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    Jun 14, 2011 11:29 PM GMT

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    Jun 15, 2011 12:03 AM GMT
    Are you kidding me? Have you no conscience? You are willing to dump your current friend and use your sister to introduce to someone based on just a greedy crush you have? And you would break up Jake's relationship as well. I don't want to sound mean or cruel but I suggest you forget about the whole thing and be happy with your current friend. Apparently you have been smoking something really good, because your fantasy world is out of control.
  • Neurons

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    Jun 15, 2011 12:08 AM GMT
    Wow, uh..

    Have you thought of the fact that Jake's current boyfriend is "the one" for him? Why would you even want to try to break them up, that's extremely selfish. You may date him and find out you two aren't even compatible, then everything you've done would've been all for naught. Forget about him, that's the best advice I can give. Either that or wait for he and his boyfriend to "break up" if you're so sure they will.
  • Ironman4U

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    Jun 15, 2011 12:12 AM GMT
    Whoaa buddy... you're talking about breaking up two relationships, coming out to family and you don't even know Jake. You're definitely putting the cart in front of the horse. Right now, all you have is unrequitted lust.

    Take a step back. Through your sis, perhaps you could meet Jake at some point. But even so, don't expect there to be some amazing fireworks. Perhaps a budding friendship (because he DOES have a bf). From there, let things unfold naturally. If Jake is the kind of guy that you want to have a relationship with, he's probably not the kind of guy who would dump his bf capriciously.

    In the meantime, enjoy your time with Nick. And be the kind of bf he deserves or move on.
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    Jun 15, 2011 12:13 AM GMT
    You're a fucking tool. Do your boyfriend a favor and dump him so he can find a man worth a shit.

    You're a home wrecker and about as shallow as piss on concrete.
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    Jun 15, 2011 12:15 AM GMT
    If I was Nick, I'd dump your ass in a heartbeat.
  • yvrtwink

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    Jun 15, 2011 12:19 AM GMT
    lol. You don't even know if you have anything at all in common with "Jake". You are just lusting after him because he's something you can't have. You should be more than happy with your 8/10 boyfriend who you can talk to and are comfortable with.

    People with your mentality are why I am completely put off dating guys. It seems like everyone's always looking for something better.
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    Jun 15, 2011 12:21 AM GMT
    What if Jake was equally and unfairly judgemental and rated you a 4/10? Wouldn't that be ironic? You can thicken the plot by finding out that Jake was having an affair with the guy you are leading on ..and dumped his boyfriend for the guy you are seeing..who Jake know's in his mind is a total 10. The outcome of course being you getting dumped by an 8 who is hooking up with your 10 both of whom have ranked you as a 4 or less.
    Karma is great isn't it ? Get over it and move on.
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    Jun 15, 2011 12:22 AM GMT
    you want to know what to do? how about you go fuck yourself...

    you sound like a total douche. why dont you focus on school and not fantasizing about some guy who you hardly know. you think he might be "the one" because he is a 10? sounds like you dont even know the guy at all, yet you think he would dump a guy who actually talks to him for some creep who's been stalking him on facebook...

    this post has to be a joke since no one is really this stupid.
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    Jun 15, 2011 12:55 AM GMT
    Just casually Facebook him. If he friends you tell him you have always thought he was hot. Nobody is going to be turned off by flattery. If something is supposed to happen between you two it will. Always remember 10's are in the eye of the beholder.
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    Jun 15, 2011 1:02 AM GMT
    I can't tell if the OP is just trolling or is actually serious. I know people are cruel, devious and selfish but this takes the cake. I hope never to encounter a man such as yourself.
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    Jun 15, 2011 1:04 AM GMT
    Gaydar saidYou're a fucking tool. Do your boyfriend a favor and dump him so he can find a man worth a shit.

    You're a home wrecker and about as shallow as piss on concrete.


    Hahah...great feedback.
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    Jun 15, 2011 1:09 AM GMT
    Everyone, back off!

    To OP, you see, you have to understand that some gay guys on here are lonely and desperate to have a boyfriend that they lash out on you who obviously already has a 8/10 boyfriend.

    I understand what you are going through and I am not here to judge you. People have the right to choose what they want and you can't really choose whom you are attracted to. But, I do hope that you give Nick the respect he deserves which is, if you decide to approach Jake, apologize and break up with Nick first before you do anything. He deserves that. Don't TRY to get together with Jake behind Nick's back and only has it not worked out with Jake, you decide to get back with Nick. I believe Nick deserves more than that. Be a man and make a choice. Don't be a streotypical flaky gay guys who lie and cheat behind their partner's back.

    Back to reality, there is a high chance that things will not work out well with jake because you have alot of obstacles in front of you. I am sure you've already known that.

    Here are a constructive tips:

    1. Make Jake aware of the fact that you are gay
    2. Make your sister aware of the fact that you are gay because she will wonder why you have taken a sudden interest in Jake.
    3. Tell the truth to Nick, he deserves a guy who loves him wholeheartedly, I'm sure you know that already. Sometimes, honesty is the best policy. He will thank you in the long run for you sincere honesty.
    4. Try to get to know Jake more, maybe he has changed since he has been in college. People do change, maybe you will realize that he's not really that attractive once you really get to know hiim. He may be hot but his personality might rub you the wrong way. OR you might like him even more after getting to know him. In any case,...
    5. Best of luck, I really do hope that you get Jake.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jun 15, 2011 1:11 AM GMT
    first of all, you have a bf. secondly, jake has one too. why would you risk losing a perfectly good guy for someone who has a bf? that is stupid
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    Jun 15, 2011 1:12 AM GMT
    This sounds like a 12 year old boy story. Grow up!
  • Sk8Tex

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    Jun 15, 2011 1:18 AM GMT
    Trojo805 said
    Gaydar saidYou're a fucking tool. Do your boyfriend a favor and dump him so he can find a man worth a shit.

    You're a home wrecker and about as shallow as piss on concrete.


    Hahah...great feedback.


    +2
  • builtofbrick

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    Jun 15, 2011 1:22 AM GMT
    on the bright side you wont be adding anything to our species gene pool.

    what a douche!
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    Jun 15, 2011 1:30 AM GMT
    utah2000 said

    We can call him Jake.

    we’ll call him Nick.


    Can we call them Dylan and Caleb? I like those names better.
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    Jun 15, 2011 1:33 AM GMT
    First of all, why do you have to come out to your sister for her to introduce you to Jake? That sounds strange.

    The only logical thing you can hope to do is meet Jake and possibly become casual friends. If things happen down the road, fine, but in the meantime your fantasizing is unrealistic and damaging your current relationship.

    It is very unfair to compare your bf to an ideal that may not be real if you got to know him.
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    Jun 15, 2011 1:34 AM GMT
    hangulmal saidEveryone, back off!

    To OP, you see, you have to understand that some gay guys on here are lonely and desperate to have a boyfriend that they lash out on you who obviously already has a 8/10 boyfriend.

    I understand what you are going through and I am not here to judge you. People have the right to choose what they want and you can't really choose whom you are attracted to. But, I do hope that you give Nick the respect he deserves which is, if you decide to approach Jake, apologize and break up with Nick first before you do anything. He deserves that. Don't TRY to get together with Jake behind Nick's back and only has it not worked out with Jake, you decide to get back with Nick. I believe Nick deserves more than that. Be a man and make a choice. Don't be a streotypical flaky gay guys who lie and cheat behind their partner's back.

    Back to reality, there is a high chance that things will not work out well with jake because you have alot of obstacles in front of you. I am sure you've already known that.

    Here are a constructive tips:

    1. Make Jake aware of the fact that you are gay
    2. Make your sister aware of the fact that you are gay because she will wonder why you have taken a sudden interest in Jake.
    3. Tell the truth to Nick, he deserves a guy who loves him wholeheartedly, I'm sure you know that already. Sometimes, honesty is the best policy. He will thank you in the long run for you sincere honesty.
    4. Try to get to know Jake more, maybe he has changed since he has been in college. People do change, maybe you will realize that he's not really that attractive once you really get to know hiim. He may be hot but his personality might rub you the wrong way. OR you might like him even more after getting to know him. In any case,...
    5. Best of luck, I really do hope that you get Jake.


    Can you not give the guy terribad advice?

    Also, why is a faceless guy telling us we can't get boyfriends?
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    Jun 15, 2011 1:54 AM GMT
    Thank you to those who have refrained from calling me such terrible names or implied that I am on drugs.

    Please remember, just as I don’t know Jake, you don’t know me. I am scared and confused, and have written out my most embarrassing thoughts in hope that I can figure out what to do.
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    Jun 15, 2011 1:57 AM GMT
    Your parents should have brought you up with enough morality to know what to do without consulting us.
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    Jun 15, 2011 2:05 AM GMT
    You can do whatever- tell your sister that you were talking to this dude at location x about subject y and you caught his name and that he knew her or something like that, but for the love of god, don't break them up. That's the worst thing you can do, and frankly it's risky enough to backfire to the point where on top of ruining a couple's happiness, you may have lost a potential friend in the process. If you have to interact with him, stay friends.
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    Jun 15, 2011 2:11 AM GMT
    lol we all want the hottest guy we can get but seriously you are going outlandishly far with this. your boy nick sounds like a great guy and jake is just a fantasy. grow up man! seriously have some respect for yourself and for your relationships. lol uve never talked with jake first of all!

    i did something very similarly to this and well i fell for the oh hes got a bf thing cuz fb said so. guess what? it was a whole fucking joke and the friendship i could have had iwth the guy was quickly ended because he was freaked out.
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    Jun 15, 2011 2:24 AM GMT
    Ok, I would advise you to stop thinking about just yourself in this situation and stop thinking about whats in all this for you yourself alone... you're not the only person in the world mate, thats all I have to say about it.... and what goes around .. comes around ...

    "Do onto others...." plain and simple