Crush on a guy you met through Grindr

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    Jun 09, 2011 5:20 AM GMT
    So over this past weekend, I was talking to this guy on Grindr who was in town visiting. We didn't hook up, but we met for coffee and I feel like we really clicked. We shared a kiss as I dropped him back off at the hotel, but didn't see each other again after that, although we kept texting back and forth. Now he's back home (> 1000 miles away) and I know pursuing this is absolutely pointless, but I can't seem to get him off my head. I even got a trick the next day hoping that would get my mind off things, but I still can't stop thinking about him. Ugh I hate this lol.

    Has anyone gone through something like this? And how do you get your mind off a crush when it's pointless?
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    Jun 09, 2011 12:12 PM GMT
    Keep telling yourself that pursuing someone 1000 miles away is just not a realistic thing to do, that there are better distractions and other nice guys around if you wait and give them/yourself the opportunity to meet.

    That's what I tell myself when I meet someone I know I can't date for whatever reason (ie. leaving town soon, out of my league).
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    Jun 09, 2011 12:15 PM GMT
    It goes away eventually. Continue to be internet friends.
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    Jun 09, 2011 1:09 PM GMT
    1000 miles? air fares in the US are dirt cheap... if you both want it, make it happen... only you can choose to do it...
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    Jun 09, 2011 1:13 PM GMT
    76coopers said1000 miles? air fares in the US are dirt cheap... if you both want it, make it happen... only you can choose to do it...


    Ack! Then I must be dirt poor lol.
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    Jun 09, 2011 1:23 PM GMT
    BoostToChase said
    76coopers said1000 miles? air fares in the US are dirt cheap... if you both want it, make it happen... only you can choose to do it...


    Ack! Then I must be dirt poor lol.


    LOL. Try living in a country with 20 million people the size of the US... and then you'll find out just how cheap it is to fly in the US! It's all about economies of scale - the US have it, Australia does not icon_sad.gif I flew 7 internal flight in the US for the cost of flying Sydney to Perth return.
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    Jun 09, 2011 2:05 PM GMT
    76coopers said1000 miles? air fares in the US are dirt cheap... if you both want it, make it happen... only you can choose to do it...


    considering there had been only 1 pseudo-date, I don't think this is worth dropping $$ over flights and wasting time to go after something that might not even be. If you did that, then I commend you for your efforts icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 09, 2011 2:07 PM GMT
    microbiologist saidKeep telling yourself that pursuing someone 1000 miles away is just not a realistic thing to do, that there are better distractions and other nice guys around if you wait and give them/yourself the opportunity to meet.

    That's what I tell myself when I meet someone I know I can't date for whatever reason (ie. leaving town soon, out of my league).


    I know..I keep telling myself that, but honestly, after living here for almost a year, I don't think there are better quality guys around (at least for me) unfortunately.
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    Jun 09, 2011 2:11 PM GMT
    atl2atx85 said
    76coopers said1000 miles? air fares in the US are dirt cheap... if you both want it, make it happen... only you can choose to do it...


    considering there had been only 1 pseudo-date, I don't think this is worth dropping $$ over flights and wasting time to go after something that might not even be. If you did that, then I commend you for your efforts icon_biggrin.gif


    yeah, no i haven't... but i did move to South Africa for 3 months after meeting a guy in Sydney for 3 days...

    it didn't work out, but not because he wasn't right for me, it's a long story but a family emergency came up...

    $ are $... you can't take them with you, so spend them in the pursuit of true happiness!

    i wish you the best!
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    Jun 09, 2011 2:17 PM GMT
    just let it go....if its meant to happen,it will happen
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    Jun 09, 2011 3:14 PM GMT
    You met on Grindr. He's probably Grinding all over the place and not even thinking about you. Think of it that way and you'll get over your crush very quickly.
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    Jun 09, 2011 4:55 PM GMT
    atl2atx85 saidSo over this past weekend, I was talking to this guy on Grindr who was in town visiting. We didn't hook up, but we met for coffee and I feel like we really clicked. We shared a kiss as I dropped him back off at the hotel, but didn't see each other again after that, although we kept texting back and forth. Now he's back home (> 1000 miles away) and I know pursuing this is absolutely pointless, but I can't seem to get him off my head. I even got a trick the next day hoping that would get my mind off things, but I still can't stop thinking about him. Ugh I hate this lol.

    Has anyone gone through something like this? And how do you get your mind off a crush when it's pointless?


    icon_confused.gif Means you hooked up with another guy?
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    Jun 09, 2011 5:15 PM GMT
    atl2atx85 saidSo over this past weekend, I was talking to this guy on Grindr who was in town visiting. We didn't hook up, but we met for coffee and I feel like we really clicked. We shared a kiss as I dropped him back off at the hotel, but didn't see each other again after that, although we kept texting back and forth. Now he's back home (> 1000 miles away) and I know pursuing this is absolutely pointless, but I can't seem to get him off my head. I even got a trick the next day hoping that would get my mind off things, but I still can't stop thinking about him. Ugh I hate this lol.

    Has anyone gone through something like this? And how do you get your mind off a crush when it's pointless?


    Been through that few times. Some of them took me a lot of time to forget because they seem don't want to keep in contact due to long distance but there are few that i still keep in contact (through IM or mail) because i value them as a friend and they value me in return. Personally i would say stay in contact as true friend are hard to find.
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    Jun 09, 2011 5:26 PM GMT
    atl2atx85 saidAnd how do you get your mind off a crush when it's pointless?
    You met him on Grinder. He was probably new at the hookup thing and didn't want to admit that he really wanted sex. You shoulda had him while you had the chance.

    As FTF would say: "You snooze, you lose." icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 09, 2011 7:16 PM GMT
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    atl2atx85 saidAnd how do you get your mind off a crush when it's pointless?
    You met him on Grinder. He was probably new at the hookup thing and didn't want to admit that he really wanted sex. You shoulda had him while you had the chance.

    As FTF would say: "You snooze, you lose." icon_razz.gif


    Doubt he was new at it, considering the way he looks. Plus, he's from a major city on the east coast, which means he's most likely a whore even if it doesn't come off that way in person. I agree, I wish it could have been purely about hooking up, so that way he'd be nothing more than just a memory that's easily disposed of (like the trick the next day).