My fuck buddy never cums AT ALL

  • JimJim

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    Jun 07, 2011 9:52 PM GMT
    So I've been hooking up with this one guy for a few months now and the sex is always good except that he just *never* cums and it always ends up with me cumming, waiting for him to get there/doing whatever I can to make him get there and then...nothing. I even told him if he had any particular fantasy/etc he wanted to try I'd be totally willing but even then...nothing

    I don't think its that he's not interested in me as he is always texting me if I want to come over but it's just kind of frustrating. He says he can cum when he's by himself watching porn and I believe him so I don't see what's up. It's not erectile dysfunction or anything either because he can get hard fine too. I could understand if he was nervous but we've hooked up now more times than I can count so he shouldn't be feeling nervous anymore.

    Any ideas on how to help him out?
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    Jun 07, 2011 10:15 PM GMT
    Watch porn with him?
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    Jun 07, 2011 10:24 PM GMT
    waimea saidWatch porn with him?


    This is probably the key. He may have himself in such a rut from porn and masturbation that that is the only way he can get off.
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    Jun 08, 2011 12:07 AM GMT
    Is there pre-cum while you two are involved? It may be he's j/o so frequently that by the time you two meet his body hasn't had enough time to recharge. So asking him if he could skip a day or two of masturbation and porn may help.
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    Jun 08, 2011 12:22 AM GMT
    The best way to not orgasm is to be concerned about orgasming icon_smile.gif. If you put pressure on him to do it, its not going to happen.

    Being able to cum while you are alone means that the problem is most likely just anxiety related or like you suggested an issue of attraction.

    I don't necessarily mean attraction to YOU but to what you are doing. So, find out what he really likes, maybe the things he likes that are done in the porn he likes is a good start.

    Also, just because he watches porn does not mean he cannot enjoy actually having sex. In fact for almost everyone its the opposite, fantasy cannot replace the satisfaction of reality. There are so many other experiences and sensory related things that you just can't have when watching porn. Sure, porn desensitizes you to the norms of having sex but it can also create a more open mindset, tolerant of other sexual behaviors and open to new things.
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    Jun 08, 2011 12:26 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidyeah,,, he's clearly desensitized from all the porn and one on one contact does not do it for him any longer.. He needs his porn to get off.
    Plus, he may be doing poppers with porn while you are not there and he does not have his crutch to get off. OR.. he just one of those guys that takes forever! That can be frustrating when you're done he just never seems to get there.


    So does this mean he lasts all night long? Not a bad thing if you ask me.
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    Jun 08, 2011 3:06 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    Let's hope not.. I'd rather have a guy keep up with me and cum 3-4 times than just stay hard and never get off.... Great sex is like a movie, meal or a play.. there's a beginning, middle and an end... If you find the right guy there's always an Encore unless you're out of time...icon_cool.gif


    Or, a romantic symphonic poem. icon_redface.gif
  • MikemikeMike

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    Jun 08, 2011 7:06 AM GMT
    maybe u suck in bedicon_question.gificon_idea.gificon_idea.gif
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    Jun 08, 2011 7:25 AM GMT
    Actually, I had that problem until he SMACKED me on my ass and I blew a load.
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    Jun 08, 2011 8:36 AM GMT
    He's just not that into you?
  • JimJim

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    Jun 08, 2011 10:17 AM GMT
    iafpf saidHe's just not that into you?


    Clearly you didn't read my original post. Why would someone who is not into me continue to have a sexual relationship with me FOR MONTHS and also be the one to initialize many of the hookups.

    Would you do that? icon_rolleyes.gif

    MikemikeMike saidmaybe u suck in bed


    Refer to my response to iafpf. If I sucked in bed, why continue this relationship with me?

    Seems like some people like being asses solely for the sake of being asses...
  • rnch

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    Jun 08, 2011 11:50 AM GMT
    has your FB had a physical done lately, including blood work?

    blood pressure and blood sugar levels effect a man'a ability to jizz greatly.

    when my diabetes is not controlled i can get and stay erect, but jizzing is hit-or-miss.



    a sidenote: if your are jizzing, and he is not, and he is not overly concerned about this......what's the problem here? sex is NOT a "jizz contest".


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    Jun 10, 2011 4:08 AM GMT
    Aside from what has already been mentioned here, many of the commonly prescribed anti-depressants (prozac, wellbutrin, etc) have sexual side effects which delay or inhibit ejaculation........... he may be on one of them, and is uncomfortable telling you about it.
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    Jun 10, 2011 4:13 AM GMT
    SportFuck saidAside from what has already been mentioned here, many of the commonly prescribed anti-depressants (prozac, wellbutrin, etc) have sexual side effects which delay or inhibit ejaculation........... he may be on one of them, and is uncomfortable telling you about it.


    Very true. I can attest to it. Don't take it personally.
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    Jun 10, 2011 5:28 AM GMT
    Somebody ain't doing something righticon_idea.gif
  • MikemikeMike

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    Jun 10, 2011 9:27 AM GMT
    JimJim said
    iafpf saidHe's just not that into you?


    Clearly you didn't read my original post. Why would someone who is not into me continue to have a sexual relationship with me FOR MONTHS and also be the one to initialize many of the hookups.

    Would you do that? icon_rolleyes.gif

    MikemikeMike saidmaybe u suck in bed


    Refer to my response to iafpf. If I sucked in bed, why continue this relationship with me?

    Seems like some people like being asses solely for the sake of being asses...


    flat out ask him if he's ever been fucked till he came???