WTF is wrong with me: Why did I never have a problem getting a boyfriend?

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    Jun 16, 2011 6:35 PM GMT
    Ever since I was 17ish it seemed like I always had a boyfriend and from being on this site now for awhile apparently there is something really fucking wrong with me compared to a lot of posters. Hell I'm not even that good looking. I"d say I was average in looks but super skinny back then and a big nose. I met my first bf who was much much older than me,, yeah I was chicken and he was an older chicken hawk but our year and half together was great and I sort of knew it wouldn't last and then I went off to 1st yr college and we ended it. The next summer, I was 19, I took off out west with my best friends and landed in Vancouver. Within about 3 weeks of arriving and getting a job I met this really handsome guy at the club. He was about 3 years older than me.. did I say handsome, yes. WTF he saw in me I don't know but anyways we dated for about 8-9 months and he needed to find a new apartment and asked me if I'd like to move in with him which I did. He was a super sweet guy, a federal prison guard actually but an alcoholic. I had never met an alcoholic before him so didn't really know what I was getting into when we decided to live together.. long story short it came to an end after about 3 years and I moved out. We've always kept in touch all these years even it it's just a phone call once a year etc. ...
    It was probably a couple of months after him that I was boyfriendless but I was busy with my 3 jobs one of which was bussing at a gay club on weekends. I got invited to a party one night and it was there that I met another great guy and we went out together for perhaps 2 years, we didn't live together and split amicably, wasn't in the cards I guess. So there I was once again after nearly two years, boyfriendless again for a month or two until one night I went to a leather/levi affair at a club and ran into this great guy and we hit it off quite well from the get go. We probably dated for around a year and a half, had fun going to Seattle and Portland levi and leather shindigs etc. but he was more into that than I was and eventually our relationship fizzled and we split amicably yet still keep in contact as well all these years later.
    It must have been come Christmas/NY's because I went out with an older couple I knew for NY's eve and spent the night at their place. The next day we're nursing our hangovers when another friend of theirs drops over, I didn't know him but it was like love at first sight and we began dating, the bastards still here 25 years later. What am I doing wrong.
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    Jun 16, 2011 9:56 PM GMT
    so the point of the post was to brag about having a boyfriend?

    and to ask what the problem with you is because you've never had a problem getting a boyfriend?

    What a lameass post.

    So with that, I'll say, maybe you got lucky? or maybe you're desperate and have settled? You'd be the only one to know.
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    Jun 16, 2011 9:58 PM GMT
    LOL. I think it's just a pisstake. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 16, 2011 10:29 PM GMT
    Yep, I don't get it either.
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    Jun 16, 2011 10:35 PM GMT
    running11 saidso the point of the post was to brag about having a boyfriend?

    and to ask what the problem with you is because you've never had a problem getting a boyfriend?

    What a lameass post.

    So with that, I'll say, maybe you got lucky? or maybe you're desperate and have settled? You'd be the only one to know.


    ^^ I was thinking the same thing lol
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    Jun 16, 2011 10:39 PM GMT
    Vancouverite2004 saidLOL. I think it's just a pisstake. icon_biggrin.gif


    I guess at least one guy seems to understand irony here ;)
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    Jun 16, 2011 10:40 PM GMT
    I think it's sarcasm about the endless 'I'll never get a boyfriend, nobody likes me. all men are awful' threads.

    So I'll give an answer to all those threads of those saying they want to be coupled but there are no good men out there. There are plenty of good men out there. Sooner or later you just gotta admit, 'It's not them. It's you." Instead of just blaming it on all the men out there, look at yourself and see what you are doing wrong.
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    Jun 16, 2011 10:52 PM GMT
    So you played the field and had no problem. You eventually met a special person. You have spent 25 years together. You feel you are average looking but you must have something. Your boyfriend obviously likes you. Surely you know where you are by now. Have you both considered moving on to a new level like a real committment. A civil union, marriage or whatever legal status that is available in your country. Forget about playing the field if you don't have to. Consider yourself lucky and settle down and enjoy life man as a couple. Get on with it. There are alot out there would be happy to have a relationship that has lasted 25/years.
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    Jun 16, 2011 11:02 PM GMT
    So...what is ur point exactly? coffeehcw9.gif
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    Jun 16, 2011 11:04 PM GMT
    running11 saidso the point of the post was to brag about having a boyfriend?

    and to ask what the problem with you is because you've never had a problem getting a boyfriend?

    What a lameass post.

    So with that, I'll say, maybe you got lucky? or maybe you're desperate and have settled? You'd be the only one to know.



    tell it like it is brother
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    Jun 16, 2011 11:05 PM GMT
    Iceblink saidI think it's sarcasm about the endless 'I'll never get a boyfriend, nobody likes me. all men are awful' threads.

    So I'll give an answer to all those threads of those saying they want to be coupled but there are no good men out there. There are plenty of good men out there. Sooner or later you just gotta admit, 'It's not them. It's you." Instead of just blaming it on all the men out there, look at yourself and see what you are doing wrong.



    Thankfully not everyone here is so thick, I was starting to get worried icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 16, 2011 11:07 PM GMT
    luvitohateit saidSo...what is ur point exactly? coffeehcw9.gif


    great now I know I m gonna be forever alone. Woe is me!
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    Jun 16, 2011 11:10 PM GMT
    crazyman83 said
    Vancouverite2004 saidLOL. I think it's just a pisstake. icon_biggrin.gif


    I guess at least one guy seems to understand irony here ;)


    icon_biggrin.gif ur sneaky random posts, like quaint, well hidden, unexpected gifts! I'm looking forward to finding more mr B.E.! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jun 16, 2011 11:15 PM GMT

    You're beeing punny. t-1369-1420.jpg
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    Jun 16, 2011 11:20 PM GMT
    beneful1 saidEver since I was 17ish it seemed like I always had a boyfriend and from being on this site now for awhile apparently there is something really fucking wrong with me compared to a lot of posters. Hell I'm not even that good looking. I"d say I was average in looks but super skinny back then and a big nose. I met my first bf who was much much older than me,, yeah I was chicken and he was an older chicken hawk but our year and half together was great and I sort of knew it wouldn't last and then I went off to 1st yr college and we ended it. The next summer, I was 19, I took off out west with my best friends and landed in Vancouver. Within about 3 weeks of arriving and getting a job I met this really handsome guy at the club. He was about 3 years older than me.. did I say handsome, yes. WTF he saw in me I don't know but anyways we dated for about 8-9 months and he needed to find a new apartment and asked me if I'd like to move in with him which I did. He was a super sweet guy, a federal prison guard actually but an alcoholic. I had never met an alcoholic before him so didn't really know what I was getting into when we decided to live together.. long story short it came to an end after about 3 years and I moved out. We've always kept in touch all these years even it it's just a phone call once a year etc. ...
    It was probably a couple of months after him that I was boyfriendless but I was busy with my 3 jobs one of which was bussing at a gay club on weekends. I got invited to a party one night and it was there that I met another great guy and we went out together for perhaps 2 years, we didn't live together and split amicably, wasn't in the cards I guess. So there I was once again after nearly two years, boyfriendless again for a month or two until one night I went to a leather/levi affair at a club and ran into this great guy and we hit it off quite well from the get go. We probably dated for around a year and a half, had fun going to Seattle and Portland levi and leather shindigs etc. but he was more into that than I was and eventually our relationship fizzled and we split amicably yet still keep in contact as well all these years later.
    It must have been come Christmas/NY's because I went out with an older couple I knew for NY's eve and spent the night at their place. The next day we're nursing our hangovers when another friend of theirs drops over, I didn't know him but it was like love at first sight and we began dating, the bastards still here 25 years later. What am I doing wrong.


    Oh poor you! If I have a dollar every time I read this kind of story....

    ...........I would have $1.00
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    Jun 16, 2011 11:21 PM GMT
    black_panther saidSo you played the field and had no problem. You eventually met a special person. You have spent 25 years together. You feel you are average looking but you must have something. Your boyfriend obviously likes you. Surely you know where you are by now. Have you both considered moving on to a new level like a real committment. A civil union, marriage or whatever legal status that is available in your country. Forget about playing the field if you don't have to. Consider yourself lucky and settle down and enjoy life man as a couple. Get on with it. There are alot out there would be happy to have a relationship that has lasted 25/years.


    On marriage or civil union.. No we aren't going there since our relationship is legally considered common-law here there aren't really any benefits to us being married. Everything we have is jointly owned, house, company, pension/insurance plans etc.
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    Jun 16, 2011 11:40 PM GMT
    my head started to ache icon_confused.gif what was the problem(or not?)?
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    Jun 16, 2011 11:43 PM GMT
    Guys on here go on and on about not having boyfriends but when they are surrounded by Mr. Rights they admit that they say absolutely nothing to convey their interest to the guy of their affection.

    This guy obvious just communicates his desires avoiding the dramas and heatbreal of being pathological shy.
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    Jun 17, 2011 12:19 AM GMT
    cold saidIn your view, why do you think you've been so successful?


    Hell I wish I knew and I'd sell it on here. It was in all just a thread countering the numerous "woe is me'ing, can't find a boyfriend" posts that pop up on here almost daily that are not all attributable to the infamous ones of ac2394. All I ever did was go out, have fun at the clubs etc. I was in fact quite shy and very self-conscious about my looks being so skinny and all. I never made the first move from fear of rejection as well. Still in all some nights but not everynight by all means some guy would eventually come over and strike up a conversation and you just take it from there really. Of course I/you aren't going to hit it off with everyone that comes over to chat you up but that's all part of the dating game.. Whining about it doesn't help. Get out there and go for it. Sitting at home trying to find Mr. Right on the puter and thru texting ain't gonna work imho at least not as well.
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    Jun 17, 2011 12:27 AM GMT
    running11 saidso the point of the post was to brag about having a boyfriend?

    and to ask what the problem with you is because you've never had a problem getting a boyfriend?

    What a lameass post.

    So with that, I'll say, maybe you got lucky? or maybe you're desperate and have settled? You'd be the only one to know.



    You need a little brushup on your sarcasm detector guy. You say in your profile you have a dry and sarcastic sense of humor.. yet you can't detect it in others?.. to be blunt, not so good. But I'll give you a pass this time since you're only 22 LOL
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    Jun 17, 2011 12:37 AM GMT
    Iceblink said... but there are no good men out there. There are plenty of good men out there...'It's not them. It's you." Instead of just blaming it on all the men out there, look at yourself and see what you are doing wrong.
    and there we go ... plain English.
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    Jun 17, 2011 12:37 AM GMT
    multiple relationships having ended is a success???


    i'd say avoiding all the shitty alcoholics etc. has been a success.


    who gives a fuck
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    Jun 17, 2011 1:09 AM GMT



    Lol, great post in order to make the point you're making, Beneful1.

    In all fairness times were a tad different. There was no easily available internet. The 'puters were at work; tiny screens with green font on a black background. There was only the telephone, and anything long distance was about a dollar a minute. We were stuck with the post office and publicly socializing.

    There was only one thing I found missing from your missive. Not once in any romantic liason did you ever mention a whiff or an iota of heartache. Not one failed relationship affected you?

    (dayum, I keep thinking you and I know each other from them dayz - wouldn't that be a hoot?)

    -Doug
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    Jun 17, 2011 1:10 AM GMT
    rosco87 saidmultiple relationships having ended is a success???


    i'd say avoiding all the shitty alcoholics etc. has been a success.


    who gives a fuck


    ????

    I had a few (4) boyfriends over my younger years and dates off and on, it's a normal part of growing up . Heck you may have to have 10 boyfriends before you find Mr. Right, You go out with someone and over time you learn whether or not the two of you are going to be compatible in the future. What's so negative about that?
    If it doesn't work out it doesn't work out and hopefully you part ways amicably. .I always did..
    Only one of those 4 turned in to a live in relationship and that failed because he couldn't stop drinking.
    Boyfriend Number 5 was the charmer and come to think of it I'd have probably never have met him had I not gone out with Number 2 (the drunk) who intro'd me to his friends , the same friends who a couple of years later I was visiting with on that fateful NY Eve when my then to be life partner showed up at their door.

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    Jun 17, 2011 1:22 AM GMT
    What's a boyfriend? Do you have to feed it?