What is being TOO GAY!

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    Jun 06, 2011 11:08 PM GMT
    I've heard this said by other gay people as if it's a shame to show or express their true character. While watching Oprah's Finale show, there was an insert where she said "Live your own truth." That resonated with me well, but at the same time, her words where truncated by what I've heard said by other gay guys to one another is that: "You're too gay!" Are we living our 'truest self' when we are allowing others to dictate to us (in the gay community) what is acceptable to the main stream. What satisfaction does the muscular gay-guy get out of avoiding and/or attacking the fem gay-guy for being their truest self.

    I've many and more straight male friends (and I found a lot more comfort hanging out with them, them most gay men) who loves, accepts, and appreciate me for being me. Honest!

    Are you living 'your OWN truest self,' when around other straight people? How much does it matter what others think about you being gay.

    Here's my back-in-the-day recording artist career in Stockholm Sweden, and Europe, and boy did I have my fair share of being with other well known male celebs and recording artist, but I can't tell hehe, because they were not ready to be outed. Now is this too gay? -as one gay person pointed out to me that it was haha. Where as straight dudes and females (yes my fan base lol) seem to love it.. I was surprise to see my past reared it's head up again. And I still say, Lady GaGa stoled my moves. LMAO haha

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    Jun 06, 2011 11:28 PM GMT
    I think that we need to work, as a community, at taking out the “too gay” judgment. I think being gay is cool because we are different than straight people. I often hear talk of how great this is and that we don’t want to be like heteros, rather, we just want the same rights as them. But, then we go and judge each other for not being straight acting enough?icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 06, 2011 11:55 PM GMT
    Be as fierce as you wanna be, and werq it till it cant be werqued no more.

    As for me, I just cannot bring myself to indulge in femme mannerisms, or the like.

    Being true to me is being masculine. While the femme guys and drag queens and so-very-fierce bois out there are brave, daring and awesome in their own right, to be that is not me.

    I'll be over yonder, drinking my brew, playing my video games or grilling up some prime ribs. ;)
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    Jun 07, 2011 12:44 AM GMT
    Too gay is anything not fitting into narrow cultural norms. There are some that will not be happy until we are all showing up at Pride events and parades wearing polo shirts neatly tucked into our crisp, ironed khaki pants.
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    Jun 07, 2011 12:46 AM GMT
    Drawing too much attention to yourself think about the line from Diana Ross's song I'm Coming Out " I want the world to know, I've got to let it show"
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    Jun 07, 2011 12:50 AM GMT
    "Too Gay" is an oxymoron.
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    Jun 07, 2011 12:59 AM GMT
    I applaud those who march to the beat of their own drums and wear and conduct themselves according to their truth. I try to avoid the temptation of wanting to make everyone conform to my ideas. In my own case, I tend to dress conservatively, because that's me.
    On Friday, I was having lunch at a straight restaurant in a conservative town and a man came in wearing a dress. He was with a woman who had on nothing but a black thong and a see-through, white chiffon dress over it. They got quite a few gawkers to say the least, but I think it's great because they were living their own truth. There is nothing that is too gay.
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    Jun 07, 2011 1:44 AM GMT
    Philip_ saidthen we go and judge each other for not being straight acting enough?icon_smile.gif


    Yeap, and how many times have we visited gay sites only to be hit with that "straight acting, or looking for Str8 acting." I mean, what the hell is 'straight acting, when none of my straight friends aren't putting on an act of acting straight. They just are being what they are.
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    Jun 07, 2011 1:46 AM GMT
    alphatrigger said.

    I'll be over yonder, drinking my brew, playing my video games or grilling up some prime ribs. ;)


    lol, and make sure you invite me the next time haha. I'll bring the whiskey (Jamesons of course)
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    Jun 07, 2011 1:48 AM GMT
    Iceblink saidThere are some that will not be happy until we are all showing up at Pride events and parades wearing polo shirts neatly tucked into our crisp, ironed khaki pants.


    and thank goodness, that day will not ever come into fruitionicon_cool.gif
  • mybud

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    Jun 07, 2011 3:03 AM GMT
    Too gay????....When your boyfriend kisses ya goodbye after a date and you either fart in his face or you cross your legs and break his glasses....THAT"S TOO GAY......OOOOOOKKKKK
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    Jun 07, 2011 3:06 AM GMT
    can someone be too straight? lol
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    Jun 07, 2011 3:09 AM GMT
    mellytorado saidcan someone be too straight? lol


    NEVER...and if you find him...give him my realjock addy
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    Jun 07, 2011 3:31 AM GMT
    Contemplating the meaning of "too gay" is "really gay"... and a little dramatic. If you're ok with expressing yourself, you should be ok with others reacting to it. It goes both ways.
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    Jun 07, 2011 4:16 AM GMT
    Too much of anything, including a strength, can become a weakness.
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    Jun 07, 2011 4:55 AM GMT
    Where do I start...

    Fem mannerism
    Cross-dressing
    Wearing make-up
    Bitchy and whiny dudes
    Extremely judgmental of others
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    Jun 07, 2011 5:31 AM GMT
    djohn767 saidWhere do I start...

    Fem mannerism
    Cross-dressing
    Wearing make-up
    Bitchy and whiny dudes
    Extremely judgmental of others


    It's unfortunate that those attributes ARE what many people associate with being GAY, when they have nothing to do with sexual orientation.
    They're just myths and stereotypes that are perpetuated due to the apparent vacuum of "ordinary/normal" gay guys.
    As previous posters have said, "What is being too STRAIGHT?".
    Silly question right?
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    Jun 07, 2011 6:54 AM GMT
    Brownale saidContemplating the meaning of "too gay" is "really gay"... and a little dramatic. If you're ok with expressing yourself, you should be ok with others reacting to it. It goes both ways.


    Puts a whole new meaning on being comfortable in your own skin.