Who run the world? Girls.
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    Jun 06, 2011 1:41 PM GMT
    I typically respond to text messages either instantaneously or within 5 minutes of receiving them--that's assuming that I'm not particularly busy or tied up. If I'm unable to respond completely to a message because I'm not in a position to do so, I would generally text back and say "I will text you back later." I have learned not to expect the same degree of promptness from the people I text because there's no way for me to tell with a fair amount of certainty if the person I'm texting is busy. This approach also saves me from aggravation because I already have the mindset that the person I'm texting may or may not respond promptly.
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    Jun 06, 2011 1:57 PM GMT
    You could take the passive-aggressive attitude and delay responding to people just because they didn't respond to your message right away. I find that useful if I want to keep frustration and anger inside of me, and also limit my communication skills.

    OR

    You could just realize that people do have lives and priorities other than responding to an informal conversation such as a text/email.

    -I simply respond at my earliest convenience.
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    Jun 06, 2011 2:07 PM GMT

    I think texting is the dumbest thing EVER!! If ya wanna talk to someone, just friggin' call them!!
    I wonder how long it will be, in the evolutionary world, before man loses his ability to speak..... icon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 06, 2011 2:13 PM GMT
    If it's that important that you need an immediate response - CALL!!!
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    Jun 06, 2011 2:17 PM GMT
    Make sure your sound is on!


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    Jun 06, 2011 2:27 PM GMT
    It's an excuse to say that your generation doesn't do it a certain way so you won't do it either. I'd rather see you use common sense rather than following the crowd. If it's important or urgent call them up. You're making yourself paranoid and anxious all because of texting.

    For myself, I text a majority of the time because it's cheaper than calling someone but I'm not conjoined to my phone. Odds are there's never anything that important that needs constant updating, most people like to seem to be doing something all the time.
  • atlsexyone

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    Jun 06, 2011 2:29 PM GMT
    Treat texting as if it were email.

    If you need an immediate response, pick up the phone and call like you use to BEFORE texting came along.
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    Jun 06, 2011 2:52 PM GMT
    What could you possibly have to text to your schoolmates that is so urgent?
    Most likely, your texts don't deserve any response at all, nevermind a prompt one.
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    Jun 06, 2011 3:03 PM GMT
    Texting is easier here because there is so much noise on the streets if I'm out in public; it's hard to have a conversation when there is construction going on or crowds of people.

    However, most of the time my phone is on vibrate and I may not see a message till hours later. Sometimes I forget to check and don't respond till the next day. My friends know this so they don't get angry with me if I don't immediately text back or return a voice mail.

    I've had friends in the past who would get angry if I didn't text back as soon as I received their text or if I didn't answer their calls....but I don't hang out with them anymore.
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    Jun 06, 2011 5:22 PM GMT
    East_Village_Idiot saidTexting is easier here because there is so much noise on the streets if I'm out in public; it's hard to have a conversation when there is construction going on or crowds of people.
    However, most of the time my phone is on vibrate and I may not see a message till hours later. Sometimes I forget to check and don't respond till the next day. My friends know this so they don't get angry with me if I don't immediately text back or return a voice mail.
    I've had friends in the past who would get angry if I didn't text back as soon as I received their text or if I didn't answer their calls....but I don't hang out with them anymore.


    One of the FEW exceptions...this I can understand. I also live in an area called The Cove...about four minutes up the hill from Palm Springs..and we're "country-fied" up here. There are no towers close by so reception is not always that great. For that reason, I will use my land-line or Skype.
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    Jun 06, 2011 5:25 PM GMT
    Yes, texting is impersonal but thats what I like about it, fuck long winded conversations.

    Plus, the way I view it, if it were urgent and needs a reply ASAP (such as you going to this event, and so forth) then pick up the damn phone and call me.

    If it is based on my convenience, then texting is perfect.
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    Jun 06, 2011 7:48 PM GMT
    jim_e saidIt's an excuse to say that your generation doesn't do it a certain way so you won't do it either. I'd rather see you use common sense rather than following the crowd. If it's important or urgent call them up. You're making yourself paranoid and anxious all because of texting.

    For myself, I text a majority of the time because it's cheaper than calling someone but I'm not conjoined to my phone. Odds are there's never anything that important that needs constant updating, most people like to seem to be doing something all the time.


    This is not true. I was saying that that's how the majority is. And if I call someone or try to have a face to face they won't tell me everything. They seem to reveal the things they don't want to say in text. And that's how a lot of young people just are.
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    Jun 06, 2011 9:40 PM GMT
    I always tell people i keep my phone off during flights , but will check my messages between ...., so they have the knowledge they cannot expect a ASAP answer , while i am working ......Case closed ....LOL..
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    Jun 06, 2011 9:57 PM GMT
    This is why I love my text auto-reply app. If Im busy or driving and cant answer right away it does it for me. Not sure if its available for iphone but its free for android users.
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    Jun 06, 2011 10:17 PM GMT
    Ahhhhh TEXTING! I had to respond to this because I myself am a HUGE texter. I think when it comes to the "ignoring" idea most people ar right to think that they really are being ignored. When you text someone you will try very hard to not think that they are sitting right there looking at your text, and just not replying, it's annoying! But hey, it is what it is, thats the beauty of texts, you can respond when you want, damn it's not work or something with an "end of business" timeline is it?

    I also think text messages are so interesting because there is a clear age gap on people who text and people who don't. Cells phones came out when I was in highschool. And no, I'm not talking about that phone-N-a Bag crap. So you could say I've "grown up" on using them. I really think my generation is becoming less and less personal, or, not actually using the phone to talk and instead text. The older generation is catching on mainly because they have to. Just look at all the wireless providers, they ALL offer unlimited texting and data plans for little or nothing. No one cares about minutes anymore. I have thousands of rollover minutes I'll never use. I have gotten both my aunts, my uncle, step-mom, even grandma, to start texting.

    I just think the whole idea of talking to someone on the other end is quickly fading. Personally I hate it and all of my friends no this. Calls are pretty much for really important stuff. I also have and have had a BlackBerry for years. I think this adds to my texting craze icon_eek.gif