What is the best way to break up with a guy... after one blind date? Phone, email, in person, or... ?

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    Jun 13, 2011 9:37 PM GMT
    He saw my ad on CraigsList in the Platonic section, basically "56yo looking for a cuddle buddy." We emailed a couple of times, phoned a couple of times, and met last Thursday for coffee. His looks matched his description, but the "former model" was really former, and his architectural practice was one day a week, and he had just started last month.

    PLUS: We have some things in common but not enough to make it work.

    MINUS: His father died young, so he and his mother lived together for forty years. He couldn't be openly gay around her, but he loved her dearly and now feels finally "free" to make his own relationships. I can see him being very possessive and clingy: (1) he told me I could take down my CL ad, (2) wants me to come over twice a week or more, to work out and he'll cook dinner, (3) we ended up in bed the first night, (4) there is no physical attraction, etc.

    Now, I fall hard for a guy and I love the cuddling, but alarm bells are going off all over the place, even that first time together while at coffee.

    So... what is the best way to break up when it's not even a relationship, and you've only had one "date"? Phone, email, in person, or... ?

    Thanks!
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    Jun 13, 2011 9:44 PM GMT
    One blind date?

    No need too. An explination is only due after a second date or more.
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    Jun 13, 2011 9:50 PM GMT
    Send him a nice e-mail. Sounds like he's looking for someone to control just like he probably did with his mother.
  • derrick10

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    Jun 13, 2011 10:01 PM GMT
    I don't think you owe him any thing other than a good bye. and good luck