at what age, would u start to think about tsettling down?

  • michaelsloan

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    Jun 07, 2011 11:15 PM GMT
    at what age, would u start to think about tsettling down, like getting married, or moving together or things like that?

    i guess, for me, it is around 26-30. what about u?
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    Jun 08, 2011 12:37 AM GMT
    Never. I plan to be active until 80. If my boyfriend isn't making me happy at 79, I'll boot him out too ;). I don't need to "settle down" to be happy. I just need to be myself and not worry about this nonsense of having stuff and a marriage to be happy icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 08, 2011 12:43 AM GMT
    This is a dangerous sign -- you are already starting to think old; think young and you'll make it to my age. Life is great!
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    Jun 08, 2011 2:02 AM GMT
    if you equate "settle down" with "retire", the responses so far make sense

    "settle down" could also mean that you've reached a stage where you know what you want and are capable of committing. that really varies more by personality than by age. some people are ready to commit at an early age and some people never are. i don't think it's related to a number.

    when i was 18, i was in love. if you'd asked me, he was the one. he didn't feel the same. it didn't work from his side. it takes 2 to tango.

    at 20, i could not commit at all. there was too much i wanted to test out on my own. if the prior situation had lasted, i'd have been doing stuff with him.

    in my 30s, i don't believe in the one anymore, but i know myself well enough to know what situations will work for me. so i can figure out pretty quickly how to sort people out.

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    Jun 08, 2011 2:11 AM GMT
    Mid 30's is good and worked for me I was almost 33 when I met my man. Been with him for 5 great and fun years. Each to their own, but I think 30's gives you time to grow and mature about life... I hope icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 08, 2011 2:40 AM GMT
    By age 25 I already had a 6 year relationship under my belt (moving in together and the works). I guess I started early. So now that I'm 27, it's like I'm recently divorced.

    If I hadn't had that long term relationship, I probably would say that I'd ideally like to "settle" when I'm close to 30.

    Now I don't really care anymore. I make myself happy and if another Mr. Right happens to come around, I'll welcome him into my arms. If he doesn't show up, then oh well, I'll go on living/enjoying life by myself.
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    Jun 08, 2011 2:46 AM GMT
    Whenever I find the right guy... which could be tomorrow...

    Thought I had it a few years ago but found out I was getting cheated on (after 3 years together) and I kicked his ass outa my house icon_sad.gif


    Men Suck lol icon_razz.gif

    .. But I think being single is over rated.
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    Jun 08, 2011 2:49 AM GMT
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    Jun 08, 2011 2:52 AM GMT
    26 - 30, whoa dude!
    This 30 yr old loser is far from any of that! At this rate, I think I'll settle at 75. Maybe those of you that settle young are lucky to find that, but you're also missing out on so many new experiences.

    I guess I don't ever want to settle down... I honestly dont ever plan on getting married. I've seen enough shit straight marriages for me to say, why? I don't need that... I am my own life.
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    Jun 08, 2011 3:05 AM GMT
    whenever you're ready, there is no age.
  • calibro

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    Jun 08, 2011 3:34 AM GMT
    depends on how you define settled. because of my career and plans, i have the next fifteen years of my life charted out taking me around the word for my studies and work. to a lot of guys, that's settled. from my side, i just bounce around a lot and don't have anyone to share my crazy adventures with. for me, being settled just means having a home, and i know i won't be stationary until i'm at least forty.
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    Jun 08, 2011 4:16 AM GMT
    If by settle down you imply enter a long term relationship... I'd say whenever I meet the right person and everything just feels right.

    My last boyfriend was about 2 years ago, and we dated for about 3 years. I think we were pretty happy together, but then everything fell apart.

    I'm ready for a new relationship now, I just haven't met the right person yet.
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    Jun 08, 2011 4:19 AM GMT
    30 is a good age to start thinking about that
  • dannyboy1101

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    Jun 08, 2011 4:27 AM GMT
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    Jun 08, 2011 4:41 AM GMT
    It's a whole host of factors. Career and job prospects, emotional intelligence (obvs), the fact there must be two people ready to be together and commit.

    These are umbrella terms too, they filter down much further with ever more facets to this question.

    Also, peer pressure. There's been research to show that people with single friends are more likely to remain single... share in the attitude, so to speak.

    As a young guy in a monogamous relationship, things get scary sometimes. Expectations, peer pressure (as much as anyone can resist, they still influence, it is psychological and not so easy to deride or dismiss), and the personality clashes...

    Hard work, this living shit.
  • oyoung

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    Jun 08, 2011 7:24 AM GMT
    BambinoRex saidif you equate "settle down" with "retire", the responses so far make sense

    "settle down" could also mean that you've reached a stage where you know what you want and are capable of committing. that really varies more by personality than by age. some people are ready to commit at an early age and some people never are. i don't think it's related to a number.

    when i was 18, i was in love. if you'd asked me, he was the one. he didn't feel the same. it didn't work from his side. it takes 2 to tango.

    at 20, i could not commit at all. there was too much i wanted to test out on my own. if the prior situation had lasted, i'd have been doing stuff with him.

    in my 30s, i don't believe in the one anymore, but i know myself well enough to know what situations will work for me. so i can figure out pretty quickly how to sort people out.



    This one is good.
    Whenever you know what you want which including the right type, right life style, ...
    Guess it needs mature first, that's how you grow up