So have any of you guys been in a encounter with a hot guy where you least expect it? And if so how did you handle the situation and if not how would u handle the situation? I really need some advice and help. I really need some advice because I feel like I keep screwing up. PLEASE HELP!!!! Here is a brief summary of my encounters

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    Jun 14, 2011 11:46 AM GMT
    Ok I need your help all my real jock members. I did it yet again and let a hot guy slip between my fingers. The first time was at the gym in L.A. Fitness and this incredibly hot guy came in with bulging biceps wearing a fitted t-shirt and sweatpants. I wanted to approach him but did not want to come off as flirty because I do not like to show my interest due to the fact the guy may not be well... into guys.lol I blew that one though. Then it was at Ross for Less a big muscle dude was asking where Joe's Crab Shack was while my friend was just staring daggers at the guy so that never worked out. Then by publix me and my friend saw a dude not once but twice riding his bike then the second time it seemed like his bike ran out of air so he ended up walking it. I wanted to give him but again was not sure how he would respond. He was so hot though. Then it was by UCF I was checking out an apartment and this dude out of no where was walking to the same complex as me and I got lost trying to find the apartment number and I know I could of asked him and he was so hot. He had on a yellow collar shirt with cargo shorts and sneakers definitely an athlete, gorgeous blue eyes. I blew that one. Now last night at a hotel I was heading upstairs, pushed the elevator button and out walks this gorgeous dude with black hair, football build a black tank top and black gym shorts and was with a little kid. I totally did not expect it and he looked at me but I kinda already had the serious face so he walked. And literally was hoping I would run into him but never happened. I so hope I do one day.lol

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    Jun 14, 2011 11:48 AM GMT
    TL;DR thread title... hi Stuart
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    Jun 14, 2011 11:54 AM GMT
    Not sure what u mean? U mean I should shorten it?lol
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    Jun 14, 2011 12:03 PM GMT
    I think he meant to say, "You cruise,........"

    Anyway, it is easy to see cruising where there is none. I do not know what the secret is, but I am rarely able to distinguish between someone who is just being friendly and someone who is 'cruising'.
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    Jun 14, 2011 12:08 PM GMT
    Regrets don't satisfy.
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    Jun 14, 2011 12:09 PM GMT
    Oh no in Orlando there is no cruising at all. I dont go to the places to meet guys I go to just get groceries or do what is normally done at the places I mentioned but it is just a hot guy ends up coming along out of no where. But I definitely do not cruise.
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    Jun 14, 2011 12:24 PM GMT
    Num1Passion saidOh no in Orlando there is no cruising at all. I dont go to the places to meet guys I go to just get groceries or do what is normally done at the places I mentioned but it is just a hot guy ends up coming along out of no where. But I definitely do not cruise.


    I suppose it depends on your definition of 'cruising'. You stated you are allowing hot guys to 'slip between your fingers', which tends to suggest you are looking for more than just some nice eye candy.
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    Jun 14, 2011 12:27 PM GMT
    Yeah friends and maybe a relationship.. not like a hook up or anything
  • CAtoFL

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    Jun 14, 2011 12:34 PM GMT
    Sounds like you're letting yourself be intimidated by what these guys look like. Don't be. Just smile (smile - don't leer) and say 'hi' or 'morning' or something simple.

    Meeting folks is only as tough as you make it.
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    Jun 14, 2011 2:05 PM GMT
    Mil8 saidI think he meant to say, "You cruise,........"

    Anyway, it is easy to see cruising where there is none. I do not know what the secret is, but I am rarely able to distinguish between someone who is just being friendly and someone who is 'cruising'.


    LOL... you lose! ha ha

    Seriously though, this you cruise you lose is bullsh*t... people meet people everyday, anywhere, anytime... it's just human nature, you crave constant human contact...

    I mean I'm not saying go to the gym to cruise for guys, but if you meet someone there then go for it... same as in a lift, same as shopping for groceries... you meet people you connect with at the strangest places, just be open and kind, be yourself, they'll come flocking... well sort of...

    Mil8 is right... be friendly... the rest will sort itself out...
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    Jun 14, 2011 4:15 PM GMT
    I've only read a few posts and friendly gets you 5% there. You have to be confident and assertive. With the hello make a comment in your examples talk about the apartments or maybe that sucks you have a flat tire do u usually bike a lot? If you want more than just. "hey" back you have to engage. Think of this your already not doing anything what's it goig to Hurt to put yourself out there? the worst that will happen is the guy doesn't respond then you know he's not into you or he's str8. I say hello or what's up to anyone that makes eye contact with me. Give it a try you'd be surprised at howany people are dying to talk. Especially in our crowded cities people are surrounded by one another yet they are so lonely because they don't interact. Want more of my 2 sense message me. Have fun!
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    Jun 15, 2011 2:41 AM GMT
    es350 saidI've only read a few posts and friendly gets you 5% there. You have to be confident and assertive. With the hello make a comment in your examples talk about the apartments or maybe that sucks you have a flat tire do u usually bike a lot? If you want more than just. "hey" back you have to engage. Think of this your already not doing anything what's it goig to Hurt to put yourself out there? the worst that will happen is the guy doesn't respond then you know he's not into you or he's str8. I say hello or what's up to anyone that makes eye contact with me. Give it a try you'd be surprised at howany people are dying to talk. Especially in our crowded cities people are surrounded by one another yet they are so lonely because they don't interact. Want more of my 2 sense message me. Have fun!


    Exactly right man, be friendly, say something, anything, and go from there....oh and smile! people love to talk to people who are smiling! I'm not wrong here!!
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    Jun 19, 2011 5:15 AM GMT
    Wow I appreciate the help. It helps me a great deal. It makes sense. I actually have been told that I look like a cage fighter even my best friend now the first time we met he was timid about talking to me because he said I look like a cage fighter.lol I am friendly but first meeting me if I dont converse with you I already get labeled as mean but I will try it.