samurai111 saidThis is a question to all gay/bi men who were married (or are still married).
Was it worth it to get married to a woman?
And to all men who have kids, does this fact affect your answer? In the sense that having kids was a good enough reason to say being married to a woman was worth it?
I was married in 1978 @ age 21. although i was always attracted to men, it was not an option, in the religious circles. I have 4 kids, all college grads, 3 are married, and they are my most proud achievement to date. I don't mean to offend anyone, but I think that guys who have kids, are far less selfish, and more grounded in life. Kids will test you, drive you crazy, but make you a better guy. All guys can become great Dads.
My life was busy, and pushed feelings and emotions down, but 2 yrs ago, I came out to all. The divorce from a wife, and an excellent mother, whom i still love, was one of the toughest things, i could have ever gone through. I know that all things in life, are for a reason, and this has made me a better gay man. [i never used the word "Bi"]
There are many great options for a young guy, like yourself, that were NOT available "in the old days". There is a great need, for good adoptive parents, and although it not a walk in the park. you will be a better man for it. Yes, you can be a single parent, but 2 make it far more enjoyable. Share you life with others.
Just my opinion, no judgement of others.