ever met with a closet case?

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    Jun 11, 2011 2:04 AM GMT
    A guy who's not admitting he's gay but is open enough to talk to you and try to make it happen (through a website). Also he avoids answering personal questions about his sexuality. Would you meet him? Past experiences with someone similar?
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    Jun 11, 2011 2:08 AM GMT
    I was that guy O.O but changed luckily. Never met with anyone during that time since I wanted to to test the waters I guess to be 100% sure I was gay although never directly said it. Would I meet a guy like that... probably. Depends on how I'm feeling that day, even if I'm into him I might not if I'm not in the mood to deal with people icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 11, 2011 2:21 AM GMT
    No. Just dot do it. The will try to put shame in hour life style. Who wants to feel ashamed for being who they are?! Not worth it.
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    Jun 11, 2011 5:28 AM GMT
    rosco87 saidA guy who's not admitting he's gay but is open enough to talk to you and try to make it happen (through a website). Also he avoids answering personal questions about his sexuality. Would you meet him? Past experiences with someone similar?


    Whose got the time for the head.games bullshit...I'll tell ya what to expect...you meet this guy...you fuck like apes that night....The next day you chat....he's detached...wont give ya straight answers....If you try to set up another date.....He's real busy but he'll call ya real soon....If you got the time to deal with it by all means ...go for it....myself...I'd rather stay home and beat off....less rejection......BUD
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    Jun 11, 2011 6:28 AM GMT
    mybud said
    rosco87 saidA guy who's not admitting he's gay but is open enough to talk to you and try to make it happen (through a website). Also he avoids answering personal questions about his sexuality. Would you meet him? Past experiences with someone similar?


    Whose got the time for the head.games bullshit...I'll tell ya what to expect...you meet this guy...you fuck like apes that night....The next day you chat....he's detached...wont give ya straight answers....If you try to set up another date.....He's real busy but he'll call ya real soon....If you got the time to deal with it by all means ...go for it....myself...I'd rather stay home and beat off....less rejection......BUD


    Bud has a point here, and this even applies to some of the out ones. As a good quick answer: yes I have met with this kind of guy before.
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    Jun 11, 2011 7:53 AM GMT
    I assumed "make it happen" referred to a hook-up. If so, why not? It's not like you're expecting to date the dude, right? If you both wanna mess around, go for it!

    I hook up w/ this sadly closeted dude sometimes. I feel bad for him in life, generally. But he's obviously happy when we get together (and it's not bad for me either), so I don't feel guilty. Neither of us are under any illusions...
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    Jun 17, 2011 9:42 AM GMT
    I was a magnet for closet cases when I first started seeing guys. I could never find a gay guy or a bi guy, but a curious guy or guy in denial was always right around the corner.

    I only convinced myself once that I could help one of them accept himself and that we would fall in love and live happily ever after with me and was severely burned.

    After that I took them for what they were. People still discovering themselves,and not ready for anything serious. So I have slept with many, but would never expect nor pursue anything more now.
  • mikey_101

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    Jun 17, 2011 1:19 PM GMT
    I think we could all do with forgetting lady gaga - although some may have been born this way, we were not all born 'out'.

    Most folks here I would guess have had to come 'out' at some point in their life........ and folks confused or experimenting realy need to do that to find out who they are.

    I was 100% closet case - sleeping with guys whilst maintaining the straight image.

    I met my partner whilst still living this life - he helped me with patience and encouragment to accept myself and tell my family and friends.

    We have been together for 3 years and without his help, I would still be harsh and unforgiving on myself.

    Give people the same chance you feel you deserved yourself - you will be rewarded.

    tollerance and patience are virtues.