to OP: you've been experiencing "symptoms of HIV"?
Symptoms of acute infection look like just about every other infection from a virus because what you are experiencing is your body's immune response to any infection [flu, cold, chlamydia, etc.]...oral sex HIV infection is practically non-existent and not a major concern for public health ...if you haven't been tested in awhile...do so...for your own peace of mind...which is really what this thread sounds like you are searching for.
STD testing every 3 months
HIV testing every 6 months