Relationships....

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    Jun 13, 2011 12:53 PM GMT
    Several of my friends (straight friends actually) have run into this so I'm curious about the gay community's take on it:

    When you enter into a relationship with someone, are you the type that wants people to know about it by changing your status (i.e. on this site, on facebook, etc) or do you keep your status single and why do you choose to do what you do?
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    Jun 13, 2011 12:55 PM GMT
    For me personally, if I decide to make someone my boyfriend, I am proud of that fact and proud of him and therefore tend to want to "show him off" because I want people to know I've decided to make a commitment to this person. Further, I feel that if someone strongly resists changing or updating their status it may in fact be a red flag about something deeper...(although we do have to sometimes deal with the added dynamic of someone not being "out"...which I have tried and puts a lot of strain on a relationship when the other person is out, like myself)...
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    Jun 13, 2011 12:59 PM GMT
    Change the status. This is easy.
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    Jun 13, 2011 1:02 PM GMT
    when you have a conversation and agree to be exclusive, change the status. don't rush toward either of them though. you may be de facto exclusive for a while before you discuss it.
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    Jun 13, 2011 1:10 PM GMT
    Wow, we almost broke up over this one.
    I had forgotten about my out in Columbus profile. I had mostly used it to stay up on what was going on in the bars and where the gay friendly places were, even found a gay landlord to rent a house.
    He found it a year into our relationship.

    CHANGE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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    Jun 13, 2011 1:18 PM GMT
    That would be a negative. I don't do relationship status updates on facebook or any other social networking site.

    Then again, I probably have a very different opinion/perception/view of relationships than many of you (I don't do the boyfriend thing.)
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    Jun 13, 2011 1:28 PM GMT
    Ha, I dont have my relationship status on there in the first place.

    I'm not gonna be that fool who gets, "ohhhh congrats!!!" from 20 ppl when it changes from "single" to "in a relationship," and then who gets "Oh, I'm sorry" "We love you!" from people when you break up.

    Its lame and causes nothing but drama.
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    Jun 13, 2011 2:01 PM GMT
    Only change it when the relationship is solid and been working for a while. I recently changed mine after about 8 months with the guy because I see this being a long term adventure.
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    Jun 13, 2011 2:11 PM GMT
    Just changed it when it felt like more than just dating...and I dig how on realjock it says monogamous relationship cuz that is definitely more telling than a profile that says "in a relationship". We're in relationships of all sorts with all kinds of people, but a monogamous relationship connotes intimacy and respect and commitment. I also happen to Love Letting the World Know That I'm In LOVE, totally sends good vibes out into the universe =D
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    Jun 13, 2011 2:24 PM GMT
    ZbmwM5 saidHa, I dont have my relationship status on there in the first place.

    I'm not gonna be that fool who gets, "ohhhh congrats!!!" from 20 ppl when it changes from "single" to "in a relationship," and then who gets "Oh, I'm sorry" "We love you!" from people when you break up.

    Its lame and causes nothing but drama.


    My favorite story of this was my brother was dating this girl that I hated and when they finally broke up I was the first one to get defriended not my brother so when he changed his status I went and liked it. My mom nearly killed me and my sister and brother called me in tears laughing.

    I think that you should wait a bit before you commit to someone like that. Get to know them for 4-5 months and then decide if you should date. I take the idea of dating a lot more seriously then most people though. I don't think you should hide it or anything though.
  • kemoze

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    Jun 13, 2011 5:20 PM GMT
    if i didnt change the status i would feel like i am betraying him...
    actually. i would love to tell everybody
    i would love to post a photo of me and him together..
    i will tell the whole world
  • E_84

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    Jun 13, 2011 5:35 PM GMT
    Status' are useless...I keep mine hidden on social sites (Facebook etc.). Good friends and people I talk to on day by day basis know my status.

    However, websites like these I post so that I don't mislead anyone and/or disrespect the person I'm with if I am.
  • janu88

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    Jun 13, 2011 5:45 PM GMT
    I´ve been in a relationship for relevently long time now.
    and No , my facebook status is not marked as In relationship with "name".

    Facebook doesnt reflect your life.


    In here, i have status set.
    Well for obvious reasons.
    It´s a gay site icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jun 13, 2011 6:13 PM GMT
    NOWADAYS... relationships suck!!!

    Anyways, i'd say, ask each other first... If he's not comfortable abt it then he is not ur type and then u should know its not gona work and i say keep it single! LOLOL