Is who we date or attract a reflection of our personality?

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  Jun 12, 2011 8:12 PM GMT

  I agree with this belief. I attracted this narcisstisic, homophobic guy. And, I feel that maybe I am this way too. Maybe I am this terrible person. That's why I feel so awful about myself. Maybe on some level I'm a narcissist, shallow, homophobe. But, I don't feel like I am. I had no idea he was a phobe until he unleashed all of that hate towards me and gay people in general after I asked him out, after thinking he was very interested in me.
  Why else would I attract such a guy. I'm probably like him on some level.
  
  What do you think? Do you think you are a reflection of who you attract? Or, do you think it's just random. That there are jerks out there, and there are nice people.

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  Jun 12, 2011 8:18 PM GMT

  Gymrat, if you want to look upon this from a metaphysical viewpoint, I agree that what we attract is a reflection of ourselves (most of the time).
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  Jun 12, 2011 8:22 PM GMT

  Jerks attract jerks and nice people attract nice people...

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  Jun 12, 2011 8:24 PM GMT

  Birds of a feather?
  
  You know yourself don't you?

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  Jun 12, 2011 8:30 PM GMT

  No...but, I am not this guy. I liked him and I told him it didn't matter to me what he looked like. I have never treated somebody so terribly in my life, nor would I dream of it. I could never live with myself if I knew I was the reason for causing such pain in a person's life.

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  Jun 12, 2011 8:34 PM GMT

  gymrat100 said
  I agree with this belief. I attracted this narcisstisic, homophobic guy. And, I feel that maybe I am this way too. Maybe I am this terrible person. That's why I feel so awful about myself.
  
  So are you retracting the words above?

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  Jun 12, 2011 8:39 PM GMT

  No...that's how I feel. Others might see me differently. Maybe I'm this awful, terrible person.

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  Jun 12, 2011 8:43 PM GMT

  If that's how you feel, you are becoming this awful person. It doesn't matter how others see you, it's just a facade. Why not start by not badmouthing yourself?

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  Jun 12, 2011 11:26 PM GMT

  I think on some level we attract similar people but not absolutely the same. If this guy was a total phobe and jerk and you honestly don't feel you are then you're probably not. If you really look, you'll probably be able to find several other ways that you are alike, some positive and some negative.

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  Jun 12, 2011 11:47 PM GMT

  In some what we might have some similarity in our trait but everyone is different. If i am with some one that is same as me, that would be really boring. I believe the difference between each person will give us a chance to learn from one another. As a human being, we some what scared of the differences between one another. If you could learn and see through the difference, you will be a better person.

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  Jun 13, 2011 12:13 AM GMT

  In a word, Yes.

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  Jun 13, 2011 7:07 AM GMT

  "you exude what you attract"
  
  - Mobwives

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  Jun 13, 2011 7:11 AM GMT

  i attract lesbians for some reason. i have lot of lesbian friends. however, i do not get urges to lap anyone's cunt or munch on their carpet.i dont even like carpet, i prefer hard wood.

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  Jun 13, 2011 7:14 AM GMT

  AvadaKedavra saidi attract lesbians for some reason. i have lot of lesbian friends. however, i do not get urges to lap anyone's cunt or munch on their carpet.i dont even like carpet, i prefer hard wood.

  
  
  ??? how? wouldn't they be going after women?? hahaha

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  Jun 13, 2011 7:15 AM GMT

  BlackCat90 said

  AvadaKedavra saidi attract lesbians for some reason. i have lot of lesbian friends. however, i do not get urges to lap anyone's cunt or munch on their carpet.i dont even like carpet, i prefer hard wood.

  
  
  ??? how? wouldn't they be going after women?? hahaha

  
  
  ????????

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