Living with fat kid mentality...

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    Jun 11, 2011 4:17 AM GMT
    Own it, dude. You made the transition successfully. You've earned the permission to be confident - bordering on cocky - sometimes a little over the border. So what if you're not Adonis yet? You've made yourself closer than 95% of the rest of the population. You know it but you're trying to be too modest about it; and that modesty is emotionally gonna kick your ass and set you back.

    I've decided that the fat kid mentality involves many things that if we lose them, we'll become fat again. One of those things is the insatiable desire to become lean and muscular. That's the driving force that keeps us striving for better.

    When we let modesty negate our sense of accomplishment, that's when we lose that desire and get fat again. I've been down that road, and it ain't fun.

    So, don't be afraid to show off what you've accomplished. You earned it.

    PS. For those who are still fat and are struggling to change, be happy with your own physique as it is, and know that it can change if you want it to. That's the key to achieving the patience it takes to follow through and make fitness and food just part of your lifestyle.

    PPS. @Spiritreaver: do more and longer flexing videos plz. *drool* kthxbai icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 11, 2011 5:02 AM GMT
    Really cool thread man, as I said in my message to you. I say it quite often to people, but it's so easy to get stuck on what you have left to do and forget about the accomplishments you have already made. That right there is what I need to remember, I think it's ok to be modest, but don't let it lower yourself.

    On the PS, it really isn't hard to lose weight and get in shape, it's getting through the first couple of months that feels like hell. Anyone can do what I did, you don't even have to follow the same path I did to get there, just know it's possible if you set yourself up for success and keep at it.

    If anyone needs any advice/help/encouragement, I'm always here for that, especially when it comes to losing weight.

    On the PPS. I'll get to work on one just for you. ;)
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    Jun 11, 2011 5:54 AM GMT
    Spiritreaver said... you don't even have to follow the same path I did to get there, just know it's possible ...
    ^^^truth

    Spiritreaver saidOn the PPS. I'll get to work on one just for you. ;)
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    Jun 11, 2011 11:16 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidOwn it, dude. You made the transition successfully. You've earned the permission to be confident - bordering on cocky - sometimes a little over the border. So what if you're not Adonis yet? You've made yourself closer than 95% of the rest of the population. You know it but you're trying to be too modest about it; and that modesty is emotionally gonna kick your ass and set you back.

    I've decided that the fat kid mentality involves many things that if we lose them, we'll become fat again. One of those things is the insatiable desire to become lean and muscular. That's the driving force that keeps us striving for better.

    When we let modesty negate our sense of accomplishment, that's when we lose that desire and get fat again. I've been down that road, and it ain't fun.

    So, don't be afraid to show off what you've accomplished. You earned it.

    PS. For those who are still fat and are struggling to change, be happy with your own physique as it is, and know that it can change if you want it to. That's the key to achieving the patience it takes to follow through and make fitness and food just part of your lifestyle.

    PPS. @Spiritreaver: do more and longer flexing videos plz. *drool* kthxbai icon_biggrin.gif


    QFT!

    Two people whom I definitely look up to as I continue to achieve my own fitness goals icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 11, 2011 11:42 PM GMT
    Thanks. I really needed this message today. I'm at a bit of a crossroads, and I feel like lately I'm hitting a roadbump in a way. I mean, I'm the thinnest I've ever been in my life. Upper 150 pound range. I just bought my first ever 32" waist jeans. It's truly amazing I feel I've accomplished. But I feel like I still have a long way to go. I don't have that much muscle on me, most of the weight is body fat all over, but especially in the core area, the belly and stuff. And I know what I must do to get rid of it. It's all diet. I've been eating too many marrionberry muffins and cheesy bagels and other stuff for my own good lately. I need to get off the starches and carbs and sugars and eat the good stuff, the lean meats and veggies.

    It's really quite daunting it feels like, and I wish I could really enjoy the foods I'm supposed to eat. But hey, I guess if it were easy, everyone would be ripped.
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    Jun 11, 2011 11:46 PM GMT
    Szchatt89 said But hey, I guess if it were easy, everyone would be ripped.


    So true, and then people would just fixate on some other trait! Probably something dumb like integrity or intelligence. Lol
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    Jun 11, 2011 11:57 PM GMT
    Szchatt89 said... and I wish I could really enjoy the foods I'm supposed to eat. ...
    This is why I stress patience, and advice replacing only one food at a time. That way you can figure out what healthy foods you like, and change over an extended period of time. Eventually you'll have a whole list of healthy foods that you truly enjoy. That's when staying ripped becomes easy.

    Sudden diet change is one of the many reasons people fall back, because they feel like they "have to" eat certain stuff whether they like it or not. Then when they're almost ripped, they go back to their old way of eating.
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    Jun 12, 2011 12:01 AM GMT
    former fatty checking in!
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    Jun 12, 2011 12:18 AM GMT
    atl2atx85 saidformer fatty current hottie checking in!
    Fixed. icon_cool.gif
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    Jun 12, 2011 2:03 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    atl2atx85 saidformer fatty current hottie checking in!
    Fixed. icon_cool.gif


    aww thanks icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 12, 2011 2:08 AM GMT
    As a recovering fat guy myself, I approve this message! icon_smile.gif
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    Jun 12, 2011 2:23 AM GMT
    atl2atx85 said
    paulflexes said
    atl2atx85 saidformer fatty current hottie checking in!
    Fixed. icon_cool.gif


    aww thanks icon_razz.gif


    agreed! awesome bod! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 12, 2011 2:24 AM GMT
    alphatrigger saidAs a recovering fat guy myself, I approve this message! icon_smile.gif


    upload some of ur latest pics!
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    Jun 12, 2011 2:29 AM GMT
    rjb2001 said
    alphatrigger saidAs a recovering fat guy myself, I approve this message! icon_smile.gif


    upload some of ur latest pics!


    rjb2001 is right.

    alphatrigger, update your bodyshots. I think you are more in shape than your current profile pictures, from what I saw on Wednesday icon_wink.gif Sorry I told everybody about it btw. icon_redface.gif

    You're welcome. I expect some sort of free lunch next time, and no, I do not want tuna milkshake. Sorry _2theTEE icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 12, 2011 2:29 AM GMT
    rjb2001 said
    alphatrigger saidAs a recovering fat guy myself, I approve this message! icon_smile.gif


    upload some of ur latest pics!
    +eleventyzillion
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    Jun 12, 2011 2:43 AM GMT
    Paul who knew you had so much inspiration in you!

    I am the king of living with the fat kid mentality... And I guess part of me will always do. I'm far from a lean muscular body, but I'm working hard to better myself, both physically and mentally ;)
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    Jun 12, 2011 3:11 AM GMT
    CHIdude said... I'm not far from a lean muscular body,
    yet another one fixed. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 12, 2011 3:14 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    CHIdude said... I'm not far from a lean muscular body,
    yet another one fixed. icon_biggrin.gif


    Lol! Stop putting (positive) words in my pessimistic mind!
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    Jun 12, 2011 3:42 AM GMT
    CHIdude said
    paulflexes said
    CHIdude said... I'm not far from a lean muscular body,
    yet another one fixed. icon_biggrin.gif


    Lol! Stop putting (positive) words in my pessimistic mind!
    You're the one who put it in your mind. All I did was typed it. icon_razz.gif
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    Jun 12, 2011 5:26 AM GMT
    This thread is me in spades. I never sit back and think about all that I have accomplished so far. And whilst I'm not at "there" yet I know one day I will be icon_cool.gif

    Now if only I could lose that little bit of stubborn fat I have left icon_lol.gif
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    Jun 12, 2011 5:35 AM GMT
    killer_pj saidThis thread is me in spades. I never sit back and think about all that I have accomplished so far. And whilst I'm not at "there" yet I know one day I will be icon_cool.gif

    Now if only I could lose that little bit of stubborn fat I have left icon_lol.gif
    It's really easy to forget. For me when I meet my goals, it makes me happy for a moment or two, but then I just see what's left to work on next and get focused again. So when people even compliment me it's like "that's cool, thanks, but you're not mentioning this" and I get bogged down again.

    That and I compare myself to people way too much, though is not a problem that is restricted towards being formerly fat, it's just a problem with society in general. Whether it's in the gym, in class, on RJ, or just watching TV, I'm always comparing myself to someone else and reminding myself of how much work I have left to do.

    Really is all about disregarding these feelings to a degree. Accepting and relishing that people actually think you look great, they aren't scrutinizing you, or putting you down (well most), they're being genuine.

    Now if I can just find the guy at the club who made fun of me..... oh I will give him hell.
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    Jun 12, 2011 5:36 AM GMT
    I think it's really interesting that we can physically change our appearance but still maintain an old perception -- we actually feel like the person we were. It shows the power of the brain.
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    Jun 12, 2011 5:37 AM GMT
    My legs are way high in the air for you right now. just fyi icon_smile.gif

    I mean...I just get so emotional...

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    Jun 12, 2011 5:43 AM GMT
    cityaznguy said
    rjb2001 said
    ...upload some of ur latest pics!


    rjb2001 is right.

    alphatrigger, update your bodyshots. I think you are more in shape than your current profile pictures, from what I saw on Wednesday icon_wink.gif Sorry I told everybody about it btw. icon_redface.gif

    You're welcome. I expect some sort of free lunch next time, and no, I do not want tuna milkshake. Sorry _2theTEE icon_razz.gif


    ohhhhh alrighty. Since you asked nicely. ;)

    And since RJ takes a while sometimes to approve things, here's a sneak preview...

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    This and the others I'll be uploading are from sometime in the first week of June... it's a verrrry gradual change, from the less recent pics, but much better than a year ago. icon_smile.gif
  • Spiritreaver

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    Jun 12, 2011 5:46 AM GMT
    O_O You're a braver man than I, that's for fucking sure.

    (Oh and you look fantastic! Great work. icon_smile.gif)