too straight?

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    Jun 13, 2011 6:04 AM GMT
    So I am at a bar(straight bar) in the bathroom and this hot guy walks by(absolutely gorgeous) so much so that I can't help it and say "wow" haha So the guy hears me and it was kinda awkward but he waits for me outside. He asks me if I was trying to say something to him and I honestly can't even remember what BS I told him. We keep talking and I say he looks Australian. He says something along the lines of "well girls usually like Australians so I hope it works with the girls here" and I say back "well it's definitely working with the guys here" and he laughs and says " hahah riiight man that's real funny, you're obviously straight..."

    WTF??
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    Jun 13, 2011 6:57 AM GMT
    Sounds like he said that to be sarcastic, but luckily for you he didn't go into "gay panic" mode the way all too many hetero and closeted guys do. He might've been worried that he was "sending out the wrong signals" and setting off gaydar, no matter that his reaction tells me he wasn't dangerously homophobic. Straight fellas have gaydar, too, y'know. ("Did I spend too much time on my hair? Are my pants too tight around my butt? Something must've given this dude the wrong idea...")

    I've run into weird shit like that from time to time. You're close by somebody at a bar, you're both getting your drink on, and a casual remark starts you talking. You "click" and start phasing into heavier conversation and enjoying it. Lingering glances are exchanged. It becomes clear, at least to you, that you're mentally undressing each other. Then it's time to make the next move. You say, "Wanna knock back a few more at my place?" He leaps off his barstool, throws a stack of bills at the bartender, and beats feet out the door after perhaps muttering a quick "I'm outta here" or "Nice talkin' to ya." Go figure.

    After all this social progress there are still armies of conflicted "bi curious" types out there. Your guy could well have fallen into this category. It's better that you had the exchange you did, instead of the nerve-wracking kind when you're hit with "Are you gay (or a not-so-nice term)?" Whether he went home alone at the end of the night and beat off thinking about that guy who scoped him in the john and could've helped his "curiosity" isn't your problem.
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    Jun 14, 2011 12:57 AM GMT
    Ya sad though cause he was so hot hahah....Yea it's just funny cause I've had guys tell me they would have never thought in the slightest I was gay... and even my friends say we need to gay you up a bit. I feel like I have a lot of awkward encounters like this.