How hard is it to say/type - have to leave now..signing off?

  • cyberwrassler

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    Jun 07, 2011 3:11 PM GMT
    If you are engaged in a chat and you either:
    A) need to leave
    B) grow tired/bored of the conversation
    C) just don't want to talk to the person anymore

    it would be appropriate to just say "gotta run" or "signing off" or even "sorry - I would like to end this conversation" instead of just disappearing. Just seems like common courtesy to me...but maybe my expectations are too high?

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    Jun 07, 2011 4:01 PM GMT
    No your expectations aren't too high , when you feel it is time to stop the chat for any reasons whatsoever , just be courteous , say you have to go , and send your good byes.............icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 07, 2011 4:23 PM GMT
    One of the bad results of the internet is that social etiquette has gone the way of the dinosaur.
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    Jun 07, 2011 4:25 PM GMT
    miamimasseur saidOne of the bad results of the internet is that social etiquette has gone the way of the dinosaur.


    This.

    Its weird, because the other person is left guessing.

    In fact I had assumed that a person was not interested because he did this, then he messaged me a month later asking if I lost interest.

    The internet sucks.
  • mizu5

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    Jun 07, 2011 4:27 PM GMT
    I only have a small problem with doing this, but it's often because I have many conversations at once. I'd rather not say brb to 20 some odd peopel everytime I need to go to the bathroom or help my mum with something.
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    Jun 07, 2011 4:35 PM GMT
    cyberwrassler saidJust seems like common courtesy to me...but maybe my expectations are too high?



    Yes it is and yes they are.
    You get to meet all types online.
  • slimnmuscly

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    Jun 07, 2011 4:45 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    miamimasseur saidOne of the bad results of the internet is that social etiquette has gone the way of the dinosaur.


    This.

    Its weird, because the other person is left guessing.

    In fact I had assumed that a person was not interested because he did this, then he messaged me a month later asking if I lost interest.

    The internet sucks.


    Yeah, but a lot of people's sign-offs end up leaving the other person guessing anyway. The key to staying sane online is to learn to stop guessing and reading into people's motives, because the fact is you just don't know what the person you're messaging is really doing or why they're doing it.
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    Jun 07, 2011 4:46 PM GMT
    I make it a point to say I'm signing off if on IM.
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    Jun 07, 2011 4:47 PM GMT
    Maybe their wife or partner came home and they had to exit the chat room very quickly.
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    Jun 07, 2011 4:51 PM GMT
    I have to admit that sometimes, late at night, I'm chatting in four or five windows, watching TV, petting the dog, and sometimes I just fall asleep without signing off.

    But on the other hand, I don't feel much social responsibility towards interlocutors who's total contribution has ben "sup?" "coool" "send me some pics?."
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    Jun 07, 2011 4:52 PM GMT
    I'm terrribly guilty of this icon_sad.gif My online friends all call me the "ninja poofer" cause i just vanish ><

    But in my defence, I never have an active conversation when i poof. If it's been idle, and something comes up i just go, because sometimes if you actually take the time to say goodbye after 10 minutes of quiet, it sparks conversation again. And online, you can't see the other person stepping towards the door...
  • cyberwrassler

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    Jun 07, 2011 5:18 PM GMT
    mindgarden saidI have to admit that sometimes, late at night, I'm chatting in four or five windows, watching TV, petting the dog, and sometimes I just fall asleep without signing off.

    But on the other hand, I don't feel much social responsibility towards interlocutors who's total contribution has ben "sup?" "coool" "send me some pics?."


    which is why I said "engaged in a conversation" and you are right..i would not consider "wassup" or "hey" an engaged conversation just yet. tks
  • NerdLifter

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    Jun 07, 2011 5:34 PM GMT
    I make it a point to never do this unless of course it's out of my control IE: lose power, which has happened since Pepco sucks.

    Politeness is important to me. Plus, I know how much it sucks to be on the the receiving end of a scenario Chainers described, so I try not to do that to others.
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    Jun 07, 2011 6:05 PM GMT

    I DO have a couple of friends who just sign off without a word...but most of the guys I chat with are three hours ahead of me and actually have a life...and a job. So, I don't think much of it. I hate it though, when we are in the middle of a discussion and while I'm writing a very pertinent reply...they just go off to bed. I always get a reply the next day...but, by then, I've forgotten the conversation..... icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Jun 07, 2011 8:34 PM GMT
    mizu5 saidI only have a small problem with doing this, but it's often because I have many conversations at once. I'd rather not say brb to 20 some odd peopel everytime I need to go to the bathroom or help my mum with something.
    That is the sole reason I swore off chat/IM.
    People get way too bent out of shape when you don't tell them every single little thing you're doing and why.
  • Neurons

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    Jun 07, 2011 8:48 PM GMT
    I'll always let people know I'm leaving. I feel bad just signing off. icon_redface.gif
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    Jun 07, 2011 8:50 PM GMT
    Yeah, if they are my friend sometimes I just berrate them for it the next time but there have been plenty of ocassions where I have wandered off too.

    I hate chasing of any kind, so if I'm talking to someone and they don't put forth an effort to say anything, I just stop talking to them and move on icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 07, 2011 9:30 PM GMT
    I have never felt cumbersome at all when I'm cruising the RJ cyber IM airway channels with someone of interest. When its been about that time to roll on out... I just tell the dude....' hey.. yoo yo man'...I gotta cut'.. Have uhh good one ''.... .. I don't think I've ever gotten the sense where the receiving person felt that it was really them.... Well, hopefully that's the case...Who really knows though.. icon_question.gificon_idea.gificon_idea.gificon_idea.gificon_exclaim.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gif