Would you relocate for love?

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    Jun 13, 2011 6:09 AM GMT
    I'd have to have a stable job offer and place to stay in order and then MAYBE I'd consider it..

    Anybody moved to end a long distance factor, to be closer and benefitted? Anybody regretted it?

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    Jun 13, 2011 6:30 AM GMT
    If it was to relocate with a long term partner I am with for say his job I would probably do it.

    In any other setting no.
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    Jun 13, 2011 7:30 AM GMT
    Depends on where to.
  • Ironman4U

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    Jun 13, 2011 12:23 PM GMT
    True love...in a heartbeat.
  • Bunjamon

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    Jun 13, 2011 12:25 PM GMT
    Ironman4U saidTrue love...in a heartbeat.


    This.
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    Jun 13, 2011 12:39 PM GMT
    yes, but i wouldn't jump right away. i'd spend the money to handle the distance for a while until i knew it was logistically feasible.

    i wouldn't meet someone on the net and move across the country like i've seen people do
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    Jun 13, 2011 12:55 PM GMT
    Too many variables to give a definitive yes or no. How long have I known the person, where does he live, job opportunities in the area, financial expense?

    In the early stages, I would probably not do it.
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    Jun 13, 2011 12:58 PM GMT
    After enough time and commitment to the relationship has been made I would consider it yes, as I would also consider asking my partner to move closer to me. However, at that point I would probably be pretty close to being comfortable with moving in with said person, and I would make sure either he or I or preferably both were financially stable....

    Would I move right away no? Would I move cross country or across a state even for someone I just met? No.
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    Jun 13, 2011 1:02 PM GMT
    My ex-boyfriend applied to like 10 different sites for internship, most of them were in bumfuck nowhere and New York City. NYC was the long shot but he ended up going there. I went there with him because I like the city and I know I could continue to my education there. Knowing myself, I would have moved with him anywhere he got accepted but I'm glad that it was nyc (especially because we broke up icon_razz.gif).
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    Jun 13, 2011 1:38 PM GMT
    Would depend. Typical gay true love means you met him on Friday and you are packing up on Tuesday. If it was someone I was with for a long time and lest say they got transferred by their job, I would make every effort to go. But, it it was somewhere I could not find a job or somewhere I had NO desire living then I wouldnt.
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    Jun 13, 2011 1:42 PM GMT
    Dallasfan824 saidWould depend. Typical gay true love means you met him on Friday and you are packing up on Tuesday. If it was someone I was with for a long time and lest say they got transferred by their job, I would make every effort to go. But, it it was somewhere I could not find a job or somewhere I had NO desire living then I wouldnt.

    IF we are talking I met him on the internet, or while I was on vacation and kept a phone relationship..then no again.
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    Jun 13, 2011 3:11 PM GMT
    If I were single and looking, and if we spent enough time getting to know one another, even with distance, I would definitely do it. Having experienced what I have with my partner, I would never close a door to experience this again.
  • OptimusMatt

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    Jun 13, 2011 3:26 PM GMT
    Just did it, actually.

    When I first looked at him, it was like a flash of light between us (really, I know it sounds corny but that's what it was like).

    I'd follow him anywhere on the planet, but for now - Montreal is where he got his new job in a bank (which is really good for someone doing an accounting degree lol) and will be an accountant within the next year or so.

    Allows me to finish my education cheaply, as tuition drops (for Quebec residents) from $3k/term to $1k/term.

    Never thought I'd be this guy, but if I hadn't moved, if I hadn't taken the leap of faith required...I'd have spent the rest of my life wondering what would have happened if I had...

    I'm really glad I did, but it was a lot of upheaval. I did it because I fell in love, and sometimes...the potential payoff is worth the risk.

    Mine was totally worth the risk :-D
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    Jun 13, 2011 3:43 PM GMT
    The love would relocate for me.
  • cageym

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    Jun 13, 2011 3:53 PM GMT
    I was in a relationship and my partner was accepting a new job out of state. It wasn't much of a job, but it was what he wanted to do and he needed to pursue that. So I figured that was going to be it until a friend said to me, "well what's keeping you here?" And I thought, "duh, he's right -- I hate my job and I don't really like this town...." Nine months later our long-distance relationship ended as I'd found a new job, packed up and moved to join him in Illinois. 24 years later I still work with the organization I joined then. My partner and I celebrate 25 years together in October.
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    Jun 13, 2011 4:01 PM GMT
    I moved to another country for a guy 3+ years ago. I thought I had found my soulmate. Instead, i found a learning experience. The relationship ended within a month of my relocation but I decided to make the best of my situation there, since I was kinda stuck. In the end, I discovered my passion for architecture and found a career path that was challeneging, exciting and completely fulfilling. So, in my experience, love is always worth the risk, and even when things don't turn out the way you expected. Eventually, the risk will pay off, either with discovery of the man of your dreams, or another opportunity that you didn't expect. Life's too short to play it safe. Take risks, and make a mess!
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    Jun 13, 2011 4:03 PM GMT
    cageym said My partner and I celebrate 25 years together in October.


    a BIG congratulations to you both!
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    Jun 13, 2011 4:28 PM GMT
    pursuits24 said
    cageym said My partner and I celebrate 25 years together in October.


    a BIG congratulations to you both!
    DITTO! It reminds me that dreams do come true.
  • kemoze

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    Jun 13, 2011 4:29 PM GMT
    actually i would love to do anything for the one i love as long as he loves me too,
    these days i feel so damn attracted to someone in the company where i work, he told me that he is 29 years old, and he has a son of 9 mohts
    this was a surprise for me, but i am so attracted to him, we talk too much and enjoy talking , yesterday he drove me home and texted me as well to say goodnight, oneday i helped him to get a historical report of buying some itmes, so he told me while i was giving him the report he said he loves me .
    i know he is not serious and maybe he likes me as a friend, but if he is really into me, i would do anything for him. even if he asks me to live in the desert with him , so the desert would be a heaven as long as he is there with me, i dont care about the distance if i can see his eyes, i dont care about the risk if i can hold him at night....at least i would be able to experience travelling and the risk...
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    Jun 14, 2011 4:09 AM GMT
    My fiance moved 3,000 miles to be with me. I would have done the same for him. We're very happy........and have R.J. to thank, since we met right here in Forums a few years ago. I'm a lucky man.
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    Jun 14, 2011 4:10 AM GMT
    yup i would
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    Jun 14, 2011 4:11 AM GMT
    Honestly I've got wanderlust like no other but I'm forcing nothing. I was told by a guy in North Dakota that it was a bad idea. I can believe it- I mean he wound up in North Dakota.
  • aaronkei

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    Jun 14, 2011 4:20 AM GMT
    If i felt comfortalbe giving them my heart then yes as long as they accepted sassy icon_biggrin.gif
  • chgobuzz1

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    Jun 14, 2011 4:38 AM GMT
    Not for at least 1 year should you even consider moving. Only thenn after you have spent much time together so you know what he is like in day to day living versus dating when everyone is on their best behaviour.
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    Jun 14, 2011 6:41 AM GMT
    I'd have to know him for 2-3 years, at least. Wait until the romantic/hormonal stage of the relationship settles down so I can think clearly. Then after that, definitely! icon_smile.gif