blactor saidHi all
You guys know the story about me coming out, the shitbags who walked away etc and the ex gay ministries I attended. What I have found is that the last year has been like a pressure cooker that has exploded and I have sort of well- played the field quite a bit- how did you guys transition this phase and sort through it? I love sex (who doesn't?) but it feels like years of repression, self hate and asexuality have gone the other extreme.
Any thoughts? I can't talk to gay christians! Most are SO judgemental. You guys are more laid back and see things as they are.
I came out just a couple months before turning 46, and I went sexually wild! I realized what that horny phase is all about they say male teens go through, but I had never experienced at that age.
Only I think it was even more intense in my case, including all the 30 suppressed years that had followed, all hitting me at once like a released spring. But because it WAS so strange to me & new, I also stepped back and tried to analyze it. And kinda understood what was happening, estimating the "fierce phase" would last about 6 months, with a tapering off until I would be nearly back to normal by 12 months, or perhaps what would now be my "new normal" and begin my settling-in phase. But first the fun while it lasted!
That's exactly how it happened. But what a 6 to 12 months it was! I still blush to think of it, but also a bit proud of myself, that I managed that at such an age, when I was told mid-40s gay guys didn't have a chance in the gay world. And not good looking, either, but with such lustful drive that I sorta overpowered my many physical shortcomings.
So if my case is any indication, then what you're initially experiencing is normal and will taper off in time. Though you may remain at a permanently higher level of sexual activity than ever before, now that you're no longer fighting your natural orientation.
Of course, I must insert here (no pun) a comment about safe sex, and wise sex, choosing partners carefully on many levels, so that you're not hurt medically, emotionally or physically. I'm still HIV & STD-free, and never had an abusive or dangerous lover. Your lust must never override your logic, and good sense. This is where your overall maturity & life experience will give you an advantage. And I do envy you -- it's was a memorable & happy time for me, exploring who I am, before it was totally too late.