Anyone else live in a place with NO GAY GUYS!?!

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    Jun 10, 2011 12:13 AM GMT
    SO IDK if anyone knows Maine... Gay guys are slim pickins around here in general. 90% of them congregate around the Portland / Old Orchard Beach / Ogunquit area (Down south).

    ... I happen to live about 1.5 hours north of there. In Augusta where you go on ANY dating website and there is less than 1 page of guys within 50 miles, and most are.... ugh

    There must be other guys out there who live in similar areas? How do you cope? Where do you meet guys?
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    Jun 10, 2011 12:16 AM GMT
    it's similar here but i'm not far from boston so it's w/e. i searched through the maine area out of curiosity on some dating site and it was def. worse. i can relate though.
  • KissTheSky

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    Jun 10, 2011 12:25 AM GMT
    I coped by moving to a big city.
    It worked. icon_biggrin.gif
  • calibro

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    Jun 10, 2011 12:34 AM GMT
    yeah, missoula (and all of montana) is basically like that. i find i don't need gay guys unless i'm trying to date one. and i learned long ago how to be happy being single so i don't need a boyfriend (and i'm enjoying being single at the moment). besides, you're uber studly... you'll find a guy icon_wink.gif
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    Jun 10, 2011 12:46 AM GMT
    Yea I cant really move. Got my dream job, LOVE the state and what it has to offer in all other aspects, just bought my first house....

    I mean the guys have to be around here somewhere... I mean it is a relatively big and populous city. But Zilch are online.

    I dont drink so bars are out. Maybe the gym I transfer to will have some guys I can meet...
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    Jun 10, 2011 12:50 AM GMT
    Take a week off if and when you can to spend that week in Boston or NYC or some other city with a high amount of gay/bi guys..
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    Jun 10, 2011 12:51 AM GMT
    Sounds like you'll just have to settle for an "ugh" guy and deal with it. icon_twisted.gif
  • calibro

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    Jun 10, 2011 1:16 AM GMT
    new_guyme saidYea I cant really move. Got my dream job, LOVE the state and what it has to offer in all other aspects, just bought my first house....

    I mean the guys have to be around here somewhere... I mean it is a relatively big and populous city. But Zilch are online.

    I dont drink so bars are out. Maybe the gym I transfer to will have some guys I can meet...


    have you tried grindr?
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    Jun 10, 2011 1:21 AM GMT
    [quote]
    have you tried grindr?[/quote]

    Isnt that a hookup thing. icon_neutral.gif
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    Jun 10, 2011 1:22 AM GMT
    Yeah right, there's a place with all "straight" guys.
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    Jun 10, 2011 1:23 AM GMT
    new_guyme saidYea I cant really move. Got my dream job, LOVE the state and what it has to offer in all other aspects, just bought my first house....

    I mean the guys have to be around here somewhere... I mean it is a relatively big and populous city. But Zilch are online.

    I dont drink so bars are out. Maybe the gym I transfer to will have some guys I can meet...



    You can't have them all. icon_smile.gif
    If there are no gay guys there, hmm... gay guys like nice places in general icon_smile.gif
  • Pyke

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    Jun 10, 2011 1:24 AM GMT
    new_guyme said[quote]
    have you tried grindr?


    Isnt that a hookup thing. icon_neutral.gif[/quote]

    I've got grindr and I live on the outskirts of a big city, in the country. It's more of a social app for me to meet other guys as friends/dates.

    I have yet to meet anyone off of Grindr yet... but still, I don't use it to hook up. So, if I don't, there should be others, right?
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    Jun 10, 2011 1:24 AM GMT
    I have fond feelings for your Maine guys -- one of my first experiences as a gay guy was with a guy from Maine. Hot stuff!
  • mcwclewis

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    Jun 10, 2011 1:31 AM GMT
    I doubt there are THAT few gay guys in your area icon_razz.gif I'm sure the particular culture of your area may play a role in how many people are out, though. Geography can be a pain in the ass, but I'm sure if you keep your eyes open you'll find some gay friendly hangouts and subsequently some other gay men. Good luck
  • mcwclewis

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    Jun 10, 2011 1:31 AM GMT
    PS: You're cute as hell... I'm surprised you aren't approached more often
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    Jun 10, 2011 1:34 AM GMT
    mcwclewis saidPS: You're cute as hell... I'm surprised you aren't approached more often


    Approached??? HAHA, don't make me laugh. I have never in my life been "approached". Actually, I've never seen anyone approached, I didn't think that actually happened.
  • mcwclewis

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    Jun 10, 2011 1:35 AM GMT
    Well... if I ran into you somewhere randomly and the situation permitted I would ;)
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    Jun 10, 2011 1:38 AM GMT
    Yep. Then again, the population here is less than 5,000. People move to the Vail, CO area when they're married or have multiple incomes to afford their $9billion 3rd home, not to be single. I knew what I was getting myself into before I moved here though. I moved here for the mountain sports and beautiful scenery, not the guys.
  • Little_Spoon

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    Jun 10, 2011 1:39 AM GMT
    On base...

    Feels that way.
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    Jun 10, 2011 1:40 AM GMT
    mcwclewis saidI doubt there are THAT few gay guys in your area icon_razz.gif I'm sure the particular culture of your area may play a role in how many people are out, though. Geography can be a pain in the ass, but I'm sure if you keep your eyes open you'll find some gay friendly hangouts and subsequently some other gay men. Good luck


    He is from Augusta, Maine. Population 19,000. So he is probably right. Seeing that there aren't that many people, then it is likely that there aren't that many gay men.
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    Jun 10, 2011 1:44 AM GMT
    Well its a choice you made by moving in that city. The gays that are out normally live in big cities.

    You can get grindr....you connect on it and you can talk with guys that are close to you...its mostly a hook up thing in a city like here,but i can see it more as a social tool in smaller cities.

    Other than that, it might take a while. I am from a really small city and I know the feeling!
  • barriehomeboy

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    Jun 10, 2011 1:56 AM GMT
    I lived in a place where they tied gays up to fence posts and left them for dead. The only solution to feeling like you belong is to move to a city where gays are accepted as part of the community. Any city in Canada is a good start. Not sure about where they are in the Unaccomodating States of America.
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    Jun 10, 2011 1:59 AM GMT
    Haven't met a guy from this state worth dating yet. Gave in and tried dating 2 WI guys, both ended up being a mistake.
  • calibro

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    Jun 10, 2011 2:50 AM GMT
    new_guyme said[quote]
    have you tried grindr?


    Isnt that a hookup thing. icon_neutral.gif[/quote]

    isn't rj a hook up place? i've met a bunch of friends from grindr. are people gonna try to hook up with you? yeah, but put it in your profile that you're not looking.
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    Jun 10, 2011 2:57 AM GMT
    *raises hand*
    That is why I joined RJ.
    Turning long distance pen-pals into .... husbands