Have you ever felt it like this?

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    Jun 16, 2011 1:25 PM GMT
    I do not understand , sometime i will just feel kinda depressed for no reason,and really hope to meet a guy i could be with. but after couples of weeks, i do not feel much like that.. and then the feeling comes to me ,and then leave me ,,,,
    Anyone has the same problem?
    just curious .
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    Jun 16, 2011 2:35 PM GMT
    Everyone, regardless of orientation, goes through periods of mild depression for a number of reasons... hormonal, social, crisis, loss, career related....etc. I think that as a young gay man, you're probably going through some isolation or self worth issues and during the times where you think you're looking for bf to be with, you're really looking to be rescued. You're hoping that if you meet this guy, you won't be lonely or bored anymore and things will go on from there. Then you go through a period where maybe you don't feel so vulnerable and during that time, you no longer "need" a guy. These are all just assumptions based on the limited information in your post.

    Eitherway, if you EVER feel depressed, talk to a counselor. Sometimes it helps just to have a 3rd party acknowledge your thoughts and help you gain perspective - which is huge. Maybe you can knock it out in 1-2 sessions, or you could choose to go longer. I think the other thing that is super important is finding things to do to occupy your time and thoughts (working out, volunteer, hobbies, join a group/club, bartending, golf lessons). Good luck.
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    Jun 16, 2011 2:40 PM GMT
    Do I get depressed sometimes? yes. For the reasons you gave, no.
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    Jun 16, 2011 3:04 PM GMT

    Manic-Depressive? Bi-Polar? Multiple Personality Disorder??
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    Jun 16, 2011 4:55 PM GMT
    As long as you don't have those feelings during a relationship, you'll be ok. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 16, 2011 6:06 PM GMT
    In Arabic we call it "Faragh Atefi" exactly translated as "Emotional Emptiness or Void" i dunno the scientific English term but ur having a certain void and being gay u think that a man will fill. Well in fact, anything can fill this void, a song, a friend, a family member and anything that gives u a 0.01% attention. Just live ur life man, and everything will come to you, don't go running after illusions...
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    Jun 16, 2011 6:25 PM GMT
    1. You need Jesus.

    2. You may get in heat from time to time.

    3. You are horny, just u feel ackward to sayicon_smile.gif

    4. I am kidding ;P
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    Jun 16, 2011 7:03 PM GMT

    danlees saidsometime i will just feel kinda depressed for no reason,and really hope to meet a guy i could be with.


    You feel...depressed...when you think about meeting a guy. ...Welcome to being queer! Because that's queer; why would anyone feel that? Don't ask, there is no answer. Just don't waste your money on a shrink. She'll just go to shaking her head and say" this isn't a disorder of the kind I can help....this guy is queer... icon_confused.gif ...I can't "help" him." Ok, you feeeeeel; it ebs and it flows: welcome to being human...and queer.

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    Jun 16, 2011 7:21 PM GMT
    You established (or rather communicated) depression with a need to find a man.

    Before even suggesting talking to someone about it, I would be curious to find out the level of balance of the other aspects of your life in relation with your desire to find companionship.

    Many people have this crazy target on finding a man.. they tend to not have many friends or feel sad or lonely. Truth is, when your life is in a state of good equilibrium.. the other components can often compensate for intermittent dips.

    I have many friends who often share with me, how they feel lonely, depressed, unattractive, and have this feeling of emptiness. They spend great effort trying to find someone 'to make them happy' .. Often, they don't have many friends, little hobbies, don't like work etc.. they are looking for the magic pill.

    You can talk to someone about feeling lonely about being single, but that won't resolve the issue.

    It's all about balance.