Fatty Joins Bandwagon

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    Apr 14, 2008 1:23 AM GMT
    You don't know me, but I don't know you either. What matters is that I'm a fatty and I'm joining the fit bandwagon.

    I'm 21 and I've been overweight all my life. I used to be a bigger junior high kid until I, slightly, grew into my weight but a nice amount of fat continues to hang around my chest, stomach, ass, and thighs.

    One of my greatest problems in this area is that its hard for myself to give a damn. Sure, I see the hot, healthy, fit guys running around, so cocky and beautiful and sweaty but once I get to know em, they seem more lonely, self-centered, and bored than I am. Im still able to obtain and nice amount of ass. I bet if I had a shorter supply, I wouldn't be so relaxed on my body image. Who knows? Perhaps I have a subconscious adversion for hard labor.

    I've gone to gyms. In the end I get bored and/or become too busy and my attention is directed elsewhere.

    My eating habit is atrocious. I usually eat nothing and when I do, its junk food.

    I don't care for sports. I like to watch films. I like to make them too! I love reading, walking while I'm listening to music. You know, just doing calm, cool, relaxing things. I'm not fond of team sports. It just isn't compatible with my personality.

    Yet, I want to do something with my body. I want to smell the grass on the other side, perhaps report back to fattyland with a message.

    But I want your advice. To the guys who have that built naturally made to hold on fat. Not the ecto boys who's metabolism keeps em lean and trim. Nor the men who put on muscle like its just another jacket. I'm talking to the former fatties or lost it and kept it off.

  • Timbales

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    Apr 14, 2008 1:37 AM GMT
    Welcome aboard, I'm a life long fatty, too.

    My advice? Start caring about yourself. Don't look at other people and expect yourself to be them. Start looking at fitness as a way of getting healthy.

    I like reading, too. When I first started at the gym, I began by reading at the gym on a stationary bike.

    Look at the articles here, they are really helpful.
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    Apr 14, 2008 1:48 AM GMT
    Check out this site for good information on food and eating...

    It has menus and recipes

    The World's Healthiest Foods

    I would also encourage you to start your own "blog" on here. Find the appropriate Forum, probably Losing Weight. Start a new topic named something like: "___'s Weight Loss Log: the good, the bad, and the success."

    List your goal(s)
    State your plan, etc

    Add to it almost daily.

    They say if you tell people about it, you feel too embarrassed to quit.

    So let us in on your adventure...we might have suggestions...but I know we will all have words of encouragement and be rooting for YOU!
  • Muunrakur

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    Apr 14, 2008 4:30 AM GMT
    I can sympathize with most of your post, especially having myself become fairly inactive... my first bit of advice is to find a reason to walk more... to work, to school, wherever... more walking!

    I find that, as I lose weight, I enjoy the gym more because I don't feel as inferior and don't tire out as fast. Just as weight gain can snowball, so too can weight loss (to some extent). But if you do nothing else, WALK.
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    Apr 14, 2008 2:19 PM GMT
    I can definatly relate with your post. I have always felt there was a skinny guy living inside of me (perhaps I ate him on a late night food binge). I have bounced up and down the scales and always seem to land at about 15 - 20 pounds heavier than I want to be. Even when I was swimming 5 hours a day I had to be talked to by coaches about my weight. After quitting swimming, I ballooned to 235. I ate and drank too much. Then I went on a diet pill binge and got down to 155.

    Working out has always been a part of my life and always will be. I suggest you start incorporating it into your life. If not for asthetics, then for your health. Just make it part of your daily routine. Find a good gym you like or a class and just committ to a little bit. You will find it gets easier.

    But the real issue is food. It is my problem too. As many times as I try to get on track with a good diet, there is some temptation or dinner plan that takes me off. Cut out the junk food and start eating healthier foods. It ight be hard at forst, but it will get better. you will find yourself craving healthy foods. and when you do fall of the wagon and hit up taco bell at 3am, it will be ok.

    Food is more of a factor than you realize. write down what you eat throughout your day. find out how much fat, calories, protein, carbs, etc you are consuming for a week. I think you will find easy ways to cut back.

    Good luck. As a frequent visitor to fatty land, I applaud your concern for yourself, but you hqave to put in the effort and change things up. It just wont happen through sheer will.
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    Apr 14, 2008 4:35 PM GMT
    I'll reiterate some of the things that were said and expand on them.

    Love yourself - The most basic reason, whether it's for better health or just simply and honestly wanting to look good naked, it all stems from a point of self-awareness and appreciation. This is something for you, not for anyone else. And you know what? You totally deserve it.

    Nothing happens overnight - You're ready to make a change and know what to do. You're all set. Nothing happens instantly. We all want the path of least resistance, but for some things, you've got to hit the hard road and tough it out. And there will be times you'll want to quit, but remind yourself why you're doing it, and who you're doing it for.

    There's no 'right' answer - On this site, we all have our own methods, tricks of the trade, and routines. What works for one person will more likely not work or work as well for the next. There's a lot of trial and error. Have patience. Try different things, things that'll keep your interest.

    We sometimes fail - Every single one of us on this site, I can bet you that we all have had our moment of weakness where we fell off the wagon. Don't beat yourself up over it. Stand back up, dust yourself off, and keep going.

    Keep learning - The fitness and exercise field changes constantly. New programs and workouts are developed all the time. Nutrition needs and expectations are further defined. Soak up that knowledge and you'll know what to do and, more importantly, what not to do.

    Eat to live - Food is awesome. I love food. I'd even go so far as to say I "heart" food. Ultimately, food is fuel, and your body is the car. Treat your car right, give it quality food and don't top off. Eat to live. Don't live to eat. Food is your friend.

    Write stuff down - Long term goals, I'll be honest, are the hardest to get to. If you track your honestly track your progress, you'll be more likely to stick with it. Start a journal of what you eat normally, examine it with a critical eye, determine what you need to add or take away, and then modify. Keep track of your workouts: the time, the activity, how you think you performed.
  • asupas

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    Apr 14, 2008 6:06 PM GMT
    These sort of posts are usually full of whining and self loathing - so I congratulate you on writing something that is honest and real. At the very least, you are taking accountability and being honest with yourself.

    Here are a few specific tips that will help you on your journey:

    -Stop drinking soda and sugary drinks
    -eat at least three meals a day to keep your metabolism working.
    -Stop eating fast food
    -If you have to eat fast food, eat foods with grilled chicken, no mayo, and no cheese.
    -Start working out.
    -Mix Cardio with weight lifting. Work out with a friend so its less boring or bring an Ipod.
    -Figure out what time of day is easiest for you to get to the gym and have a good work out.
    -Get enough sleep
    -Don't worry if you don't lose a ton of weight immediately. It takes some time to make your body into a weight loss machine.

    And good luck.

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    Apr 14, 2008 6:55 PM GMT
    I'm sorry are you looking for a ratification for your excuses or are you looking to make a change?

    All the advice in the world wont make the slightest bit of difference unless you want to make that change, and that can only come from within.

    The biggest problem I see so often is that so many guys set out with good intentions but unrealistic goals. Achievements will keep you going at the gym, achievements will keep you from bad eating habits.

    I am not suggesting go for fad eating plans but go for something that will allow you to keep that initial motivation sustained.

    I also think another big issue is your training plans dont match your lifestyle or rather your beliefs in the only way to shed that weight dont match it. (I am not knocking you by the way I have been where you are now). If you dont like sports but you like to watch films then you need an efficient plan not what I see as the "Run fat boy run" attitude that is going to make you a slave to the gym. Exercise is hugely inefficient when it comes to weightloss. Let your diet do the hardwork, you have had your cake and eaten it so now it is time for pay back.

    So you can either eat more and work more and miss that film watching hot man shagging lifestyle or you can eatless, watch your films and still have men for breakfast, lunch and dinner and train efficiently ie less time
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    Apr 14, 2008 7:00 PM GMT
    I've gone through quite a lot of weight changes in my life, and all I can say is determination is the most important thing to keep yourself staying in shape. Make working out as habitual as brushing your teeth - that's how I feel. Working out has become a must for me, just like working, sleeping, and school (for now).

    Wish you the best of luck, and I know you probably don't wanna take pictures of yourself to track, but you will be amazed at the difference you'll see within weeks; that will only fuel your motivation later on. :0)
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    Apr 14, 2008 11:02 PM GMT
    bfg1 saidI'm sorry are you looking for a ratification for your excuses or are you looking to make a change?

    All the advice in the world wont make the slightest bit of difference unless you want to make that change, and that can only come from within.

    The biggest problem I see so often is that so many guys set out with good intentions but unrealistic goals. Achievements will keep you going at the gym, achievements will keep you from bad eating habits.

    I am not suggesting go for fad eating plans but go for something that will allow you to keep that initial motivation sustained.

    I also think another big issue is your training plans dont match your lifestyle or rather your beliefs in the only way to shed that weight dont match it. (I am not knocking you by the way I have been where you are now). If you dont like sports but you like to watch films then you need an efficient plan not what I see as the "Run fat boy run" attitude that is going to make you a slave to the gym. Exercise is hugely inefficient when it comes to weightloss. Let your diet do the hardwork, you have had your cake and eaten it so now it is time for pay back.

    So you can either eat more and work more and miss that film watching hot man shagging lifestyle or you can eatless, watch your films and still have men for breakfast, lunch and dinner and train efficiently ie less time


    I don't mind tough love but I do mind people saying I'm on the lookout for a pity party. I've never blamed anything for my choices, not once in my life. icon_smile.gif

    Now with that out the way, I've tried eating better and going to the gym. I'd do it for about two weeks then...I stop giving a damn. I want some advice on keeping motivated for the guy who doesn't "get" the Fit Culture.
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    Apr 14, 2008 11:07 PM GMT
    DJBens77 saidI can definatly relate with your post. I have always felt there was a skinny guy living inside of me (perhaps I ate him on a late night food binge). I have bounced up and down the scales and always seem to land at about 15 - 20 pounds heavier than I want to be. Even when I was swimming 5 hours a day I had to be talked to by coaches about my weight. After quitting swimming, I ballooned to 235. I ate and drank too much. Then I went on a diet pill binge and got down to 155.

    Working out has always been a part of my life and always will be. I suggest you start incorporating it into your life. If not for asthetics, then for your health. Just make it part of your daily routine. Find a good gym you like or a class and just committ to a little bit. You will find it gets easier.

    But the real issue is food. It is my problem too. As many times as I try to get on track with a good diet, there is some temptation or dinner plan that takes me off. Cut out the junk food and start eating healthier foods. It ight be hard at forst, but it will get better. you will find yourself craving healthy foods. and when you do fall of the wagon and hit up taco bell at 3am, it will be ok.

    Food is more of a factor than you realize. write down what you eat throughout your day. find out how much fat, calories, protein, carbs, etc you are consuming for a week. I think you will find easy ways to cut back.

    Good luck. As a frequent visitor to fatty land, I applaud your concern for yourself, but you hqave to put in the effort and change things up. It just wont happen through sheer will.


    Here's another question. I spend most of my money on rent, school supplies, utilities, etc, and the last thing I'm thinking of is food. I usually buy things that would make every college student proud. Canned soups, fruits, noodles, etc. What are some better cheaper alternatives?
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    Apr 14, 2008 11:36 PM GMT
    ImTrying21 said
    Here's another question. I spend most of my money on rent, school supplies, utilities, etc, and the last thing I'm thinking of is food. I usually buy things that would make every college student proud. Canned soups, fruits, noodles, etc. What are some better cheaper alternatives?


    Fruits are good alternatives to fruits. icon_wink.gif

    There's still some really good choices out there for the college budget. Take the frozen food aisle, for example -- Lean Cuisine and Weight Watchers tends to be the better tasting of these and they still only set you back $2-3 per meal. Good for when your time is a bit pressed to prepare something for the night.

    Be careful of even the "healthy" canned soups. Many are still a bit too high in sodium for my tastes.

    Making things fresh is usually among the best ways to go, even on a budget. Just don't overdo on the portions and maybe make enough for you to just stick in the fridge or freezer to have another day. More is usually more cost-effective, just don't fall into the trap of eating all of it at once.

    Making a meal plan for the week is a great way to get the weight down. I'm no planner... but, when I don't plan (or at least keep track) is when I usually start to get off track. Like late fall through most of the winter, when I started slacking a bit too much. I could've been much better than I am now, but it was my fault for getting lazy. Though, fortunately, I only gained 5 pounds during all that time! (Even with those holidays in there!)

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    Apr 15, 2008 1:46 AM GMT
    Question the first, keeping motivated: Remind yourself why you started in the first place, the benefits of staying active, and your goals. Oh, write down your goals. Keep them with you at all times. Put them up on the mirror in your bathroom so you see it first thing in the morning.

    Question the second, the food situation: Label reading is going to be your best friend. Try to pick frozen alternatives since they tend to be cheaper and can be kept longer in the freezer.
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    Apr 15, 2008 6:30 AM GMT
    Hey dude, former fatty here too!!! And i know, most people dont believe me for a second, but trust me, i went to "superkids karate" as a kid and was fat ... so..."superfat" was the name that stuck icon_eek.gif haha. But what got me out of it was not caring what people said or thought or their expectations for me, my motivation was simply to look good for myself - hence y im single, lol, i love myself too much.

    So, onto tactics,
    FOOD
    - cut out all white food (white flour, white sugar, white bread, white rice, etc) if its white, its processed, and processed is bad. Plus, its soooo easy these days to go brown/whole wheat with your foods.
    - learn to love salsa! u can add it to everything, mix it with a can of tuna/canned chicken (always drain and rinse these), add it to eggs in the morning wrapped up in a whole wheat wrap, have it with whole wheat nachos (perfect for snacking)
    - buy canned beans, the ones that have 5 or 6 different beans taste great, crack open the can, drain all the "juice?" out, and rinse in water, and just keep in ur fridge, they last in a lil tupperwear, add em to ur eggs (mash em up with salsa and spread over wrap and put 2 eggs on it, wrap and head to wherever u gotta go), add em to salad for a quick lil source o protein (beans are a great cheap protein alternative to meat)
    - baby carrots! invest in these, keep a bag on hand for studying, heat up and add to any meal, or when ur watchin tv and want chips - have carrots and add dip as a healthy treat.
    - for meat, which is usually the most expensive thing if your looking at going fresh, a great way to stretch your dollar is to buy it frozen, or fresh but in large quantities (check flyers to see when its on sale) and portion it into zip lock bags and freeze, tht way its portioned for meals, u have it for a long time, and you always have sum on hand!
    - learn to love fish, lots of people dont like it, but really, i tell em, "suck it up princess!" its carbohydrate free awesome protein which is good for you and if you buy what i do, frozen pollock filets, its cheap as all hell, haha. Splurge on salmon once in a while, its in my opinion the best fish.
    - frozen veggies are a god! add em to everything
    - brown rice!! its good, low fat, low calorie, and has good protein for a starch!
    - quinoa (look it up online, probably gotta go to a health food store for this, or if u live sumwhere like i do, just ask your grocery clerk if they have it, if they dont, they'll look at you funny, but fuck em, lol, ur on a mission! oh and its pronounced "key"-"new"-"a" its an ancient grain the aztecs loved
    - fruit!! buy bananas, amazing first thing in the morning while your gettin ready, get up, grab a banana (keep em in ur room, thats what i do), hit the shower and then when u go to make breakfast, your not starving and heading for the sweetest carb you own.
    - GREEN TEA!!!!! I cannot stress this enough!!!!! It does wonders for me and other i know, i switched from coffee to it and it keeps me awake, it keeps my skin nice, and it definitely encourages weight loss!!! oh, and it prevents cancer!!
    - think about food as this - if you could take it, submerge it in water and see it puff out, tahts what itll do in your stomach, so avoid bread, stick to healthy natural starches, like potatoes, brown rice, quinoa, etc.

    okay, i cant think of any more food ideas off the top o my head, but it also 2 am where i am, lol.

    GROCERY LIST FOR A FELLOW STUDENT
    - iceberg lettuce
    - bananas
    - baby carrots
    - any leafy greens that u like, experiment!!
    - potatoes
    - deli counter - lean or fat free chicken or turkey
    - whole wheat wraps
    - all natural peanut butter (sounds gross, but amazing with a banana or apple slices)
    - salad dressing, no cream based ones!!
    - canned beans!! better buy more than one can, ull go thru em quickly if ur anything like me
    - canned tomatoes
    - canned tuna/chicken
    - spices so you could stay away from direct salt
    - pam cooking spray
    - salsa!!
    - GREEN TEA - comes in different flavours too!
    - whatever chicken or turkey is on sale
    - fish, again, whatevers on sale
    - frozen veggies
    - eggs
    - orange juice, i personally splurge on this, i love me a good glass in the mornin!!
    - im lactose intolerant, but if u need milk, go for skim!!!!! and again, if you think skim has no flavour and "need ur 2 percent" ... suck it up princess!
    - butter...hmm, id say no, since your stickin away from bread, but sumtimes a lil bit is needed in rice
    - frozen berries if theyre cheap, or frozen fruit, heat em up and make it a dessert!!
    - grab a GQ magaizine at the cash, theyre monthly so 5 dollars a month aint bad for the amount of motivation they give!! lol, ur gay so post sum pics o those o those sexy studs on ur mirror, and in the morning look et em and say, ya, thats me soon!!

    GYM MOTIVATION
    - go early, avoid the crowds!!! i hate bein there with all the muscle heads, they just get in the way
    - do 5 mins on the bike, scope out the gym for which machines u wanna use and this also makes u feel a part of the gym, not just walkin in and goin on a machine
    - since ur overwight, u will, like i did, feel like people are judging u...well dont, ur at the gym workin on urself, people see that!!! and also, who r u to think people are staring at you, ur not a celebrity r u?
    - meet the trainers and say hi everyday to the front desk, then u feel like its a routine, and plus u may get free towels if your friendly with the workers!!
    - bring your ipod!!!! and load sum amazing tunes on thete, currently im lovin a few, here they are, theyre great for workin out
    - madonna and justin timberlake - 4 minutes
    - armand van helden - NYC beat
    - david guetta - anything by him is good, lol
    - busta rhymes - touch it
    - chromeo - fancy footwork
    - benassi bros - feel alive
    - 4 strings ft tina cousins - curious
    - ida corr - let me think about it
    - enur - calabria
    - so my music is good for me, but u may like others, up to you! but the above ones r really good for cardio

    PHEW, thats half an hour of typing, lol, and i still have so much more to say, but you could email me if u need advice, motivation, recipes, money saving tips, or just a chat.

    Patrick
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    Apr 15, 2008 2:04 PM GMT
    The only thing I have to add to this thread is to say that I, too, am not very fond of gyms, I'd much rather be outside in the fresh air doing something natural. So, at a beginning stage of getting the diet in order and getting into basic decent shape, you can always add more physical activity into your daily routine by walking or biking. I've added about an hour and half of physical activity into my daily routine by either walking or biking to work (8 miles round trip), and by choosing to walk or bike a lot of places I used to drive--grocery store (I buy what fits into my backpack so I buy less so I eat less), to friends' houses, to the movies or to cafes. Fresh air, more interesting, "green" alternative, and 24/7 availability. Likewise, a basic calisthenics routine (push-ups, sit-ups, etc.) would provide some toning. Keeping it simple is a good thing to start off.

    I only gym it when I have to due to weather or to provide a little variety for cardio. So if you like to walk, then get yourself some great music, start walking 30 min a day and then push the time up. Somedays I walk 3-4 hours in total, so it's not really possible to overdo it with a gentle activity like walking, as long as you build up your strength and endurance from ground zero slowly. Also, I've signed up for some of those fund-raising walks/rides, which provide a good goal for getting more physically active too. Good luck and keep checking in to let us know how you are doing!
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    Apr 28, 2008 4:55 AM GMT
    Thanks for the advice guys, especially Rower, I love lists. Without them, my ADD runs wild.
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    Apr 28, 2008 5:22 AM GMT
    Do it while you are still young and 21 as it gets garder when you get older!

    Good luck!!!!!!!!!