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    Jun 10, 2011 10:37 AM GMT
    i finally met a guy on the train this week. we had been exchanging eye contact for months. he said hello to me and we spoke for quite a while - it was all very easy really. just made me think why the hell didn't I do this ages ago? i knew he was interested (it became very obvious with extended eye contact) yet didn't grab the opportunity.

    made me think of times in the past when i have blown it and not acted on my instincts, and let guys pass me by. so i think just go for it - what have you got to lose? i don't want to sound cliché but life is short, don't let opportunities (and guys) pass you by, like i have in the past.

    so to all the guys whining about meeting guys - say hello next time and see what happens!
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    Jun 10, 2011 11:30 AM GMT
    See my post called A World Without Strangers in the Spirituality forum

    This is my philosophy! It worked for you didn't it?
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    Jun 10, 2011 12:05 PM GMT
    Way to go mate! A great example of why we need to just get out and talk to other guys.
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    Jun 10, 2011 1:54 PM GMT
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    Jun 10, 2011 3:34 PM GMT
    biisurfer saidi finally met a guy on the train this week. we had been exchanging eye contact for months. he said hello to me and we spoke for quite a while - it was all very easy really. just made me think why the hell didn't I do this ages ago? i knew he was interested (it became very obvious with extended eye contact) yet didn't grab the opportunity.

    made me think of times in the past when i have blown it and not acted on my instincts, and let guys pass me by. so i think just go for it - what have you got to lose? i don't want to sound cliché but life is short, don't let opportunities (and guys) pass you by, like i have in the past.

    so to all the guys whining about meeting guys - say hello next time and see what happens!


    I think FTF is coming to this thread with his big ass sign soon.
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    Jun 10, 2011 3:48 PM GMT
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    Jun 10, 2011 5:37 PM GMT
    waimea said
    biisurfer saidi finally met a guy on the train this week. we had been exchanging eye contact for months. he said hello to me and we spoke for quite a while - it was all very easy really. just made me think why the hell didn't I do this ages ago? i knew he was interested (it became very obvious with extended eye contact) yet didn't grab the opportunity.

    made me think of times in the past when i have blown it and not acted on my instincts, and let guys pass me by. so i think just go for it - what have you got to lose? i don't want to sound cliché but life is short, don't let opportunities (and guys) pass you by, like i have in the past.

    so to all the guys whining about meeting guys - say hello next time and see what happens!


    I think FTF is coming to this thread with his big ass sign soon.



    I hear him coming down the hall, now. icon_eek.gif
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    Jun 10, 2011 5:49 PM GMT
    which train do you catch? all i get on my train are bogons who i'd never want to make eyes with! LOL
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    Jun 10, 2011 5:50 PM GMT
    Maybe this works in Australia but If I say hello to random people in New York they are automatically going to assume I'm either insane or want money from them icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 10, 2011 6:11 PM GMT
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  • shadow9667

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    Jun 10, 2011 6:21 PM GMT
    biisurfer saidi finally met a guy on the train this week. we had been exchanging eye contact for months. he said hello to me and we spoke for quite a while - it was all very easy really. just made me think why the hell didn't I do this ages ago? i knew he was interested (it became very obvious with extended eye contact) yet didn't grab the opportunity.

    made me think of times in the past when i have blown it and not acted on my instincts, and let guys pass me by. so i think just go for it - what have you got to lose? i don't want to sound cliché but life is short, don't let opportunities (and guys) pass you by, like i have in the past.

    so to all the guys whining about meeting guys - say hello next time and see what happens!


    BRAVO!!!
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    Jun 10, 2011 6:30 PM GMT
    Excellent!! Glad you took the initiative. It gave you loads of confidence and probably reduced a barrier or two in your mind.

    We all can appreciate what you are saying!

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  • rdberg1957

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    Jun 10, 2011 6:56 PM GMT
    I like what the poster is saying, but I think it's important to deconstruct what he reports. He waited until the other person said hello after SUSTAINED attention. The pair knew that there was sustained interest prior to either making a move. When I came out in 1979, sustained attention was in very short supply. I frequently made eye contact and was in bed within 30 minutes with a guy. I was 22 and that was then. And within an hour, both of us were on to our next interest. It was not conducive to developing ongoing relationships.

    If one is interested in a quality connection, how does one make it? In this instance, they saw each other over several months. The answer to the question "Why didn't I do this ages ago? is simple. Because neither party was ready until one acted. I've been reading some heterosexual literature on flirting that may translate (written by women) to gay men. In my experience, gay men tend to show interest not at all or completely. Flirting is a way of taking small risks to see if someone is interested as well as a way of having fun with lots of people for whom you have no sexual or romantic interest.

    I'm 54 and my market power is waining, but I am finding flirting to be fun. I just started trying and I am making mistakes, but I am also making eye contact, joking non-verbally, and making small connections. I 'm not sure what the next step is, but no one taught be any of this.
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    Jun 10, 2011 10:58 PM GMT
    I know what you mean. But I always figure it out after the fact, and go back, and never see him again! Does that make sense?

    I have come to realize that it is fear! And when he is staring me in the face, I am like an adolescent. How many times have I missed love? Many times...I would guess!