HIV from a one time oral encounter? (giving?) please help.. :(

  • anon66

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    Jun 09, 2011 3:39 PM GMT
    Basically, i went down on a guy i know well, he claimed he was clean, i've known him for years so i doubt he would lie to me.. but you never know.

    I went down on him (unprotected) for about.. 40 seconds, then stopped... i doubt there was precum but there may have been.. i'm really not sure

    the day after, i got this sort of dull irritation at the tip of my penis, most noteable when i urinated. It's been a week since the encounter, and this has subsided significantly. I think i've been reading too much online about symptoms of HIV, because every little thing that pops up whether it be a red spot, irritated armpits... seems to be a symptom of HIV

    I suffer from serious anxiety, so i think most of these are just self induced... but i wanted to know, what are the chances of me of getting HIV from this one off encounter (it was my first time, and i haven't done anything else penetrative wise ever before)

    Tested for chlamydia, gonorrhea and most other stds but all came back negative. haven't done a HIV test, but 3 doctors and one sexual health advisor said that i was just being too overly anxious and shoudn't worry at all. The sexual health advisor even said 'if he came in your mouth, i wouldn't be worried.' she checked my mouth and did an oral swab and there was no problems...

    what do you think? i've been driving myself crazy
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    Jun 09, 2011 3:42 PM GMT
    Stop worrying - worrying about it is the only thing harming you.
  • anon66

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    Jun 09, 2011 3:52 PM GMT
    yeah i know worrying is making it worse...

    can't get my head around what is causing the dull penis irritation though, if it's not down to STI's?
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    Jun 09, 2011 4:25 PM GMT
    You wouldn't have a reaction to HIV infection the morning after. So, you know that the problem with your penis the day after is due to either a different STD, or something else that is nothing more than coincidence. I don't know of anything that will show up in less than 24 hours. So... stop the worrying.
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    Jun 09, 2011 4:27 PM GMT
    Yeah, HIV infections don't take 24 hours, it takes months, maybe years to get symptoms. If you do have an STD its probably from sucking another dick a few months ago (don't say it was your first time, we all know that's bullshit). Go get tested and find out to be sure. I'm a hypochondriac so I get tested about every 2-3 months.
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    Jun 09, 2011 4:28 PM GMT
    Stop driving yourself crazy! you really have nothing to worry about...you should see a doctor about your anxiety if anything..they do have effective treatment for that.
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    Jun 09, 2011 4:29 PM GMT
    you didnt catch anything. its all in your head. i do the same thing sometimes.
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    Jun 09, 2011 4:30 PM GMT
    HIV has no symptoms for quite some time.

    The dull irritation is most likely not related to any STI or other disease. I don't know the exact medical terminology for it but its a common sensation after sex, or before sex, or any time when semen has the potential to be expelled icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 09, 2011 4:30 PM GMT
    You need to seek treatment for Anxiety Disorder, not STDs. You did NOT get anything from your 40 second encounter. Nothing. Nothing was transmitted. Nothing happened. The symptoms of HIV related illness do not show up a week later. THAT is just plain stupid. When you are reading online, read the whole article. Don't just jump to the end and read "Possible Symptoms of Karposi's Sarcoma." It makes you feel paranoid, sound ridiculous and come across as moronic in this day and age. The most that an ill-informed anonymous posting like this - if it is even legitimate - will do is spread your fear and anxiety to even more, even less informed (if that is possible) individuals.
  • jingold04

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    Jun 09, 2011 4:34 PM GMT
    Stop worrying dude, seriously.AIDS (I'm pretty sure hiv itself doesn't have"symptoms") symptoms 24hrs after an encounter? Impossible.
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    Jun 09, 2011 4:34 PM GMT
    My guess is that it's either sore from blunt trauma, possibly from pressing against your pants or if he was playing with you, from biting, squeezing, pressing. Or it's a little bacteria from saliva, precum or dirt just inside the slit from a bj, hardon at night or jacking. Precum in the penis during a night time woodie is like a petri dish for bacteria. If it's just red, probably not a problem. If peeing hurts then probably just need an antibiotic to clear it up but it's probably something that can occur without having ever met another guy.

    Relax, not the end of the world. You're overly paranoid.
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    Jun 09, 2011 4:44 PM GMT
    When I went for my STD screening test the first time, I asked my doctor whether or not any patients he saw has ever been diagnosed positive from just oral alone. He told me that in he himself has never had a case like that. He has only read or heard about these cases.

    Mind you he's a doctor who specializes in screening STD and treating people with HIV in New York, and majority of his clients are gay guys. I think it's all in your head. But if you're scared get it screened.

    Read this you'll get a better idea. Your mind is a powerful thing and will play tricks on you.

    http://www.thebody.com/content/art58614.html
  • anon66

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    Jun 09, 2011 4:50 PM GMT
    thanks guys, your words are helpful icon_smile.gif

    been tested for chlamydia, gonorrhea and both came back negative. do you think i should get a hiv test? or i should just stop worrying..sorry to be a pain, the whole experience just freaked me out i guess, and i know the mind can really mess you over sometimes
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    Jun 09, 2011 5:01 PM GMT
    You do not need an HIV test.

    I'm not sure why you're even getting tested for chlamydia and gonorrhea if you've never been sexually active before.
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    Jun 09, 2011 5:03 PM GMT
    STOP WORRYING! First off, saliva in the mouth as well as any acid in your stomach will kill the virus. Any chance of catching HIV from oral would happen if you have cuts or sores in your mouth, or you just brushed your teeth and irritated the gums (but still unlikely and never proven), or a sore throat. And you would need a guy to really cum in your mouth to be at any real risk.
  • SoDakGuy

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    Jun 09, 2011 5:14 PM GMT
    Drama queen. icon_rolleyes.gif

    Go get tested for STD and go get tested on your anxiety too.
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    Jun 09, 2011 5:15 PM GMT
    I'll also add that I think I read (awhile back) on the CDC website, that symptoms of HIV infection show up an average of 8 to 12 YEARS after infection.
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    Jun 09, 2011 5:21 PM GMT
    PaulNKS saidI'll also add that I think I read (awhile back) on the CDC website, that symptoms of HIV infection show up an average of 8 to 12 YEARS after infection.


    There is also acute hiv infection that generally happens in first two-four weeks. You don't see this in all infected individual though.

    http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0001629/
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    Jun 09, 2011 5:25 PM GMT
    cityaznguy said
    PaulNKS saidI'll also add that I think I read (awhile back) on the CDC website, that symptoms of HIV infection show up an average of 8 to 12 YEARS after infection.


    There is also acute hiv infection that generally happens in first two-four weeks. You don't see this in all infected individual though.

    http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0001629/


    I understand. My point was symptoms, not seroconversion. icon_smile.gif The actual symptoms do not manifest for several years... an average of 8 to 12.
  • anon66

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    Jun 09, 2011 5:35 PM GMT
    so do you reckon it's safe that i am risk free?

    considering just to have a test anyway for my peace of mind
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    Jun 09, 2011 5:35 PM GMT
    SoDakGuy saidDrama queen. icon_rolleyes.gif


    Uncalled for. We just as easily couldve called you the same thing after reading about your little bike fiasco.
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    Jun 09, 2011 5:40 PM GMT
    Honestly though after decades of this virus we should know 100% for certain whether it IS or ISNT possible to catch it orally. Ive read some sources say its highly unlikely and extremely rare. But then again, I was told by a doctor that administered my test that the fastest and easiest to catch it is orally....
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    Jun 09, 2011 5:41 PM GMT
    anon66 saidso do you reckon it's safe that i am risk free?

    considering just to have a test anyway for my peace of mind


    You should get tested for everything including Dropsey and Hysterical Pregnancy. You may also have Malaria. Do you have skin? Then you might Sclerderma. If you have a liver and / or lungs, well basically your just asking for ALL forms of cancer. You probably already have them. All. At the same time. Are you sure your still alive? Did I miss the funeral. Creamation destroys the ozone. I can't breathe. Do you think I am a drowning and don't know it?
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    Jun 09, 2011 5:43 PM GMT
    Builtsoon saidHonestly though after decades of this virus we should know 100% for certain whether it IS or ISNT possible to catch it orally. Ive read some sources say its highly unlikely and extremely rare. But then again, I was told by a doctor that administered my test that the fastest and easiest to catch it is orally....


    That is either a complete lie or you never got tested by an actual doctor. Which is it?
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    Jun 09, 2011 5:45 PM GMT
    PaulNKS said
    cityaznguy said
    PaulNKS saidI'll also add that I think I read (awhile back) on the CDC website, that symptoms of HIV infection show up an average of 8 to 12 YEARS after infection.


    There is also acute hiv infection that generally happens in first two-four weeks. You don't see this in all infected individual though.

    http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0001629/


    I understand. My point was symptoms, not seroconversion. icon_smile.gif The actual symptoms do not manifest for several years... an average of 8 to 12.

    I just wanted to clarify for the OP in case he was confused. icon_smile.gif