What made you take someone off your hot / buddylist?

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    Jun 06, 2011 2:27 PM GMT
    If you ever did take someone off from your buddy or hotlist, what was the reason behind it? I am just wondering.

    Guys, please don't name names, we don't want flaming personal attacks here. Be nice and keep it clean. icon_biggrin.gif

    EDIT: I recently (6/13/11) cleaned out a lot of clutter on my hotlist. If you got axed...oh well. What are you gonna do? It's MY hotlist. I now prefer having guys who I have actually talked to on my hotlist. It's mentality change. Nothing against the hotties that were axed...except that you have no personality.
  • He_Man

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    Jun 06, 2011 2:48 PM GMT

    I was on a RealJock hiatus for a year, and when I came back, I deleted everyone from my buddy list and hotlist just to start off fresh. I didn't delete guys because they did anything wrong, per se, but because it was a year since I was on and wanted to start over, plus I forgot most of them, anyway.

    I hope no one was offended. I can't see why anyone would be, but if you are, then I'm sorry.icon_cry.gif
  • Bunjamon

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    Jun 06, 2011 2:50 PM GMT
    I'm usually so reluctant to add people to either list that I don't take them off very easily.

    If someone on my hotlist hasn't logged on for over a year, though, it's usually time for them to go.
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    Jun 06, 2011 2:50 PM GMT
    He stoped answering on my mails icon_sad.gif its that simple
  • Ironman4U

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    Jun 06, 2011 3:02 PM GMT
    I occasionally will delete someone. It's typically for one of three reasons:

    1. I find out they are fake or like to play games. (It's not hard to verify guys.)

    2. We haven't connected in forever and lost whatever connection we seemed to have once had.

    3. It's not reciprocal, meaning I have hot listed or buddy listed (after chatting or contact) and a mutual interest was expressed and then they either don't reciprocate with a listing or they drop my listing over time.

    I only list someone after some contact and getting to know them a bit. Since it's not random, I'm looking for the guys that I have the best connections with to keep on my lists. As I type this, I realize I probably need to clean house a bit (based on #2).
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    Jun 06, 2011 3:05 PM GMT
    im actually not clear as what the lists are for. My hot list is of guys I think are good looking. Most of whom I have talked to once or twice. The buddy list I am not really clear on.
  • stratavos

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    Jun 06, 2011 3:08 PM GMT
    that we aren't really buddies or that I don't find them hot anymore. Sounds reasonable, right?
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    Jun 06, 2011 3:20 PM GMT
    sometimes they open their mouths (or write) and you realise they were much sexier as a photograph that you could project your fantasies on to....

    happened maybe 2 or 3 times, mostly from guys who said stuff to the effect that they didn´t think that same sex partnerships were as valid as heterosexual ones and should never have the same rights...

    Don´t care what you look like. Not hot any more. Goodbye. icon_evil.gif

  • HndsmKansan

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    Jun 06, 2011 3:25 PM GMT
    Lostboy saidsometimes they open their mouths (or write) and you realise they were much sexier as a photograph that you could project your fantasies on to....



    Probably phrase it a little differently, but thats it a nutshell. Certain perceptions yield a different reality.
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    Jun 06, 2011 3:25 PM GMT
    I used to hotlist people based on just their looks. Now I only hotlist guys if their words match their looks. I just haven't cleaned out all the riff-raff yet.
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    Jun 06, 2011 3:41 PM GMT
    Allathlete saidI used to hotlist people based on just their looks. Now I only hotlist guys if their words match their looks. I just haven't cleaned out all the riff-raff yet.

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    This answer explains why you're still on ma hotlist.



    To all: I'll chime in soon! Lunch is not until like 1:30 for me icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 06, 2011 3:44 PM GMT
    Lack of communication is usually.
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    Jun 06, 2011 3:46 PM GMT
    I usually delete people I don't communicate with on a regular basis or people who stress me out.
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    Jun 06, 2011 3:52 PM GMT
    Bunjamon saidI'm usually so reluctant to add people to either list that I don't take them off very easily.

    If someone on my hotlist hasn't logged on for over a year, though, it's usually time for them to go.


    Nice topic BTW.

    I took one person off my buddy list because he was a loose cannon. Nothing I could say could be interpreted as a constructive advice. I enjoyed conversing with him for the short time we did. But every little subject would be met with hostility.

    He would asked me questions about things to do in Orlando so I gave him advices of places and things to do since he was new in town and everything was a rotund "No, I don't do that" or "I don't got to those places" or "That's not me".
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    Jun 06, 2011 3:53 PM GMT
    No communication usually.
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    Jun 06, 2011 4:03 PM GMT
    I hot listed a guy based on his looks. It turns out he was the complete opposite of me.
    I learned to get to know someone before I hot list them.

  • wild_sky360

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    Jun 06, 2011 4:19 PM GMT
    I've been a member for a while but not active until recently..finally added some pics.
    Not sure what the lists mean or what they mean to me yet.
    Guys, have you really connected with your hot list or is it mostly a fantasy list?
    Suppose I'll buddy list if I like the content or the style of your posts, and delete if you really F U online.
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    Jun 06, 2011 4:24 PM GMT
    I take them off due to lack of connection and communication
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    Jun 06, 2011 4:29 PM GMT
    Well I have never removed anyone from a list, but I would remove you cityazn because, let's be real here, I'm just not into Asians icon_smile.gif

    All kidding aside I wouldn't even bother removing someone. I rarely add a person to the list and usually do it as a courtesy morso than anything else. I don't need a list to know who my buddies are on this site icon_smile.gif.

    P.s. That includes you cityazn!
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    Jun 06, 2011 4:32 PM GMT
    i might take someone off my hotlist if i find they actually have an incredibly bad philosophy or ethical standing. not necessarily though, as it's just a list of people that i think look hot.

    buddy list: I haven't really added anyone to it as I don't really talk to anyone. I have one person I've talked to on there, and consider a friend, and 2 people I have no idea who they are on there.
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    Jun 06, 2011 5:47 PM GMT
    Lostboy saidsometimes they open their mouths (or write) and you realise they were much sexier as a photograph that you could project your fantasies on to....

    happened maybe 2 or 3 times, mostly from guys who said stuff to the effect that they didn´t think that same sex partnerships were as valid as heterosexual ones and should never have the same rights...

    Don´t care what you look like. Not hot any more. Goodbye. icon_evil.gif


    icon_eek.gif you did the right thing.

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    Nice topic BTW.



    ......enough with the dirrty talk. You already know I have the hots for ya. Don't make me jizz at work. They'll fire me. icon_lol.gif

    Chainers saidWell I have never removed anyone from a list, but I would remove you cityazn because, let's be real here, I'm just not into Asians icon_smile.gif

    All kidding aside I wouldn't even bother removing someone. I rarely add a person to the list and usually do it as a courtesy morso than anything else. I don't need a list to know who my buddies are on this site icon_smile.gif.

    P.s. That includes you cityazn!


    Remind me that next time I'm in SF, I bring you to spanking party for saying that, where I can get my revenge. icon_wink.gif
  • masculumpedes

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    Jun 06, 2011 5:50 PM GMT
    He wouldn't let me see his bare feet... icon_twisted.gif
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    Jun 06, 2011 5:54 PM GMT
    I usually take someone off my hotlist cuz they said something really nasty on the forum. Or they made personal attacks....and not in the form of retaliation either.

    I would take a guy off a buddylist if

    1. He did it first.....duh
    2. When he clearly doesn't want to talk to me anymore, like not answering messages.
    3. He attacked me on the forum...(hasn't happened yet btw)

    That's all folks!
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    Jun 06, 2011 5:55 PM GMT
    cityaznguy saidI usually take someone off my hotlist cuz they said something really nasty on the forum. Or they made personal attacks....and not in the form of retaliation either.

    I would take a guy off a buddylist if

    1. He did it first.....duh
    2. When he clearly doesn't want to talk to me anymore, like not answering messages.
    3. He attacked me on the forum...(hasn't happened yet btw)

    That's all folks!


    Go die in a fire Cityaznguy!

    Are you gonna remove me now?

    And dont worry, Ill encourage you to take me to that party, lol.
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    Jun 06, 2011 5:59 PM GMT
    Chainers said

    Go die in a fire Cityaznguy!

    Are you gonna remove me now?

    And dont worry, Ill encourage you to take me to that party, lol.


    LMAO! I think some bondage is also in order now after that comment. icon_lol.gif