Hi, I am conducting an open essay survey on different gay stereotypes. Two paragraphs minimum. Thanks!

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    Apr 14, 2008 6:26 PM GMT
    Homosexuality has many different stereotypes. Please give an example of 2 stereotypes that society has created towards homosexuality and how you feel about them.
  • ShawnTX

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    Apr 14, 2008 11:20 PM GMT
    femmes - whatever

    stylish - whatever

    2 stereotypes, 2 opinions, 2 paragraphs

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  • Run4Life83

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    Apr 14, 2008 11:46 PM GMT
    Neat

    As a gay man there is an expectation that my house is well organized and looks fresh and clean at all times. I should like to vacuum, dust, do the dishes, laundry, scrub toilets, etc. Honestly, I'm not a fan, once a week my place gets scrubbed down, but otherwise during the week, it's anyone's game, and even when I do clean, organization of my place is not my forte. I love books too much so they're everywhere.

    Sexually Driven

    Gay men only want sex,and that's the only interaction that we have with other men. Me hanging out with male friends, or even making a male friend, immediately means that I'm sleeping with him. Definately not true, rarely do I sleep with people because I believe that sex is a connection and I don't just jump into bed with every male that I meet.

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    Apr 14, 2008 11:53 PM GMT
    For gay men lousy at sports, uncoordinated. For lesbians good at sports and handy with fixing things.

    Gay men supposedly are great dancers, and for some reason there is a stereotype that they are better looking than straight men on average.

    Gay men are supposedly verbally "bitchy" making catty, cutting remarks about other people.

    The previous two commentators touched on other stereotypes I was going to mention.
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    Apr 15, 2008 8:22 AM GMT
    Shallow - hmp.

    Weak - grrr.

    Bitchy - icon_mad.gif

  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 15, 2008 12:27 PM GMT
    Hey Zim, I'm going to take a different approach for
    your reference:

    1) Life for the moment: Some gay men live for the moment, don't think about the consequences of their behavior, not thinking of their future and generally adopting (what some may say is irresponsible) behavior.
    Many of these men have childhood trauma, or just drama in their lives in general and some would rather seek the easy way out rather than get serious. Some just enjoy life. You can't fault that part.

    2) Grounded with Forethought: Many adopt a very grounded approach (maybe to the point where they sacrifice things like socialization). They are very much about their job, their futures, their homes and living life by what they perceive is right and wrong.
    Many are very positive people (as many are here), but there are a few that can become jaded and inflexible.


    Now one can say that either 1) or 2) can be based on age or maturity, but not always.. not at all.
    And of course many gay men are a combination and are very successful people.
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    Apr 15, 2008 12:52 PM GMT
    Fashion experts ,

    Maybe some but not all. So don't ask me any advice about that. I'm happy with my jeans and shirt. That's all I need.

    Interior Design experts,

    Ok, I have to confess. It takes me always an eternity just to be able to mix and match colors. So unless I get paid, please ask others about your home decor ideas.
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    Apr 15, 2008 3:21 PM GMT
    The physical paragon - The expectation that gay men will perpetually have slim waistlines, killer abs, perfect hair, the right clothes, and have a borderline eating disorder.

    When I go to Walmart in track pants, a hoodie, beaten-up running shoes and a baseball cap and run into straight friends, sometimes they do a double take , look me up and down, and exclaim "what are you doing here?" Sometimes, friends calls me up on a random weekend day and I'm out at lunch instead of at the gym, and they sarcastically say "wait...you actually eat? and you're skipping the gym today??? Oh my God..." These occasions are funny because I snicker to myself, thinking 'boy, have I got you fooled into thinking I'm perfect," but sad because I realize there's a societal expectation that we do live like that 24/7.

    The shallow, trampy socialite - The expectation that gay men are wildly promiscuous and incapable of stable long-term relationships.

    Even though I've always been more prone to relationships than quick flings, straight friends still always preface a question about a boyfriend with "are you still with..." as if I'm any less capable than they are of keeping my dick in only one other person's pants for any amount of time.
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    Apr 15, 2008 4:07 PM GMT
    These two are to me the more irritating stereotypes by far:

    1) That as a gay guy, I should shop around for guys as often as my other promiscuous friends (at least one "conquest" a week.) Ugh.

    2) When heterosexuals assume that just because I'm gay, I'll be compatible with ANY gay guy. Ugh.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Apr 15, 2008 4:52 PM GMT
    Gay Men -- obsessed with good hair

    Gay Women -- obsessed with bad haircuts
  • Muunrakur

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    Apr 15, 2008 5:10 PM GMT
    Affluent: There has long been a gross misconception that gays are really affluent and have enormous amounts of disposable income. I'll give just one reason this stereotype is total crap; how many low-income, working class or public assisted people are openly gay and being surveyed by these marketing firms?
  • xKorix

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    Apr 15, 2008 5:14 PM GMT
    Hyper Confident, loud, and queeny.

    Materialistic/latest most expensive brands.



  • dhinkansas

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    Apr 15, 2008 5:24 PM GMT
    Music...gay guys are supposed to love love love all the divas. Well there are other kinds of music and there are gay guys who...insert gasp or lisp here...even like rock and heavier music. I'll always listen to a diva, but I will many times pop in a Nirvana cd as well.

    Cleanliness: Spotless condos with sleek, shiny chrome furniture and the naked statue of David in the foyer. It's possible for gay guys to live in regular places and have a seconhand sofa in the basement.
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    Apr 15, 2008 5:49 PM GMT
    IMO, this is a more "real" stereotype that you are more likely to encounter when on the Net:

    The Apologist: gay man who expresses a perpetual need to disassociate himself from and apologize for "other" gays; common traits include self-identification with the phrases "non-scene" and "non-femme" (or some approximation of that phrase), a unsolicited rejection of one's prior hook-up / one-night-stand life and a current self-aggrandizing idolization of LTR-dom and "real" relationships, and a continual defense of gaydom toward the perceivably straight (usually by villifying or demeaning the "other" gay men).

    I had this beautifully written* prior to a BSOD (blue screen of death) and this but a mere attempted replication.

    * = I'm exhausted and increasingly sick; humility can go f*ck itself with the eight-incher I've yet to take


    Another stereotype would be:

    The Sexual Predator: gay man who leers creepily toward younger men, particularly teenagers (often for the purpose of recruiting them into homosexuality, though largely because he seeks sexual satisfaction from their humiliation and abuse and is therefore depraved); he's most likely in his late thirties or older; check out Boys Beware for a PSA (public service announcement) on this gay stereotype.
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    Apr 15, 2008 6:09 PM GMT
    NickoftheNorth saidIMO, this is a more "real" stereotype that you are more likely to encounter when on the Net:

    The Apologist: gay man who expresses a perpetual need to disassociate himself from and apologize for "other" gays; common traits include self-identification with the phrases "non-scene" and "non-femme" (or some approximation of that phrase), a unsolicited rejection of one's prior hook-up / one-night-stand life and a current self-aggrandizing idolization of LTR-dom and "real" relationships, and a continual defense of gaydom toward the perceivably straight (usually by villifying or demeaning the "other" gay men).

    I had this beautifully written* prior to a BSOD (blue screen of death) and this but a mere attempted replication.

    * = I'm exhausted and increasingly sick; humility can go f*ck itself with the eight-incher I've yet to take


    Another stereotype would be:

    The Sexual Predator: gay man who leers creepily toward younger men, particularly teenagers (often for the purpose of recruiting them into homosexuality, though largely because he seeks sexual satisfaction from their humiliation and abuse and is therefore depraved); he's most likely in his late thirties or older; check out Boys Beware for a PSA (public service announcement) on this gay stereotype.


    Very well thought out observation NickoftheNorth. Never thought there was stereotype for the kind of gay I have become, but your definition is close enough to how I imagine others would see me; and at least enlightens me as to one reason so many may see to avoid making dialogue with me on the boards. As for the later stereotypical gays, they're disgusting >P
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    Apr 15, 2008 6:11 PM GMT
    dhinkansas saidIt's possible for gay guys to live in regular places and have a seconhand sofa in the basement.


    Which brings up another stereotype: gay men don't have basements. They have dungeons. icon_eek.gif

  • morholt

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    Apr 15, 2008 6:16 PM GMT
    1-Gay men who insist on having other gay men write essays.

    2-Gay men who write essays.

    No straight man would do such a thing...icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 15, 2008 6:21 PM GMT
    Broadway Queens - I grew up with my mom directing the local community theater and was lucky enough to go to many a broadway show as a youngster. I still love going to the theater, but I am not a show tune girl. I think many stereotypes are an extreme of the norm. Its cool to be appreciative without it being your obsession.

    Gal Pal - All gay men hang out with straight girls all the time and act as shopping partners, gossip buds, etc. I have a few really good straight girlfriends, who would never look to spend a day doing mani/pedis with me and would be retarded to ask me anything about their hair or sex with their husband. I think I have more straight guy friends, who like me for being a guy and bringing the "mo" to the table.

  • dhinkansas

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    Apr 15, 2008 6:33 PM GMT
    Oh god...ZDrew escaped from my dungeon and is now telling the world. I hope to god he didn't take the solid gold cuffs with him. I knew I should have never cracked the window to give him fresh air.

    Yes, basments as a tv room. Not very Anderson Cooper of me, but it works and that's all that matters.

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    Apr 15, 2008 6:47 PM GMT
    **snaps out of reverie brought on by the mental image of zdrew in his sexy track pants and rough-n-tumble hoodie**

    I'm sorry, were you sayin something?