4another saidWhich is better for gay life? Orlando or Ft. Lauderdale? Any pointers?
For gay life the answer is Fort Lauderdale, and particularly Wilton Manors, a smaller town next to it. But WM isn't on the ocean, while FtL is, as well as having more gay guest houses & resorts. For an easy walk to the beach you want a place that's either along or on a side street of N Birch Rd, FtL.
If you rent a car then the Wilton Manors clubs are only 4 miles away from those guest houses. WM does have a few gay guest houses of its own, but then you're driving to the beach (but may be able to walk to the gay bars, if you plan to do much drinking). Most of the area's gay guest houses are quiet small, many without any food or bar service, though you can usually bring your own in.
The South Beach section of Miami Beach is interesting to visit for its art deco hotels, and it has the ocean, too, of course. But it's over a 30-mile drive from FtL, with horrendous traffic, and very little is actually gay there anymore. You do not want the City of Miami, which is mostly commercial and residential and not on the ocean (you can see the difference with a map).
Unless you choose to stay in Miami Beach instead of FtL, do not fly into Miami International if you can avoid it. Use Fort Lauderdale - Hollywood Airport, much less congested, and very close to downtown FtL, about 7 or 8 miles to the gay guest houses.
As for Orlando, I would only pick it for the theme parks, which are indeed spectacular. Gay life there isn't as active as FtL, and you might look into staying at Parliament House gay resort. But I'd ask RJers from Orlando, SILVERFOX1 being one.