1st date....what should I take/bring?

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    Jun 08, 2011 12:07 PM GMT
    Im so damn nervous! I have a dinner date with a really awesome guy this evening. He has a great job, hes an impeccable dresser, his house is beautiful (seen pics on fb) & hes a very professional preppy type.

    Me...im the exact opposite, lol! Im a tshirt & jeans kinda guy, the simpler the better. My house is ok but his is awesome. Seems like he really likes plants & flowers & stuff.

    Hes fixing me dinner, refuses to let me bring anything to eat so I thought Id try to bring him a gift or something to be romantic. Flowers or a plant or something just to show my appreciation for him cooking dinner.

    What do you think? And any ideas on what I should take or give him that would make a good impression? Im so nervous I think im gonna throw up, lmao.
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    Jun 08, 2011 12:12 PM GMT
    condoms, high quality lube, and your own unique sense of judgement (what is right and what is not for YOU to do).


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    Jun 08, 2011 12:32 PM GMT
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    Jun 08, 2011 12:37 PM GMT
    Just bring a bottle of wine and yourself.

    Don't over think it, but at the same time try and put a shirt on.
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    Jun 08, 2011 12:43 PM GMT
    I like the bottle of wine approach... above all, just be you.... don't focus on his dressing, home, etc in a way that makes you nervous... just enjoy yourself
    and have a good time. Focus on getting to know this nice guy!

    Have fun and you know we want a report!

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    Jun 08, 2011 12:47 PM GMT
    redbull saidWhat do you think? And any ideas on what I should take or give him that would make a good impression? Im so nervous I think im gonna throw up, lmao.

    Just bringing your great smile should make a good impression. How have you known him so far? What kind of situations, what were you both wearing at those times, that you already know he's an impeccable dresser?

    To a sit-down dinner at someone's home I wouldn't wear a T-shirt, more likely a polo, or buttoned short-sleeve or long, with casual belted beige/khaki slacks, no jeans, brown leather loafers or deck shoes, no athletic footwear. That would make you sorta preppy, too.

    You can always bring a bottle of wine, white or red depending on the meal he'll have. If not sure bring white, chilled. Carry it in a little bottle gift bag you can buy in card shops or even Target, I believe. A Chardonnay is kinda universal.

    When you present it say: "I wasn't sure if you'd want this for tonight's meal, but if not, hopefully you'll find another use for it later." This let's him off the hook if he already has the wine planned, or doesn't like your selection, or even wasn't going to have any at all. The idea is that you are bringing something that compensates him for his expense over the dinner, however he eventually uses it.

    Men can always gift other men with something alcohol, unless you know they're strictly non-drinkers and keep none in their home for friends. Look to see what he stocks while you're there, and what he offers before, during and after the meal, to remember for next time.

    Not sure about a card, not having met him nor knowing all the background here. The most I would get is a simple "Thank You" one, hopefully that's specifically for dinner, nothing overly gushy, and not a goofy cartoon joke, just attractive & elegant. Hallmark has a good selection, and should also have your bottle bag, in plain patterns or solid colors.

    Hope you have time for this before tonight, good luck, and let us know how it goes.
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    Jun 08, 2011 12:52 PM GMT
    I would take a small potted plant and a nice card. My question is can you picture yourself with this man? It looks like you are more the down to earth type while your friend is moving up the social and financial ladder. I think my criteria would be: is this guy genuine. If he is, it could work. Just remember, don't be guiled by success and lavish material posessions. Keep us updated on this, please.
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    Jun 08, 2011 1:11 PM GMT
    He seems like a very down to earth guy. We met years ago & just reconnected on facebook. Ive seen how he dresses & pics of his house & etc.

    I expressed my concern about our differences in style before he asked me out, he said he didnt care about that.

    Im not trying to get my hopes up but this guy is a really great guy. The first guy since my break up that I can see a potential future with. Despite our differences im hoping it will work out, as I think he is beautiful & an awesome man.

    I do plan to dress up. Im going to wear an awesome ralph lauren polo short sleeve polo shirt I have with nice khaki shorts & nice leather sandles as it is going to be almost 100 degrees here today & Im not sure if we are eating inside or out on his patio.

    As far as the wine thing goes, Im a beer drinker, I know NOTHING about wine....what kind & etc do I get?
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    Jun 08, 2011 1:20 PM GMT
    redbull saidHe seems like a very down to earth guy. We met years ago & just reconnected on facebook. Ive seen how he dresses & pics of his house & etc.

    I expressed my concern about our differences in style before he asked me out, he said he didnt care about that.

    Im not trying to get my hopes up but this guy is a really great guy. The first guy since my break up that I can see a potential future with. Despite our differences im hoping it will work out, as I think he is beautiful & an awesome man.

    I do plan to dress up. Im going to wear an awesome ralph lauren polo short sleeve polo shirt I have with nice khaki shorts & nice leather sandles as it is going to be almost 100 degrees here today & Im not sure if we are eating inside or out on his patio.

    As far as the wine thing goes, Im a beer drinker, I know NOTHING about wine....what kind & etc do I get?


    If you know nothing about wine then don't panic. Just get a mid range bottle of red, that's the safest. Red doesn't need to be chilled so he won't assume you want to drink it now. I think bringing someone a bottle of chilled wine kind of looks like you're expecting it to be opened.

    Go for something Chilean or any decent Shiraz. The choice isn't important and its the thought that counts 100%.

    Believe it or not relationships aren't made or broken on gift choice or dress. You have far more to offer than that
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    Jun 08, 2011 1:44 PM GMT
    redbull saidAs far as the wine thing goes, Im a beer drinker, I know NOTHING about wine....what kind & etc do I get?

    I suggest a white, a Chardonnay with dinner usually satisfying many wine drinkers. Domestics are perfectly fine, and don't spend too much. I'm partial to Chateau Ste. Michel from Washington State, partly because I used to stop there and have a little snack, often something cheese. They also have rather nice meals there, mostly in the evenings. But I think their wines are good for the price.

    My partner's sister likes Kendall Jackson from Sonoma County, CA, and we always bring her some. One that's moving up, and has gotten some good reviews and yet remains quite inexpensive, is Cavit from Italy. Both their reds & whites are good, and for a red I'd suggest a Pinot Noir.

    If you're really a total novice, I'll even note that you should get a standard 750 ML-size bottle, not a larger one that's more useful at parties. And even if you get the wrong wine for this particular meal, remember what I said above, how to present it to him to avoid that problem. He'll find some other use for it, even if it's for cooking. The goal here is the gesture of bringing him something, so long as it's serviceable, not a Gallo cheapo for winos. Figure between $10 to $20.

    If you're not a wine drinker, and he asks what you want, say a white, less likely to cause you a headache. And have no more than 1 glass, sipped slowly. I know there are rules for wines (reds for red meats, white for poultry & fish, etc), but in today's world those rules have largely been discarded, and you can have whatever you like.
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    Jun 08, 2011 1:44 PM GMT
    Make sure you are wearing clean underwear, just in case.
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    Jun 08, 2011 2:02 PM GMT
    If you know nothing about wine, then I don't recommend you choose it as a gift. There is a lot of really bad wine out there, and besides you don't know his taste in wine. I can't even begin to count the times I've graciously accepted bottles of wine I would not care to drink. They end up in my cooking, which is fine, but not the intended purpose.

    The small potted plant idea sounds nice if you've seen a house plant in his place. Maybe a cute note pad with a fun pen.

    Bring a gift that you think he'd like that says something about you. It doesn't have to be anything much, it's more a token of your appreciation for the invitation.

    Be yourself and have fun. It's all about the company, not the gift.
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    Jun 08, 2011 2:39 PM GMT
    redbull saidAnd any ideas on what I should take or give him that would make a good impression?
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    Jun 08, 2011 2:55 PM GMT
    camfer saidBe yourself and have fun. It's all about the company, not the gift.

    That's also true, and talk of which wine to drink may only confuse and make him more tense. Though not quite the same thing, getting too much advice does remind me of this scene from The Court Jester, 1955, starring (gay) Danny Kaye, and featuring the always comically pompous Cecil Parker as the King, and look for the everlasting Angela Lansbury, too. The silly wine scene ends around 5:30.

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    Jun 08, 2011 3:33 PM GMT
    Bring a bottle of wine, i am sure he has the glasses icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 08, 2011 3:41 PM GMT
    Wow, sounds more like a job interview than a date!

    That said, I do think it's good manners to bring something to dinner. To avoid the headache of bringing wine, why not a nice box of chocolates, and a simple bunch of flowers?

    Good luck!
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    Jun 08, 2011 3:41 PM GMT
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    redbull saidAnd any ideas on what I should take or give him that would make a good impression?
    A blow job. icon_cool.gif


    This.
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    Jun 08, 2011 3:42 PM GMT
    I would go with cheese and crackers because you could never have enough cheese and crackers. icon_wink.gif

    If you do bring wine make sure you know it's good.Usually dates end up opening their own wine anyway and taking your wine and putting it on the shelf.

    A romantic comedy DVD is good to just incase ya wanna get close on the couch.

    Hopefully he is a good cook. Good luck stud!
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    Jun 08, 2011 4:32 PM GMT
    silkrock said
    If you do bring wine make sure you know it's good.Usually dates end up opening their own wine anyway and taking your wine and putting it on the shelf.


    Nothing wrong with that. Maybe he has the perfect wine picked out to go with what he's cooking.
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    Jun 08, 2011 4:42 PM GMT
    Bring a toothbrush and a U-haul packed with your belongings.
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    Jun 08, 2011 4:51 PM GMT
    Bring dessert, something light. A lemon meringue pie and a digestif.

    Bring a nice Riesling too.
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    Jun 08, 2011 5:26 PM GMT
    shortguybeau saidBring dessert, something light. A lemon meringue pie and a digestif.

    Bring a nice Riesling too.

    Oh, my dear, the host may have planned for a dessert. And a Riesling? Far too sweet for most palettes and at table. Though Riesling's a favorite of mine from my years in Germany, a bit much to assume it would be welcome, yes? Perhaps for later, when they know each other better.
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    Jun 08, 2011 5:27 PM GMT
    A pistol
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    Jun 08, 2011 11:04 PM GMT
    Iceblink saidBring a toothbrush and a U-haul packed with your belongings.



    LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!! <3
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    Jun 08, 2011 11:13 PM GMT
    Bring what you want to bring. If you drink beer, bring beer. If you aren't a wine drinker, don't bring wine. Be yourself, be honest, and don't pretend to be or like or dress like something that isn't you. Then, if things work out, it's because he likes you for who you are, not who you were trying to make him think you are.

    The more honest and open you are up front, the less you have to cover your tracks down the road.