On a serious note!

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    Jun 12, 2011 4:17 AM GMT
    I have had my heart broken by this guy and he is so sweet and amazing ,however we have had a thing from January till a couple weeks ago. Now everytime we would split up he would always come back to me and saying all these sweet things that make me fall for him all over again,but after a week or after sayingthese things he changes. He would be jerk-ish to me and ignored me most of the day. I confronted him about this and his answer was that he's depressed, he don't know what he wants anymore that when he feels sad and alone he comes to me and I make him feel better. Even though he told me this 3rd time around it would be different that he couldn't leave me again that he will never hurt me again! I told him that I'm done, that I couldn't take it anymore that I love him but I just can't take it. I told him I would still be his friend.

    I'm just asking how do you make sense of all this?
    Why does he act like that?
    Was I right to tell him I'm done?

    Deep down in this little place in my heart,I'm hoping...wishing that he will come back to me though....

    Thoughts??
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    Jun 12, 2011 4:26 AM GMT
    Stop being a doormat.
    Show yourself some respect and move on.

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    Jun 12, 2011 4:45 AM GMT

    "Deep down in this little place in my heart,I'm hoping...wishing that he will come back to me though...."

    Well of course you feel like that; you're in love. He isn't. He needs you though, because you give him some kind of balance when he feels unbalanced. Perhaps you ground him, but he's paying no attention to what it costs in terms of pining for reciprocation, which I think is natural and to be expected, and how wonderfully so. I think you deserve a little better than this, yes?


  • MikemikeMike

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    Jun 12, 2011 4:57 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidStop being a doormat.
    Show yourself some respect and move on.



    agreed for the most part with the above, and suggest he see someone professionally. Maybe he has clinical depression or he's bi-polar.
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    Jul 07, 2011 6:07 AM GMT
    Lose the guy. He's acting like a total shitbird. And he'll keep on playing you as long as you let him.
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    Jul 07, 2011 3:13 PM GMT
    Poor prognostic indicators here. Steel yourself and move on. Hindsight is 20/20.

    Yeah. Easier said than done, but necessary.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 07, 2011 3:17 PM GMT
    He definitely has some issues. Back off for your own well being. You can still associate with him provided you really understand that you shouldn't be involved with his physically or emotionally. He needs some counseling and you need to move forward with your life.