Arghhhhh I can relate to OP sooo much here, FFS it's annoying.
You talk to somebody for a while online that you do not particularly fancy, but, you get on with them like a house on fire, you like them on a friendship level, you try not to give them the wrong idea but they still
flirt and or hope for something more, which becomes apparent somewhere further along the line of discourse. You inform and them that your feelings are platonic only, they get offended/embarrassed/indignant and stop communication altogether.
No matter if people say they are looking for friendship as well as more, the minute they realise there is no possibility of sex/relationship in store for them here, the real SOLE intention behind the discourse rears its head and all of a sudden they clearly feel that they have wasted their time and efforts getting to know you, even if you had been talking regularly for many months prior, the presumptuous game they have played backfires and they cut all ties, most likely to save face.
Booo hissss boo.
That's why I'm a big fan of just assuming possible friendship/acquaintances when talking to guys, and If I am attracted to them for the possibility of more, anything else that may evolve is just a bonus. A shame that seemingly most gay guys think the exact opposite.Reply to OP
: If they ask me outright, I am completely honest and just say I enjoy talking/hanging out with them, would like to continue to do so, but I just don't have a deeper attraction to them, so if they want to carry on as we have been doing so on a friendship basis, awesome cakes. 9/10 they thank you for your honesty but then tell you that they really were looking for more and/or then just cease all contact (but they don't inform you of this from the get-go of getting to know you as they clearly don't want to appear slutty or as a stage-5 clinger and ruin their chances) , the 1/10 who doesn't tends to secretly resent the rejection/harbor hope that you'll eventually change your mind; consequently, eventual unrequited gay drama ensues...