Commitment ceremonies

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    Jun 08, 2011 12:43 PM GMT
    Is it important to you to have some form of commitment ceremony with your partner? If yes, would the ceremony be "traditional," creative/personal, or a combination of the two?
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    Jun 08, 2011 2:01 PM GMT

    Absolutely YES!! I would lean towards something more personal unless you live in a state where same sex marriage is legal. In that case, I think a combination of the two would be nice, too.
    Even "straights" are moving away from the traditional ceremonies.
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    Jun 08, 2011 2:16 PM GMT
    atlboy713 saidIs it important to you to have some form of commitment ceremony with your partner? If yes, would the ceremony be "traditional," creative/personal, or a combination of the two?


    My boyfriend/partner/slampiece comes from a strict Catholic family. Prior to our ceremony, when we went to his family's house for the holidays or whatever, they wouldn't let us sleep in the same room. After the ceremony, we were allowed to sleep together.

    I'd say it turned out pretty important. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 08, 2011 3:22 PM GMT
    atlboy713 saidIs it important to you to have some form of commitment ceremony with your partner? If yes, would the ceremony be "traditional," creative/personal, or a combination of the two?


    Yes.

    A combination.

    -Doug
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    Jun 08, 2011 3:23 PM GMT
    Yes it is and it would be creative...noe the kee...kee is finding the guy who is not commitmen PHOBIC! LOL!
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    Jun 08, 2011 3:38 PM GMT
    Ours was more or less "traditional" in that we had a marriage ceremony presided by a Christian minister, rings, cake, kisses, family. Of course the minister was a tobacco pipe smoking lesbian and we had it at a state lodge... but hey. You've got to spice things up a little!

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    Jun 08, 2011 3:48 PM GMT
    In Canada it is legal to get married. We had a non religious, more spiritual wedding....also with a Lesbian minister. It was the best feeling in the world.....We had everybody from both sides of the family, even grandparents (husband had 13 people fly in from France), and friends.... we had almost 100 people....that kind of support and love can not be described.....
    It's always up to you as to what you want and what is important to you. it's just an awesome way to profess your love.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 08, 2011 5:35 PM GMT
    I think if I were just now settling down with my partner it might be a big deal. But for us, after 24 years, it kind of seems like the cow's already out of that barn.

    That said, if our state (hah) every allowed SSM, or if we moved to one that does, we would get married for the legal benefits. But the ceremony itself probably wouldn't be a big deal.
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    Jun 08, 2011 5:39 PM GMT
    Ducky47 saidYes it is and it would be creative...noe the kee...kee is finding the guy who is not commitmen PHOBIC! LOL!


    WTF did you say?? I can't understand anything you are saying except "YES".
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    Jun 08, 2011 8:06 PM GMT
    Ravco saidOurs was more or less "traditional" in that we had a marriage ceremony presided by a Christian minister, rings, cake, kisses, family. Of course the minister was a tobacco pipe smoking lesbian and we had it at a state lodge... but hey. You've got to spice things up a little!


    Don't forget that Pastor Peg was also packin' heat!

    Our ceremony was special on a number of levels. First and foremost, it was legal. Though neither of us are particularly Christian, our parents are. Having a minister from the MCC preside over the ceremony gave it an extra sense of legitimacy for our parents, and that was important enough for us to include in the ceremony.